Well fuck you then!

[FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain]

Just a teeny rant.

Spent the last couple of days decorating the hallway, stripped the old wood chip off which is a bastard of a job, glossed the woodwork and put up new paper.

Husband has just walked in to the living room and I said 'all done, what do you think?'

His reply 'I can see a bubble in the paper from here' that's it. End of. Now watching shit on YouTube.

Well fuck you then. I do all the decorating, if I didn't then nothing would have been done at all in the last 15 years we've been here, I carpeted the stairs and landing by myself, I've redecorated every room except the bathroom which is getting ripped out and redone soon. I don't bother asking for help now because it's clear he has no interest in it, but is it too much to expect a 'good job, it looks nice'? He's generally a good husband, 50/50 around the house, cooking, parenting etc but it would have been nice to just fake a tiny bit of interest and spend 1 whole minute looking at it.

Ughhh I feel your pain. DH has never held a paint brush. I've painted the entire house at least twice in our 18 years here. He always gets into a grump because "it's messy" and then never says anything positive.

The only bonus is when he wants to change the room to a certain color I always agree and say yes love whenever you fancy do it. Knowing full well he will never pick up a brush.

What an ungrateful prick.

Well I am really impressed with your work OP, a huge job and I bet it looks great.

Hopefully your DH is now re-doing it by himself to his own standards. Don’t take him a cup of tea.

If he is not: I hope YOU enjoy the fruits of your labour.

Maybe he’s a good dad/husband, who knows. But he sounds a bit of a miserable arse. Just WHY couldn’t he give you CREDIT???? Are your decorating skills that bad (kinda joking)?

Sulking is childish for sure but I’d be doing it big time, until someone asks me what’s wrong and - then I’d let them have it 🪓 lol…

Mind you relaxing afternoon - a glass of wine 🍷- and seeing all the miserable selfish pricks I deal with on a daily fkg basis - I’m probably not the best person to ask right now.

Tell him!

What a miserable sod.

It sounds like you've done a great job, and getting the woodchip off would have been no mean feat. What kind of paper did you go for? I'd love to admire a pic if you fancy sharing!

That would so piss me off.
I'm very much of the view that if you think you can do a better job then feel to show it.
And if you don't like the job I've done then feel free to re do it.

Now feeling the 😡

Thqt wpuld massively piss me off too op. But it's almost like he knows you are better at it than him and that is a bit ego damaging, poor sausage.ugh l hate men sometimes

Thank you for the commiseration everyone, I am now in a huff which usually I try not to do because it's petty and doesn't achieve anything.

Am waiting for DD to finish her planting project in the garden then I'm taking her out to get her some new shoes (9 yrs old and has outgrown her size 5's, her feet will bankrupt me) and we'll milk the outing and have a cafe/restaurant trip too without him.

I'll be over it in a couple of hours but right now his presence is annoying me.

I'm childish so my next move would be to graffiti paint 'dh is a plonker' across the newly painted wall and see if he comments then. Perhaps with a giant penis.

He sounds like a bit of an arse tbh. How hard is it to say "looks great, well done"?

Well dh if you’d like to rehang the wallpaper knock yourself out!

And then hide his phone!

You know what to do next time. Spend lots of joint money on lavish decoration of a room
and when he complains about money spent tell him you would have done it yourself for a fraction of the price but he didn't appear to be enthusiastic about your handiwork.

Is he really a good husband? He can't seem to compliment you or be pleased about your work and the improvements to your home.
He seems a bit miserable and bitter. Like he wanted to bring you down a peg or two.

Ah, the 'you've missed a bit' syndrome.

Sounds like he's usually an OK guy just having a bit of a mouth/brain interface crisis. However, if he continues in this vein, your DD could always decide that what your garden needs is a new patio....

It’s biological. I can’t tell you how many men have come in and promptly pointed out the bit you haven’t done / haven’t finished / haven’t done the way they would have done.

I might be permanently a bit irked on the point.

Criticise EVERYTHING he does until you feel better. If he brings you a cuppa, tell him it's cold. If he cooks/tidies up/cleans point out a small detail that you don't like. Fuck being the bigger person, these men need to learn.

He would probably see the giant penis as a compliment, as plonkers tend to do.

To offer a different perspective... I was the spouse who (eventually) didn't do DIY much. And (eventually) I wasn't interested in praising him for doing the basics like painting a room and woodwork.

Because, after many years of him needing to be praised a million times for literally anything he managed to do, I got really sick of it, seeing as I can exist not needing praise for doing anything I did myself as a functional adult. Do you do that?! Require adulation for just doing the job?! I mean, hopefully not. Probably not. But I'm just offering another viewpoint.

Also the few times I did attempt to do DIY, he belittled and rubbished my efforts so much that it made me give up. So hopefully you don't do that either if and when he has actually tried to do work, because that really sucks away the will to praise you for doing basically the same thing.

Tell him you can see a bubble in his face. A Stanley knife and some glue would fix it though…

*forgot to add; he rubbished my DIY attempts but simultaneously got really pissy with me for "not bothering to do any of the work". Damned if I did, damned if I didn't 🤷🏻

Remind him that you are thinking of redoing the patio as your next DIY job and if he's not careful then he might find himself involved in ways he'd rather not be.

I would have been roping him in for help with wood chip removal,that stuff is the work of the devil.youve worked hard,say to him next time we'll get a company in to do it.the thought of paying out big bucks might make him more appreciative.

😂

LOL at this too! 😆