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My mum died tonight

36 replies

Heartbrokenandguilty · 26/02/2024 22:39

That’s it.. I wasn’t there. I live in a different country. I was home with her last week. I can’t believe it. And I had a complicated relationship with her and I feel so bloody awful and guilty and like a shit daughter.

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Turtlerussell · 26/02/2024 23:45

I’m so sorry for your loss, sending you my condolences 💐 be kind to yourself 💐

Thursa · 27/02/2024 04:18

I’m so sorry. I was in another country when my mum had a stroke. By the time I got back she didn’t recognise me anymore. You are not awful and you should not feel guilty. Look after yourself.

EchoChamber · 27/02/2024 05:42

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s hard when you have a complicated relationship with someone who dies suddenly. Guilt is a common feeling, but you did your best. You saw her recently. Focus on the good memories and let the rest go.

Purpleavocado · 27/02/2024 05:50

I'm so sorry. My Mum was frail but went suddenly as well, and it was horribly shocking. Try to be kind to yourself and treat yourself how you would treat a friend who had lost someone 🌹

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 27/02/2024 06:10

I am so sorry.
Xx

Aydel · 27/02/2024 06:16

I’m very sorry. I lost my Mum in very similar circumstances (living abroad, difficult relationship).

Frumpitydoo · 27/02/2024 06:37

So sorry for your loss.

Alwaystransforming · 27/02/2024 06:40

I am so sorry for your loss.

Sybila · 27/02/2024 06:49

I am so sorry, that sounds a real shock.

goingincognito1 · 27/02/2024 07:02

I'm very sorry for your loss x

Veggieburgers · 27/02/2024 07:13

I'm sorry for your loss OP. I'm sure you were not a shit daughter at all. Take care of yourself. Sending hugs. xx

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