Just curious….. 2nd marriages….

[ThisIsOk]

I’m only asking this based on another thread I’m on which is about second marriages.

If either you are on your second marriage, or you are the second spouse of your DH/DW, how old were you when you/they got married for the second time?

Me and my DH always joke that if we divorced we wouldn’t have the energy to even date again let alone get married again 😂

I’m just curious as I’m 40 and I genuinely can’t imagine being of an age of wanting to get married again should me and DH ever separate or death occur.

Widowed in my early 30s, only married for a few years.
Remarried last year at 41, my DH is a few years younger, his first marriage.

I married at 28, separated at 41, met DH within a year and we married when I was 48 and he was almost 52, in 2016.

Married at 21 separated by 24, I married DH when I was 30. It's DH's first marriage (and last hopefully) 🤣

We’re getting married next year. My first marriage, DP’s second. He’ll be 36 when we get married.

I've only been married once. At 34. DH has been married twice. First time at 45 and second at 52. Now I am over 50 I can't comprehend how he had the energy to date and marry again!

@novocaine4thesoul DH and his siblings did not find out their mother had been married before their dad until her funeral when she was aged 90! They were shocked it had never come up before.

@ThisIsOk I find the comment about not being able to imagine remarrying again a little jarring, and a bit cliched! And it was exactly what I would have said when I was married for the first time (at 27), to my exDH. Until he had an affair, and we separated at 35.

Even after we separated I never thought I'd remarry. But then boom- met my partner at 39. Amazing man. Beautiful 2 kids, plus my child who get on brilliantly, and at 43 I shall be remarrying!

and what an unexpectedly wonderful feeling it is. To want to marry someone again, and likewise have someone want to spend the rest of their days with me!

But I do find the much held MN sentiment of "I'd never get married again" a bit annoying, as it's often said by those who are happily married, with no life experience in that field!

@ThisIsOk I used to say this after I was unhappily married. I found my partner while I was only dating for fun as didn’t want any of the pitfalls that come with a ltr. Then boom I met my future husband to be! He told me on the first date he was dating with view of marriage! He’s very lucky I didn’t run away after he said that and haven’t looked back since!

Dh first marriage was 30, split at 31. Divorced at 32

remarried at 41, I was 26.

First marriage age 19 lasted 6months..2nd 35 and 4 kids soon to be 40 couldnt be happier

58 when I remarried.

I'm so sorry hearing about your second husband. That sounds heartbreaking.

Was 40 at time of second marriage. Been together 21 years.

First marriage 21, second 55

Married at 25 separated at 28. Met my 2nd husband when I was 29 and he was 45, we got married when I was 36 and he was 52. Both our 2nd marriages, his first wife was 3 years older than him and the complete opposite of me (never worked, very materialistic). Both have 3 kids from previous relationship and no kids together.

I do find the much held MN sentiment of "I'd never get married again" a bit annoying, as it's often said by those who are happily married, with no life experience in that field!

Amen to this. I’m a widow and this is a widely held view, not just on MN. It’s a crashingly insensitive thing to say to someone who has experienced a terrible loss. It’s just so smug. And judgemental. It goes hand in hand with “if anything happened to my husband I’d never get over it” as though watching me existing and coping on a day to day basis is proof I didn’t really love my husband as much as they do.

27 (me) 37 (him) first time, 43 and 51 this time! Never been happier

1st marriage 19-35

2nd marriage 41- ongoing, I'm 44 this year, DH is 49. Love my life, and my DH is wonderful. Always said I'd never remarry. Never say never.

1st marriage I was 22, 2nd I was 36. I’m DHs third wife, he was 27, 35 and 41. He was adamant when his second marriage ended before the ink was dry that he would never marry again, but here we are, 21 years of happy marriage and counting.

I divorced at 40 and thought I'd never remarry. I remarried at 43 so married for 18 years and we are very happy together. I wish I'd divorced exh sooner.

First I was 25, second I was 36. But stbhx has left me and that's the end of marriage for me!

I'm DH's second wife (my first marriage). I was 34 and he was 43 when we married. It'll be 28 years this year. I think he was 28 or 29 when he married the first time. Marriage lasted 7 years I believe (he doesn't really talk about it).

Ive never been married never seen the point in it.
Only have to read the threads on MN marriage is not all what its cracked up to be.

Divorced at 40 with 3 young children. Can't see that I'd ever be married again. If my kids were older then maybe I'd consider it

It does get lonely I can vouch for that when I was seperated for 4 years …the found DP. I do get you though, 3 young kids to focus on is hard.

Thank you for everyone’s replies and sorry to those who found my wording a little offensive, it wasn’t my intention to come across negatively.

I’ve always come across negative opinions about second marriages with claims made that people get put off them because if their first marriage didn’t work out (when we enter marriage with the idea of being with that person forever) they would see that marriage isn’t forever so wouldn’t see the point in doing it again.

This viewpoint obviously isn’t the case for bereaved individuals, and I’m sorry to those on this post who lost their spouse.

I never really liked that view though as although I’m sure it’s the opinion of some men/women from marriages that didn’t work out, I like to think that people can fall in love again and have their happy ending with another person.