Family stopping over

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DM and DSDad moved away a few years back. Since then they visit about 6 times a year for 4 - 5 nights, and bring their dog.

We both work full time and each evening we have some multiple classes for us and DD 11.

Starting to find it draining juggling it all when they visit but do wonder whether I should make the most of it while they are around. They've asked to come up again and I don't think I can do the 4 nights. Tbh, feel like crying! Am perimenopausual too and everything feels so complicated.

Ask them to stay in a hotel or an Airbnb. Be honest with your mum and tell her you're overwhelmed right now and having guests and a dog in the house is too much right now.

That sounds a lot! Could you ask that they just come for 2 nights? How well do you get on?

What do you mean by "while they're around"?

Or like Aquamarine says 😄

We get on well. They can't afford a hotel. DMs health isn't great.

Well, would 2 nights be more doable for you? Does your husband help?

Can they help out with some of the taxiing children around to their various classes? Could you suggest they cook an evening meal every other night? My own parents live 400 miles away and consequently always visit for around a week, but dad cracks on in the garden and mum will polish the house from top to bottom, do a yard of ironing and make the children their lunchboxes for the next day.

Tell them you are struggling and ask if they can help.