The Biggest Lies People Tell Themselves

[ThirtyThrillionThreeTrees]

Just wondering what are the biggest lies you tell yourself.

Here's mine:

1. I'll do it in a minute/at the weekend
2. I really need new clothes
3. Everyone puts on weight with age (I have a small bit to lose which I put on during covid)

(1) I will definitely clean out the kitchen cupboards soon.
(2) Everybody has jowls as they age
(3) People who appear to have fabulous lives on social media are often lying or editing out all the horrible bits. ( this last may be true).

I won't drink next weekend 🙈

Diet starts Monday.

Tomorrow morning I'll get up as soon as I wake up instead of messing around on my 'phone for as hour.

Those three pastries I had this morning won't make too much difference to my waistline 🫣🤭

That if you do the right thing it will all come good.

I eat a reasonably healthy diet and don't drink more than I should. I exercise enough. I'm fine, the world is crazy.

I believe this one or at least believe that it's always worth doing the right thing.

This too.

If I had more free time my house would be tidy.

That karma exists

The world is actually getting better by the day.

I will keep this dress, I will lose weight.
I will meditate/practice mindfulness every day.
Sleep when baby sleeps.

'I love him'
It's familiarity and societal obligation to label feelings of care towards your romantic partner as 'love' - you don't love him, you would feel guilty if you left him and you have been trained since birth as a woman that you need his and everyone else's approval of your reasoning in order to leave.

'He loves me'
He is happy to sit and watch from the sofa while you do all the parenting and housework. He hasnt asked you a question about what you want/think/feel beyond buying you a sandwich at the supermarket in years. You are an appliance to him.

"I'll remember"

"I'll do that at some point in the future" - I'm not that person now, and I won't be that person in five minutes 😂

Lies I tell myself:

This habit-building app will totally turn my life around
This is the year I’ll get into running
I’m definitely going to use this insanely painful teeth whitening stuff
I don’t look like my dad, it’s just a trick of the light
My cats will live forever 😻

I'll look at that email later.

That my kids’ difficulties are not related to my own issues showing up in my parenting mistakes

And related:

I don’t need therapy

(to the person I’m thinking of here, as I can’t say it to them in real life: they are, and you really really do)

It doesn't matter that they only have a size 8, it's a bargain so I'll buy it because I will be a size 8 by summer.

1. I am very, very busy!
2. I get enough exercise
3. I love my job

Being able to make a monthly payment for something means I can actually afford that thing.

I will catch up with emails next week.

I will organise/shrewd old paperwork soon.

I will sort the random crap drawer and never let it build up again.

I am very overwhelmed, but it's not because I spend an hour on MN everyday, oh no.

Can I do biggest lies DM tells herself?

1. I'll give up smoking
2. I've given up smoking

She was informed that she has the lungs of a 120 year old. She was shocked at the time but this was not enough information to create the change. I truly don't understand this at all.

I'll diet tomorrow.

Im happy with my weight, to justify why i in fact didn't diet that day.

I didn't say that!
I will sort it tomorrow.
Yes.( meaning noooo)