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I’ve realized something big today.

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Bunbum · 03/03/2024 17:29

You know when you hear of something that somebody is doing with their life which is quite a big deal i.e running their own successful business, moving abroad, traveling…. something for THEM, something that doesn’t necessarily have to make them money but whatever it is they are doing it’s their dream/goal/ passion that they are fulfilling.

Well, I’ve realised today that I don’t seem to have a big dream/goal/passion. Not even a little one. Not even a fucking hobby. I just have nothing to really work towards. I’m desperate to find it though! I wish that whatever it is that I might so desperately want in the future, would come to me sooner. I don’t care if it seems a tad far fetched, I just want that goal to exist.

Does anybody else feel as though they aren’t working towards anything? Like every day is the same and will be like that forever.

Sorry to sound depressing but it’s taken me nearly 30 years to figure out why I get so so down whenever I hear someone full-filling their dream. It’s not that i’m jealous that they have full-filled it, it’s the mere fact that they had a dream/goal in the first place!

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Defiantlynot41 · 04/03/2024 00:24

A lot of people have found this Ted talk helpful

Also, think back to what you loved aged around 8, it's often around that point that you begin to discover who you are!

Orangeandgold · 04/03/2024 01:14

You can easily find something for yourself.

Most people don’t wake up with a big goal. They discover something small or join a group and they grow. And it becomes more than just a social club etc.

When I didn’t know what I wanted to do with myself I thought about the stuff that I was naturally good at or interested in from young. For me it was writing and I joined my library writing club.

Am I an author - NOPE. I have done nothing massive with this hobby but met a bunch of amazing people, it was me time whilst my daughter was young and I love to journal.

I have other similar things like yoga or joining a class. Scrolling on eventbrite and attending an event by myself on a topic that I find interesting.

It’s a journey and our hobbies and interests change.

Just start by doing a very tiny thing for you. Even if it is just jogging.

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