What’s your view on swearing at/infront of your DC’s?

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Today I witnessed a mother shouting at her young child (2/3) “sit down or you will not get any f fruitshoot” whilst loading her shopping into her car.

I actually asked her to mind her language as I was walking with my two young DC’s but.. is this common?

Are parents ok with swearing at/infront of their DC’s? A few people I know do.. am I the minority?!

not a judgement thread! Just would like to hear opinions!

No I disagree. Her child was in the car but stood up watching her put the shopping away. The mother grit her teeth together and shouted it very aggressively, it was abusive and nothing will justify ever speaking to a child like that it’s disgusting and it’s wrong. There’s a difference but I validate your opinion x

my eldest is 7 so yes she would and my youngest is nearly 3 and repeats everything

She was shouting hence I heard it. It was abusive.. I witnessed this at the end of the day I know what I saw and it was wrong. So if you saw a mum gritting her teeth in her little girls face shouting sit down or you won’t get a fucking fruitshoot, you’d think aw that poor mum? And it’s justified because she is potentially stressed which my god we all are at times?

no way - that poor innocent child! God knows what goes on at home.

thats the end of that

I won’t be posting on this thread again!

thank you for all the replies but I cannot accept anyone justifying such abusive behaviour because it sounds like a mother was stressed. I was there, I know what I saw and heard, and I heard it because it was shouting not under her breath. So no I will never stand for any form of child abuse! Swear under your breath or accidentally slip a swear word at your child because your stressed - fine I wouldn’t bat an eyelid and it happens but to shout AT your child whilst they are literally watching you in the car put shopping away and grit your teeth aggressively whilst swearing at the little tot is something I will never accept! It’s aggressive it’s unacceptable and who knows what happens behind closed doors. Thanks again x

Yes I swear when talking to other people and my dc are nearby. I don't generally swear when taking to them though and def. don't call them names or insult them etc but I say things like, "For fuck's sake!" when I'm annoyed with them.

Swearing at a child is horrible. I have occasionally accidentally sworn in front of DS but I don't think swearing in front of children is great.

Never at. Definitely in front of.
DC (teens) occasionally swear in front of me but they know to never to do it infront of Grandma!

Before I was a parent I once saw a child about 6yo, playing hide and seek it with his dad.
He poked his head out from a bush and yelled 'Oi you! Wanker!' at his dad, in a glorious west country accent. Then he legged it.

It was hilarious, with excellent comedy timing. His dad looked a bit sheepish but still laughed.

When did it ever become a question about whether that is okay? Of course it isn’t. Model the behaviour you expect from them. Do you want kids who swear?

Swearing at a child is very different to swearing Infront of a child.

I would have judged the mum, it doest matter what she's been going through, she is the adult, she needs to control herself and not be aggressive Infront and towards her child. It wouldn't be ok for a teacher or child care professional to lose their shit like that with a whole group of children and I don't believe you get special privileges to verbally abused your child because you made them.

I never swear Infront of or shout at my child either, if I feel overwhelmed I give myself a time out to calm down to deal with the situation in a better way.

I wouldn't have commented to the mother though as you are just likely to make the situation worse.

I swear a lot, always have, no fucks given
It cathartic

The first time DD14 ever wanted to swear we are at the top of the Superman roller coaster on the Gold Coast and she turns to me as we race to top 'mum can i swear'
I laugh and say 'sure'
Next second 'oh my fucking god shhhhiiiiitttttt fucking hell' the whole way round
She was 12
We still laugh about it

She rarely swears, when she does, no issue for me. Usually in frustration or on a rollercoaster
When she told her bully who tried to trick or treat at our house to 'fuck off you fucking fat cunt' i laughed. He had tormented her and he tried to get free lollies from us? Ha no chance kid

Dont care
swearing has a place in excitement, frustration, anger
Its cathartic