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What should I do for childcare.

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 10:56

I need to get all my top teeth removed. But I need childcare for my 2 youngest. I was thinking about asking my adult DS but I'm not sure if its fair that I ask. He's in a stressful job and his hours are not the best he gets pretty drained/tired he does 2 days 7am - 4pm , 2 days 2-11pm then 2 days 10pm-7am he often has to do over time as well. He does get 4 days of . The first day is spend mostly sleeping.

Or I could take them with me they could have their tablet and play on that. In the room. That way I'm not putting anyone out.

Or teen dd could come as well and they could wait in the waiting room with their tablets

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GiantFootTinyHead · 02/03/2024 13:28

I think it’s fair to ask, equally fair for him to say no.
If he says no then teen in waiting room.

Absolutely do not take them in with you, it’s a sure fire way to give the, a phobia of dentists for life! I doubt a dentist would allow it anyway tbh.

LIZS · 02/03/2024 13:33

Can teen not babysit siblings at home? Or you book a babysitter or childminder as a one off?

NowYouSee · 02/03/2024 13:35

How old are these children?

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spriots · 02/03/2024 13:35

Is the appointment on a school day? I don't think it's reasonable for your teen to miss school for this.

I think your adult DS is the best bet.

Clearinguptheclutter · 02/03/2024 13:37

Can teen not babysit at home?
if not teen manages them in the waiting room
if I was a neighbour/friend I’d help you out if I could in this situation and wouldn’t mind if you asked me

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 13:46

spriots · 02/03/2024 13:35

Is the appointment on a school day? I don't think it's reasonable for your teen to miss school for this.

I think your adult DS is the best bet.

She would not miss school.

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 13:49

Clearinguptheclutter · 02/03/2024 13:37

Can teen not babysit at home?
if not teen manages them in the waiting room
if I was a neighbour/friend I’d help you out if I could in this situation and wouldn’t mind if you asked me

No not at home.

Maybe the waiting room option. Will work

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spriots · 02/03/2024 13:53

Having had a tooth out before, I wouldn't underestimate how badly you might feel afterwards. I think the kids would be better off at home with an adult

Surely your DS would do it as a one off?

LIZS · 02/03/2024 13:53

How long is the appointment? Why can they not remain at home?

LIZS · 02/03/2024 13:55

Is there a playground nearby if weather is ok. Is teen 13 or 17?

Caterina99 · 02/03/2024 13:57

I wouldn’t want my kids running riot in the waiting room while I was at the dentist having major work done, and you could be there for quite a long time, not just a 5 minute check up.

How old are kids? And is the appointment already booked? Are they the type to sit nicely or would they be bored quickly? Could teen take them to a playground or something instead of just sitting in waiting room.

I’d personally ask your DS. I know he works, and they aren’t his kids, but surely he’d be happy to help his mum for a one off? Can’t the teenager help him out too?

AuntieMarys · 02/03/2024 13:58

Why on earth would you take them to the dentist?

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 13:59

LIZS · 02/03/2024 13:55

Is there a playground nearby if weather is ok. Is teen 13 or 17?

  1. There is one just up the road from the dentist. Dd has never baby sat before they may be fine . They get on generally.
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Caterina99 · 02/03/2024 14:05

I just can’t think of anything worse than having major dental work (I do hate the dentist though) and having my kids there too. I’m not even sure my dentist would actually allow it.

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 14:08

Caterina99 · 02/03/2024 13:57

I wouldn’t want my kids running riot in the waiting room while I was at the dentist having major work done, and you could be there for quite a long time, not just a 5 minute check up.

How old are kids? And is the appointment already booked? Are they the type to sit nicely or would they be bored quickly? Could teen take them to a playground or something instead of just sitting in waiting room.

I’d personally ask your DS. I know he works, and they aren’t his kids, but surely he’d be happy to help his mum for a one off? Can’t the teenager help him out too?

They would not run riot. They would just be on their tablets /phone. They could possibly get a bit bored. But would not play up.

Adult ds would not need help . He would be fine. It's just I feel guilty asking.

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NowYouSee · 02/03/2024 14:15

Jeez just ask the adult son. Or is ok to ask the daughter because she doesn’t have a penis?

This is quite significant surgery not a 5 minute checkup. You absolutely cannot have them in the room (I can’t imagine the dentist would agree) and the waiting room is a bad idea for a variety of reasons. Just ask your adult son to step in for a couple of hours so you can feel confident it is Ok and get yourself home.

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 14:15

Caterina99 · 02/03/2024 14:05

I just can’t think of anything worse than having major dental work (I do hate the dentist though) and having my kids there too. I’m not even sure my dentist would actually allow it.

I'm the other way round. I get worried and prefer them with me.

They have been with me before I can't remember what it was for though

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 14:21

NowYouSee · 02/03/2024 14:15

Jeez just ask the adult son. Or is ok to ask the daughter because she doesn’t have a penis?

This is quite significant surgery not a 5 minute checkup. You absolutely cannot have them in the room (I can’t imagine the dentist would agree) and the waiting room is a bad idea for a variety of reasons. Just ask your adult son to step in for a couple of hours so you can feel confident it is Ok and get yourself home.

If you read my op you will see I said I was not sure about asking DS because of his long hours and stressful job. Nothing to do with having a Penis.

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Longlive · 02/03/2024 14:23

When I had my top teeth out, it took two hours and I felt awful after. DH had to help me to and from the car and put me to bed.

I cant imagine having children with me. You will need looking after.

pinkyredrose · 02/03/2024 14:25

Went can't DD look after them at home? Please don't let them play on tablets on the waiting room, it's unfair on others there.

Or she could take them to soft play or a cafe.

mitogoshi · 02/03/2024 14:25

I think you need to check if they will even allow the dc in the waiting room, this won't be quick. I n my opinion you need to either ask your ds or come up with another solution because you may need help afterwards too.

Caravaggiouch · 02/03/2024 14:25

Why on earth do you need to have them with you when you have a teenager and an adult child as well? If they can sit in a dentist waiting room on tablets not disturbing anyone they can sit at home on tablets not disturbing the teenager or adult DS.

Caterina99 · 02/03/2024 14:26

Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 14:15

I'm the other way round. I get worried and prefer them with me.

They have been with me before I can't remember what it was for though

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I think it probably depends a lot on your kids. Mine (6 and 8) would probably behave ok sitting in a waiting room watching a tablet for a short time and someone supervising them. Short time I’d class as less than 15 min ish. So for a check up - yes I’d be ok with this. I think they’d get bored and antsy if it was much longer than that though.

So for me personally it would be much easier for everyone for that person to supervise them at home rather than in a waiting room!

For a long procedure, I wouldn’t really want to sit in a waiting room for an hour, so I definitely wouldn’t make my kids do it if I had a choice.

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Time4achange24 · 02/03/2024 14:27

Longlive · 02/03/2024 14:23

When I had my top teeth out, it took two hours and I felt awful after. DH had to help me to and from the car and put me to bed.

I cant imagine having children with me. You will need looking after.

I already had all my bottom removed I was fine. I did get the bus home. I did feel vulnerable on the bus. I don't know why but I did. I hated the numbness . Once that was gone I felt fine.

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SgtJuneAckland · 02/03/2024 14:31

I don't think a medical waiting room is the place for 3 children for a couple of hours. The staff will feel responsible. It's one day, ask your adult DS, a neighbour, a parent of one of the children's friends. You're only asking them to watch them for a few hours