Regretting fertility reading from a psychic (I’m an idiot)

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Hi lovely MN,

Im prepared for a roasting here and being told I’m stupid but I’m really anxious and need some sense knocked into me!

I had a miscarriage back in December and it was traumatic. I was fragile so had a ‘psychic’ reading with a well known psychic about my fertility. I am massively regretting this!

I was told it would take a long time to have a baby (few years) and that there are issues with my womb lining and hormones. Doctors will need to look at you and I must go to a specialist…not sure what specialist.

other stuff was said which I found sort of comforting at the time like you will have a baby boy and it will happen when it’s meant to be.

Fast forward to the start of March and I conceived and now just over 4 weeks pregnant.

i am so worried and I can’t shake the horrible feeling that my womb lining isn’t right for the baby and I’ll have another mc. On top of this I haven’t seen any specialists because we fell pregnant again the first time we tried.

The psychic has amazing reviews, has been on tv however fertility readings are of course for the vulnerable.

I am embarrassed but cannot stop worrying because of what she said 😓

please knock some sense into me! X

It’s all absolute bulls*it. If you need support emotionally, spend your money on a professional counsellor.

All psychics are either self-deluded or frauds. It’s all bullshit.

I was told by a psychic that I or someone close to me would have fertility problems. No issues so far! She mentioned the name of the hospital which has a fertility unit, but I actually gave birth there instead! So maybe she misinterpreted the message.

I totally get why you did it. We seek comfort in the most bizarre places at times. Please look into how psychics work. They're very persuasive. Darren Brown has some great videos on how they apply these tricks and why we are susceptible. Don't beat yourself up. But finding the truth and how these people work will help you to see more clearly. You will worry during pregnancy but don't let this be an added worry!

Total nonsense. Nasty, fear mongering, profiteering nonsense. Not harmless at all. I can't imagine looking a worried woman in the face and making up a nasty disease to worry her with.

If it makes you feel better though, tell yourself the mysterious womb lining issue has healed.

Ps I'm very sorry for your previous loss and I hope this pg goes smoothly

This is why "psychics" are so insidious, they deliberately prey on the very vulnerable. Absolutely awful to put this nonsense into the head of a recently bereaved person.

I'm sorry for your previous loss and wishing you the best for this pregnancy. If you can, maybe see a counsellor to talk through your worries. And remind yourself that this woman was not a doctor or medical professional and had absolutely no business telling you anything about your body or health.

Listen to Fake Psychic on BBC sounds

So sorry to hear about your first miscarriage. I guess every time you think about what the psychic said you could remind yourself that everyone gets things wrong (even if they are well known and respected). Congratulations on your pregnancy though and try to enjoy the little joy inside you!

What a load of fucking nonsense that woman is! If she were right, people would be seeing her instead of GPs and the NHS would be accepting gynae & obs referrals from her to free up time for GPs. You need to think about how you handle emotional stress and about how you make yourself less vulnerable to unpleasant or predatory behavior when feeling fragile. Otherwise, if you and your DP break up you'll be back here telling us how your special forces surgeon bf has a million pound transfer stuck and all you need to do is raise £20k to help him out! I'm sorry you're feeling so tense OP.

Absolute scum preying on an emotionally vulnerable woman.

Best wishes to you OP.

You have nothing to regret. You were vulnerable, understandably so. Someone preyed on your vulnerability, profited from you by making up a bunch of stuff about you. They should be the ones to regret their actions, not you.

A friend went to a fortune teller once at a fair. She was told she'd have a very lonely life and she felt awful afterwards. But she's now happily married with 3 kids. So it's obviously nonsense.

It's a load of bollocks. Take no notice of it OP.

It's absolute crap, every bit of it.

There are some that truly believe they have an ability, and some that know they don't and carry on regardless, but the vast majority don't give health or fertility readings, so it seems you've chosen a particularly money grabbing one.

What psychic would be getting messages about womb linings, honestly, it's ridiculous.

Congrats on the pregnancy 💐

Psychics talk shit.

Here's the thing...if someone comes to them for a fertility reading, it's pretty obvious that they are having problems

Now if they say it will take years, and you get pregnant in weeks, you will know their reading was bullshit but you won't care because you'll be so happy about being pregnant.

If they say you'll get pregnant very soon and you don't, you'll realise their reading was bullshit and be upset/angry with them.

They are frauds preying on the vulnerable, OP. The only time I was misguided enough to go to one, about 30 years ago, I was at a very low point in the aftermath of an accident, unemployed and directionless. Not only did not a single thing she told me ever come true, she also somehow failed to see I was about to win a major international scholarship and move abroad to study at a prestigious institution. Don’t give it an instant of headspace.

For what it’s worth, my actual fertility consultant told me I had less than a 5% chance of ever getting and staying pregnant. I’m now 31 weeks pregnant with my miracle. That’s from a medical professional, so quite what a self certified ‘psychic’ can bring to the table is beyond me! They’re a scam!

I mean if they really knew about your womb lining, the NHS would be employing them rather than using actual diagnostic equipment with the results analysed by doctors who have studied medicine for the better part of a decade.

Psychics are lying fraudsters. All of them.

Repeat this spell ten times a day and you will feel better:

They are not a psychic, they are a cynical person who peddles nonsense to vulnerable people for money.

Psychics. Know. Nothing. About. You. Or. Anything. Else.

They use general knowledge and slyness to give the impression that they know things. They absolutely feed and thrive off people who are in distress and not able to see them clearly for what they are - charlatans.

Write down some things about the psychic experience then rip it up or burn it and put it out of mind and focus on living your life.

Only fertility doctors are placed to advise you on fertility (and even they don’t know everything). I know several women who had miscarriages and went on to have successful pregnancies and lovely children.

Hello everyone,

THANK YOU! ❤️
I have read every single response and this has made me feel so much better.
i actually had a good laugh at some of the comments 😊
especially thinking that if she was so great surely the NHS would employ her 😂

thank you also for sharing your experiences and how your psychic readings were bollocks and being kind and compassionate.
i feel a total idiot for ever getting a reading and putting myself in this position x

After seeing one of these people everyone should write down everything they say.

You'll forget the 95% that's shit and remember the one thing that came true.

If someone came to me for a love reading, I would say they are having problems, but they will work it through and it will be fine, there's someone else there that is affair potential but nothing will happen. That would probably fit 80% of people going for love reading.

Same as you with the fertility reading, she's covered her bases by saying you'll struggle (because why would you go if you weren't struggling) so if something awful happens she has 'warned' you, when things go right you will be so delighted you won't even care hat she said anymore.

I'm very sorry for your previous loss and wish you every happiness with your pregnancy, OP.

Psychic readings really are nothing but nonsense - please try and put it out of your mind.

We went on a family day out to Brighton once and, just for a change of pace, DH agreed to have his palm read by a "psychic" lady at a street stall while I and our two young-teen DCs stood politely by and listened to her spiel.

It was 95% generalised nonsense that could have applied to half the population of the UK, and towards the end she assured him she could see "the possibility of another baby" in his future.

She seemed gratified that DH and I exchanged a knowing glance. Clearly she wasn't gifted enough to pick up on the fact that we were both recollecting the vasectomy he'd had ten years earlier...