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Am I overreacting? Aupair

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LivelyBlake · 23/02/2024 22:13

My friend is having trouble getting an aupair due to the lack of visas for the EU. She is considering offering the “job” to a girl from an EU country on the condition that she stays here for 5 months as a tourist. My friend is a single mother and she is desperate to sort out her childcare.

This girl is from my home country and my friend has asked me to take part in a Zoom call with her so as to explain in our language what the conditions are to avoid any misunderstanding.

I have said that I can’t do it as in my view what she is planning is not legal.

Have I overreacted? She went very quiet and has been avoiding me since.

OP posts:
zazazoop · 23/02/2024 22:15

YANBU, that is illegal she can't exploit someone to suit her needs, if she can't afford an au pair that's not the au pairs problem!

BristolBorn · 23/02/2024 23:06

YANBU.
Maybe she realised you were right, and she’s embarrassed, so that’s why she’s avoiding you?

Aquamarine1029 · 23/02/2024 23:29

Refusing to participate in something that makes you uncomfortable, that you believe to be wrong, is not overreacting.

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