What should I do for childcare.

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I need to get all my top teeth removed. But I need childcare for my 2 youngest. I was thinking about asking my adult DS but I'm not sure if its fair that I ask. He's in a stressful job and his hours are not the best he gets pretty drained/tired he does 2 days 7am - 4pm , 2 days 2-11pm then 2 days 10pm-7am he often has to do over time as well. He does get 4 days of . The first day is spend mostly sleeping.

Or I could take them with me they could have their tablet and play on that. In the room. That way I'm not putting anyone out.

Or teen dd could come as well and they could wait in the waiting room with their tablets

Are you having a general anaesthetic/sedation? As this would affect aftercare/getting home.

I'd ask adult DS if I were you. Are there any other adults in your circle that could help or step in if you do have to ask your daughter. 13 is quite young to be in charge if there's a problem.

Mine are fine for quite a while as long as they have their tablets.

Who looked after them when you had lower teeth extracted?

Adult wise I only have ds. Yes 13 does feel a bit young that's why it would be in the waiting room. So im at least close by.

I'm not having sedation. Just numbing

I did read your OP and it also says he has 4 days off at a time. 4 days off out of 10. That’s more rest days than most people get. Yes it a shift pattern but the hours themselves are hardly excessive.

So, are there other adults who could help?

I don't think it's fair on the 13 year old or the reception/dental staff to have that responsibility. Yes, you may be close by, but dental procedures can be tricky and, if there were a problem with yourself or your children in the waiting room, the potential for you to be able to solve it is limited due to your possibly weakened state.

I get why you'd want to have them there, but really just ask your DS.

Also, ask the dental practice if this is even possible?

My adult DD did. But last time she caused issues . She kept messaging me over and over constantly. Then when I got home she was ranting at me over nothing. Over stupid stuff like one called the other a name. Instead of just saying something like be kind to each other you have been playing so nicely together. Let's make a dinosaur with the play dough . Or something like that she argues with them like teenagers. And the kids don't like being left with her . Its just not worth the stress.

Can you not change the appointment to when your kids are at school or nursery? If they’re old enough to sit reliably nicely with a tablet for an hour then they must be over nursery age.

Just because you’ll be physically close by doesn’t mean you’ll be any help to your teenager if she needs it. You can’t just get up mid extraction

It sounds very stressful, but honestly I’d ask your DS or another adult. Adults do favours for friends and family, it’s only a few hours, and it doesn’t sound like the kids will be much trouble.

I only have DS to ask.

I have not made the actual appointment yet . The reason I was thinking a non school day was because I really don't want to be doing the school run after having all my teeth out. I don't drive and depending on timing. I would have to go dentist. 2 buses home. Then 2 buses to the school. Then the busy pick up . 2 buses home from school. And the buses are awfully packed at that time.

Book it in Easter school holidays and find a holiday scheme locally for that day?

No DS has autism. He would not cope with that.

You can't leave children in a waiting room. It's very unfair to the staff. Why should they supervise them? Pay a babysitter or a chilminder.

Staff are not supervising them. DD would be.

I doubt their insurance would cover unsupervised children

13 year old DD is also a child.

how old are these younger children? And where is their father?

I have left them in the waiting room before. Nothing has ever been said to me.

I have lost track a little bit . I think before I had one ds in the room with me. And the other ds was with teen DD in the waiting room. I remember I was numb because I remember pulling silly wonky faces at ds when ever the dentist was busy sorting something. But I can't remember why I was numb.

More recently I was meant to have a short appointment but it turned into a 45 min one and they waited in the waiting area.

I have never Been told they can't wait there.

The main reason I'm not sure thus time is because of what I'm having done

As pp have said - another child.
It's not their responsibility to supervise children. They have work to do.

Think you have to do it while at school, ideally first thing, and just cope with the extra buses or ask adult ds if he can do school run.

I'm definitely not doing the extra buses that would be awful. I will probably ask adult ds.

Ask your adult ds it's an obvious solution. Boohoo he'll be tired. He's young and will get over it

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I'd ask adult DS and discuss a mutually agreeable appointment on one of his days off. If he doesn't want to look after the children, maybe he could do the pick up from school instead so you could have the procedure during the school day? Definitely worth a chat to find something that works for both of you.

Yeah I will. I'm sure he will do it . It's just i felt guilty asking. I will ask what he prefers and work around him.