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Just curious….. 2nd marriages….

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ThisIsOk · 24/02/2024 18:57

I’m only asking this based on another thread I’m on which is about second marriages.

If either you are on your second marriage, or you are the second spouse of your DH/DW, how old were you when you/they got married for the second time?

Me and my DH always joke that if we divorced we wouldn’t have the energy to even date again let alone get married again 😂

I’m just curious as I’m 40 and I genuinely can’t imagine being of an age of wanting to get married again should me and DH ever separate or death occur.

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CakeIsNotAvailable · 24/02/2024 18:59

I was 31 (married and divorced first husband young; no kids) and my husband was 43 (he had been with his first wife since uni and they had 2 children together). I'm now late 30s and if my DH died or left me I wouldn't go out of my way to find someone new (we have 2 kids together).

Lunab18 · 24/02/2024 19:00

First marriage I was 24, second marriage I was 40.

Bettyscakes · 24/02/2024 19:00

I was 49 when I married my 2nd husband. He is the love of my life and I’m so happy! My first marriage lasted 22 years, 10 of those miserable and lonely.

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imnotthatkindofmum · 24/02/2024 19:00

I am a second wife, DH got married young previously so his second marriage to me was when I was 27 and he was 26.

It's been nearly 20 years since then so I definitely couldn't be arsed to do it all again!

MaMisled · 24/02/2024 19:04

I married at 23, separated at 36, met 2nd DH 5 months afterwards, divorce came through at 37, remarried at 41. On meeting him, 36 became 20 again! I thought I was done but oh it was a wonderful courtship!!!!

MissHavershamsVeil · 24/02/2024 19:07

I married at 21 and divorced at 28 because he was a violent awful person. I was single for a couple of years then dated 2 guys. They were both really decent men and one did want to marry me, it didn’t feel quite right. Then at 31 I met DH a new member of staff where I worked. We became friends, he asked me out and to marry him after 6 months. It felt very right and we have been together for coming up to 27 years.

I was surprised I ever trusted someone again, I feel very lucky. If single I will never marry again. I know I did previously but I was still very young when I divorced and am at a very different stage of life now.

BIossomtoes · 24/02/2024 19:31

I was 46 when we got married, second time for both of us. Neither of us would do it again when we’re widowed.

Toomuch2019 · 24/02/2024 20:03

Me: married 23 divorced 29 remarried 32
Him: married 26, divorced 40, remarried 43

Neither would bother again I don't think if anything happened to either of us, mainly because the kids take so much of our energy!

Chasingsquirrels · 24/02/2024 20:06

1st marriage I was 26, we'd been together since I was 19. Separated at 35.

2nd marriage I had just turned 44. He died 9m later when I was still 44.

Now 51 and happily living apart from current DP of 5 years.

LorlieS · 24/02/2024 20:13

First (horrific) marriage was at 24.
Remarried again at 41 ❤️
Husband's first marriage was when he was 29, married me when he was 45.
We share a 3 yo daughter and I have two teenage sons from my first marriage (13 and 16).

Vanessashanessajenkins2 · 24/02/2024 20:27

First (horrific) marriage was at 20 (married early)
Divorced by 24 - thank god. No children. It was an Islamic marriage /nikah.
Met my now husband when I was 26 and married at 27. Had our baby at 27. Had two miscarriages too. I am now nearly 33. My husband was 35 when we married. He had a son who was 6 when I met him. My husband and his mother split when he was 2. Would never ever marry again. Noone can replace my now husband ❤

Secondstart1001 · 24/02/2024 22:37

I married my first husband at 28 and separated by 39 ( but was with him From
21). I met my Dp when I was 42 and he was 38. 4 years on and yes we do want to get married as we’ve both been through so much and feel we have found each other at the right time. Want to have a small wedding as it is for us to celebrate our love but I am really excited at the thought of buying the wedding dress! We have the energy as we are really in love I suppose ❤️ No plans for more children as mine are 12 and 18 and his are 8 and 10). I feel I’m too old for babies now and we both have no desire for babies plus his kids are still pretty young ). We enjoy our child free weekends and plan to travel at every opportunity we get! This was a life I never thought possible and I was so unhappy in my first relationship but found it hard to leave as he was abusive.

olderbutwiser · 24/02/2024 22:48

I was 56, he was 50. Plenty of energy, as it turned out 😁.

PrincessHoneysuckle · 24/02/2024 22:56

24 and 36

Lifebeganat50 · 24/02/2024 23:18

1st 21 and divorced at 23, no kids

2nd 26, still here at 50+

lifeisawillow3 · 24/02/2024 23:20

Im currently married now for the first time. But it's DH's second marriage, he was 40 when we married & he was 23 getting married the first time. I'm 28.

WillYouPutYourCoatOn · 24/02/2024 23:23

Married at 20, divorced at 21, too young, wouldn't be told, that's that story in a nutshell.

Second time, married at 36. Definitely can not be arsed with a third marriage should I ever become widowed/divorced.

AnnaKorine · 24/02/2024 23:28

I think when you meet a new person it’s quite re-energizing and you find yourself wanting to do many things you wouldn’t have imagined. Love is a beautiful thing! I say this as an also knackered 40 something in a long term relationship who also feels the same way myself, but it’s pretty easy to see how heads are turned right?

QueSyrahSyrah · 24/02/2024 23:31

First short lived marriage to an abusive narcissist at 31 (separated by 33).

Second marriage at 38 to the kindest Man on the planet.

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 24/02/2024 23:40

I was 50 dh 53.
I met my first dh at 21.
Dh was 19 when he met his first wife.
Neither of us thought we would ever marry again.

LorlieS · 24/02/2024 23:42

I think my first marriage allowed me to appreciate what it is I have in my second one and I hope never to take my husband forgranted because he really is a good guy ❤️

specialk9 · 24/02/2024 23:47

First marriage 24
Second marriage 38

Whattodowithallthebooks · 25/02/2024 00:13

Married at 24, separated at 30, married again at 34

JenniferBooth · 25/02/2024 00:28

Im DHs second wife. When we married back in 1998 i was 25 and he was 48

novocaine4thesoul · 25/02/2024 00:32

I am with DH1 (married aged 28, he was 34) and have been for 28 years. I am DW2 though, he married at 20 and then the marriage ended when he was 26 with no kids. I did not know him when he was married, but did shortly after when he was separated. Completely different life for me, and we have had 3 kids, all of whom are now grown up, but were SO surprised to find I was Mrs Novocaine v2, it was only mentioned in passing, can't even think where it came up but I think in a conversation about age gaps in relationships, I said "Your Dad's first wife was 6 years older than him, and I am 6 years younger than him" This was met by complete and utter disbelief by my adult children who we are both close to. We got the full run of "why did you never mention this before", "why did I not know this".... err because it has never crossed my mind to mention it...and what difference does it make ?

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