How often do your teens visit their grandparents?

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My dc are 18 and 16.

They always had a close relationship with both sets of grandparents (all GPs live nearby and looked after dc when I went to work part time), they are my parents only grandchildren.

However, over the last few years my dc have not been keen at all to visit them, which I understand but feel really sad about. My parents are 82/81 (mum has Alzheimer’s) and my father in law is 82 and on his own since MIL Sadly passed away 4 years ago. I especially feel sad for my dad as my ds18 and he were very close, ds was the son dad never had.

I do remember being the same myself at that age. I lost my grandparents from the ages of 18 through to 29 and now wish I’d spent more time with them in their later years. However, I can not force my dc to go and see them but I feel sad about it nonetheless.

Is this quite normal for teens? My 70 year old friend sees her 15 year old granddaughter all the time, she stays over every weekend and during the week sometimes. Do yours visit their grandparents if they are nearby?

My 16yo sees my mum and dad at least once a week, she'll either go for tea of an evening or pop over at the weekend. They only live round the corner so she can cycle or walk. She's always been very close to them, especially my mum.

She sees my MIL and FIL a few times a year as they live abroad. Once with DH on a dad-daughter trip, once with the whole family, and once or twice alone since she turned 12 and felt comfortable traveling alone. I imagine she'd see them more often if they were closer! She does facetime them often though.

Once a month. It's a 2hr drive away ( 1hr 45 on a good day) so I take them up there once a month.

Mine are 15, 17 & 19