Does it bother you if you sense you are disliked?

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Particularly if it’s at work or by a colleague etc.

No because it is their issue not mine, I don't do this 'how can I make this about me' thing that seems more popular these days, maybe only because of social media perhaps

Not everyone likes everyone

When I was younger probably but as I get older I care less and less (and less 😂) if I know I haven’t done anything ‘wrong’ to anybody and am just being myself then let them dislike away. I think to myself how many people I dislike, it’s unreasonable to be liked by everybody.

It bothers me initially, but I do eventually talk myself around to not caring.

If I have to keep dealing with that person I make an effort to pretend I haven't noticed that they don't like me. I'm not gushy, just polite and my normal self. Often they get over whatever put them off in the first place and we get along fine in the end.

Logically, I'm learning not to let it affect me. (Although I will question if I've done anything to contribute to it). If I feel I'm doing my best, behaving well to others & working as best I can with them, I try not to let it affect me.

But emotionally, on a bad day or week - it still will affect me, whatever I say.

Yes, but I’ve learned to live with it as I’ve got older. I have a bit of an unusual personality (probably autistic) and am too open, quite eccentric, excitable, and a no doubt a bit annoying, so people seem to love me or hate my guts. I find it much more difficult to get on with women.

I judged myself by others reaction of me when I was younger but now, it mostly goes over my head and choose to I socialise a lot with blokes, who seem more accepting of quirks.

I couldn’t give a flying fuck if no one likes me.
New people joined my company as support staff back in 2022, they were a clique and were friendly with each other, I stayed out of it, couldn’t give a shit what the newbies thought of me, they’ve now all started to fall out with one another, instigated by my closest colleague. They’re eating each other up 😂 I take great pleasure in it, but I don’t show it. I leave them to it.

Depends how it manifests and who the person is, but overall no , especially if it doesn't actually interfere with my/our job.

No, not any more, l don't like everyone l come across so can't expect everyone to like me.
I like myself which is more important, faults and all.

Depends by whom. If I was disliked by someone who I like & respect, I would obviously be concerned, and want to know why.

If it was by someone I considered to be an idiot (a category into which I put most people) I wouldn’t care. Why would I?

Only if I like them.

Not really at work, I don't think. Although a little part of me would want to know why. So in that sense, that's a bit of a bother.

Yes. I wish it didn’t but it does.

Depends by whom. There are some people whose good opinion would worry me.

Yeah I relate to this

It depends - if I think they’re a bellend and I value their opinion as much as I value a dog turd on my shoe then no.

No, I've really learned to care much less in the past few years. I am not a people person and I've accepted that and don't make much effort to make people like me. I get to do what I please and don't feel like I've made a wasted effort in trying to be friends and I'm generally happy with just my own company and my close family so have no need for any more social contact.

No, as long as the person who dislikes me isn't out to cause me any trouble, and as long as the reason isn't because I've fallen below my own standards of behaviour.

I started with a new team. I asked a colleague if they'd seen a specific file. "Why do you want it?" She asked, while frowning and looking angry.

This was the first time I'd ever spoken to her. She looked very angry. in Transactional analysis terms, I wanted to respond to her as a Rebellious Child to a Critical Parent. Something like "because I do" said sarcastically.

But I knew we had had NO interaction before, so I chose to respond as Adult to Adult. First time (probably the last 😁) that my heads "been in the executive" .

So I gave her the information she's asked for (Why I wanted the info). Oh yes she said, her expression softening, I remember now where I last saw it.

So it was her facial expression that made me think she didn't like me, not her words..

turns out we got on really well.

So I'd say, don't judge someone on one (of even a couple) of interaction. Look for the actions.

Not particularly no, 2 reasons

1. if they have reason to dislike me (such as I have done something terrible to them) then fair enough and if I haven’t (which I wouldn’t have because I’m a nice person) then they have no “reason” to dislike me, therefore it must come from a place of either them just being a disagreeable person or an insecurity on their part.

2. Work is not about friends and connection for me, I don’t go there to be liked or to be bezzies with people. Colleagues see a very small snippet of my personality and character. Honestly, their opinion on “ME” doesn’t matter to me.

I should add that if someone is making it clear they dislike me, in a professional setting then I’d assume they were a total dick anyway, either approach the person and resolve any beef privately or be professional, keep all interactions to a strictly professional and neutral tone. If someone can’t do either of those things then I’d have no respect for them - another reason I wouldnt care for their opinion.

I’m in a toxic workplace. A lot of them don’t like me. I’m really unsure why but sometimes it gets me down. Others times I don’t care.

People don’t have to like you but you don’t have to care is my motto.

Yes it really upsets me

I wish I could understand and change the fact that I hold so much of my value in what others think of me

lol I have a type who dislikes me too. A certain sort of quiet, pretty, 'cool' self assured woman of my age or a bit younger..

I don't know why but have mostly just learned to accept it!

I hate being put into a situation where I’m 1:1 with a colleague at work who I know doesn’t like me purely because it makes the day incredibly long (we only work maximum of 2 in our office ) but otherwise I don’t care who likes or dislikes me . So many of my colleagues get really annoyed if someone dislikes them and talk about killing with kindness but it makes me cringe having to watch them in action .

The older I get the less it bothers me!

How rude of them!
OP, my opinion depends on how much damage they can do. The single biggest influence on people's workplace experience was their line manager - there was even a study on this recently. If my LM, or other influential stakeholders didn't like me I'd either try to change that or leave.

The office boor that nobody likes anyway? Pah. Who gives a duck? :)