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Daughter fell and Social services now involved

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any009 · 22/03/2024 19:30

please help I’m so worried. My daughter fell off sofa last night while I turned my back for two seconds. She was perfectly fine after 2 minutes but I panicked about her going to sleep so I called 111 just to get some advice. They said everything sounds okay and she is aloud to go sleep but someone would ring me within two hours.

someone called within 30 mins to ask me to bring her in at 3:30am for a face to face appointment. I explained it’s not really necessary for me to wake her up in middle of the night and let her wait for ages in hospital when she’s fine. I asked if it’s ok for me to just take her to go they said it’s up to me.

so I woke up in the morning to call gp and while I was on the phone social services called me. I answered and she asked why I hadn’t taken her to hospital when it was advised but I said she was perfectly fine I just panicked and rang 111 for some advice. She said she is deeply concerned and I have to take her to doctors asap to make sure she’s okay I said I’m in the middle of that so that’s fine.

20 mins later social services are knocking at my door asking to assess my daughter. They checked her body for bruises marks or anything but she had nothing and was perfectly fine like I told them. I then went to the gp and the doctor ALSO said she is perfectly fine and he will put this in the notes.

social services called back to asked what doctor said I told them he said she is well and fine and they said okay will do another visit soon.

I’m so scared and worried my daughter is going to get taken off me I’ve been crying all day it’s all I can think about. Has anyone got any advice? Will they take this further?

OP posts:
OrlandointheWilderness · 25/03/2024 09:15

They won't take her off you OP but you really should've taken her in - google shouldn't replace an actual medical professional who physically sees your child.

angela1952 · 25/03/2024 11:00

crumblingschools · 22/03/2024 19:35

Many people get contacted by S&S when a child has been to A&E (or I suppose in your case referred to them). It doesn’t mean your child will be taken off you. It’s just part of a process.

I have four children (now adults) and once had three of them in A&E over a period of a fortnight. I had a call and investigation by a health visitor to check what was happening but she backed off once she realised that two of the accidents had happened at school. I didn't mind the intervention, the accidents could have been down to somebody in our family.

angela1952 · 25/03/2024 11:03

JustJessi · 24/03/2024 19:41

In my experience, ANY call to 111 results in advice to go to GP or a walk in centre. I think they just want to cover their backs 🤷🏼‍♀️ when you get to A&E, you sit there for 12 hours and then get told you’re fine. IMHO there is absolutely no point in calling 111.

Yes, this. I've always been advised to see a doctor or go to A&E, except during lockdown when they got a GP to call me back and he prescribed antibiotics to be picked up from the local chemist.

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Julimia · 25/03/2024 13:29

Oh this is awful for you. I would suggest you get back in touch with your gp for support and help. SS are testing you to cover their own backs yet often miss genuine cases of neglect, abuse, n/a injury etc. Take care.

Blueink · 25/03/2024 16:36

JustJessi · 24/03/2024 19:41

In my experience, ANY call to 111 results in advice to go to GP or a walk in centre. I think they just want to cover their backs 🤷🏼‍♀️ when you get to A&E, you sit there for 12 hours and then get told you’re fine. IMHO there is absolutely no point in calling 111.

Not helpful to discourage a parent from seeking medical advice and relying on their interpretation of an internet search for reassurance.

A baby isn’t going to have to wait 12 hours in A&E to be checked over after a fall.

Grammarnut · 04/04/2024 14:11

Wow. My son fell off the bed when he was 8 months or so. I did not call a doctor and doubt I mentioned it to my health visitor either. He was fine - mid-forties now with two children. Babies roll off things all the time. If they cry for a long time or something seems wrong (you'll know) then call the doctor. Why is everyone now so panicky?

SaffronSpice · 05/04/2024 12:55

Grammarnut · 04/04/2024 14:11

Wow. My son fell off the bed when he was 8 months or so. I did not call a doctor and doubt I mentioned it to my health visitor either. He was fine - mid-forties now with two children. Babies roll off things all the time. If they cry for a long time or something seems wrong (you'll know) then call the doctor. Why is everyone now so panicky?

We didn’t wear seatbelts in the car when we grew up and I didn’t die so it must be fine.

JJboo · 21/01/2025 22:14

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