When’s the right time for sex?

[Lilllypad11]

When you’re seeing someone as a female, how long as a rule of thumb do you wait. Realistically, I think guys do lose interest if you do it too fast.

so what are your thoughts?

We had sex on our first date. Now married for 20 years.

Late afternoons.

My goodness don’t you ever only ask this is your a late teen , young adult. Who gives a flying flip.

I have done it when I felt comfortable and really excited to be with my date. Even if it wasn't full sex, I base it on my chemistry and desire for the other person.

Whenever you both want to. That's it.

When you want to

Thing is, guys lose interest when you give them what they want early on don’t they?

The good ones don't.

Same! Never had a thing about holding out if I wanted it. Different if you don't want it and are doing it for them/other reasons.

So hard to know as well. You just end up having to do it to figure it out as well

Thing is, guys lose interest when you give them what they want early on don’t they?

Well then you're into game-playing and for me those are the wrong relationships anyway. If you can't be yourself with them, don't go there.

When you want to? This thread will be full of people claiming they slept with their husband on the first date and now been married 100 years but realistically most times you sleep with someone on the first night it won't go anywhere and if you notice those people have been married for years and years, dating is different now a days and men are spoilt for choice especially with old they have a sweet shop mentality and it's far easier to get quick and easy sex for men these days that it's less likely to be turn into anything meaningful and more likely to be ghosted, the posters married for 20 years aren't dating in a time of OLD. I personally won't sleep with anyone on the first date but I don't have a "rule" and won't be rushing into anything.

You’re the first rational answer. How long would you wait? As a general?

I would wait 5 dates or so at least if I was serious about them and wanted a possible relationship with them

Agree with what @TuliLily has said!

It varies from who you are seeing doesn't it? If you think he's the type to disappear after sex I wouldn't bother . Maybe sooner if you both really get on and love the company of each other .

The first rational answer? Despite the majority telling you exactly the same thing?

No the others aren’t saying the same. It’s that they married each other after banging on date 1. We all know guys are gone after that. What exactly do they have to work for at that point?

You’re the first rational answer.

Charming! Don't think there's anything irrational about the others just because you disagree. Will leave you to your solipsism.

Nope. I 'banged' my partner of 15 years on the first date also.

It has nothing to do with when you have sex. Nothing. You could screw him in a corner on the first date and end up married for 40 years, or politely wait for five dates and be dumped two weeks later.

You have sex when you both want to and see what happens from there.

I waited 6 months once, he said I was worth it.

(And just because we banged our DHs on night one doesn't mean we didn't go around the block first and know nothing. Having a rule to prioritise what you want over what you surmise the guy wants is the point, even if you're determined to miss it.)

Phew. Imagine if you hadn't been.

Sorry but😂😂😂😂

@PossumintheHouse Eh? He didn't mean sexually, he meant being in a relationship with me was worth not having sex for a while. We ended up together for 15 years.
Thinking back to other men I've dated I don't think any of the others would have waited so long.
I think just do what feels natural