Does it bother you if you sense you are disliked?

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Particularly if it’s at work or by a colleague etc.

Posted too soon! It bothers me but I think I spend more time thinking about them than they do thinking about me, haha. It’s just one of those things that I am always wondering about.

This kind of thing used to eat me up. But now I've learned to truly like and love myself, I couldn't give a fuck if someone takes a dislike to me! Their loss 😘🤗

It bothers me when I think they might be right, if I have done something unpleasant that is the reason for the dislike. If I know I've acted properly, that's their problem and I probably don't like them either.

It used to bother me a lot - then I came to the conclusion that in the majority of these situations, I really didn't like that person either and it stopped bothering me anywhere near as much!

Hmm not massively, but of course I'd prefer people to like me than not. I think that's completely natural.

Nah. I'm not really a people pleaser though.

There were a couple of work colleagues who did not like me. I let it bother me far too much. Looking back now in hindsight, I realise they were jealous as I was good at my job and well liked by others. This is not said in a boastful way, just in a matter of fact way.

Don't let these people get to you, they truly are not worth it......

I don't like feeling misunderstood. I used to work with a lady who I felt misunderstood me. Sometimes she’d be nice, other times she insinuated that I was unkind (I'm not, no-one would ever say it about me, except this lady!). I came to realise that she was only interested in feathering her own nest.

Yes. But I don't like myself so if someone else doesn't like me it's proof that I really am the hopeless twat I think I am

Not really. There’s nobody I like or respect who doesn’t like me so I don’t care about anyone else, so long as they can remain civil.

Sometimes I do get curious about what they’ve taken a dislike to though; I’m an absolute delight!

Depends. If it’s someone I like and respect, then yes - would bother me massively. However, mostly life is too short to give much of a shit.

Yeah it bothers me but only a little. I read a great book called "friends and enemies" by Dorothy Rowe and the whole thing about not everyone is going to like you, no matter what you do, was so liberating. So, I do try to be liked but if it doesn't work out I don't fret about it. Much.

Crushes me

No as the feeling is always mutual. Anybody that doesn’t like me clearly is not worth liking 😂

There is a good saying "what other people think of you, is non of your business".

I have learned that some people just won't like you AND they aren't shy about showing it. You can't change that, can't avoid it, they are out there. You are never going to "win them over" because they enjoy not liking you more than they would enjoy liking you and that's how some people roll.

Some times yes , but then I remind myself that I too dislike people for absolutely no reason at all. Its just one of those things. Plus I'm nd and it's been suggested in a study that nts often instantly dislike us .

It used to, but then I realised that I dislike most people anyway so I'd be a huge hypocrite to care!

Depends if it's unfair. I have a huge issue with unfairness and if someone has judged me or dislikes me for something that's not fair it REALLY bothers me.

I used to, until I grew older and realised it was the EXACT type of person personality-wise who seemed to dislike me, every single time. Always a narcissist, always egotistical, didn't like that I brushed them off in their attempts to belittle me and put me down, I suppose.

Not at all. I couldn’t care less if someone likes me or not.

No but I’ve recently noticed people being off because of my age I think ( looking it at the moment) . I’ve been actively ignored by younger men even in a professional capacity and I sense the inward eye roll from younger women.
It’s disconcerting rather than offensive.

It does if there’s no reason for it. I get I’m a lot and not everyone is going to like that but I don’t think that’s a reason to dislike someone.

Having said that I think it says a lot about a person if they dislike someone and there is not a reason why

Yes it does but I'm trying to learn to not let it get to me.

In my 20’s I would have been devastated, 30’s a little less so, but when I hit my 40’s I hit my fuck it era. The shit life throws at you toughens you up as the years go by, and what once would have touched a nerve, doesn’t even cause a blip on the radar.