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Tight or normal?

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Greyat · 09/04/2024 15:45

I spend quite a bit of time at social things where we're buying rounds or either teas or drinks. I don't mind at all, I think it's swings and roundabouts and over a lifetime ill have accepted the same number of drinks as I've bought, even if they're not all for the same people. However, I do notice the people who never step up!

I recently went on a thing organised by a volunteer. Just three of us went to the pub afterwards, the (male) volunteer, me and another man. I said I'll get these as we approached the bar and I was very happy to do so. The volunteer and I with had a pint of beer, the other man had a small coke, all good.

When it came to the next round the coke man bought it. Now, in my circles you don't let a non drinker buy drinks and it should have been the volunteer's round, but maybe as acknowledgement for his volunteering, that's OK?

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Lorelaigilmore88 · 09/04/2024 15:49

Hmm so he accepted two alcoholic drinks and didn't get a round in? Slightly tight.
But I guess it does depend on the nature of his volunteer work - is it something that's a hobby for everyone and he does a significant amount of planning and organising that benefits the wider group? I'd be less bothered about buying him the odd drink that he doesn't reciprocate in that situation....

Kimmeridge · 09/04/2024 15:52

I dont think it's fair to call him tight. The non drinker just stepped up first. Cant see anything wrong with that. Presumably you weren't staying long enough for a 3rd round

If I was on soft drinks I wouldn't assume I didn't have to take my turn

Greyat · 09/04/2024 16:42

Kimmeridge · 09/04/2024 15:52

I dont think it's fair to call him tight. The non drinker just stepped up first. Cant see anything wrong with that. Presumably you weren't staying long enough for a 3rd round

If I was on soft drinks I wouldn't assume I didn't have to take my turn

No, it wasn't that, we all sat with empty glasses for a bit, so much so that I almost got a second.

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