*trigger warning* Toddler fallen into river in Leicester

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DS is not so little anymore but this story made me hold him a little bit tighter tonight. I feel so sorry for his family, just hoping he is found soon.

Leicester: Police recover CCTV in search for missing two-year-old boy www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-leicestershire-68343938

It’s a local nature reserve, aylestone meadows people are encouraged to visit there it’s popular . The roads in that area of the city are very busy being some of the main routes into Leicester city centre. If they’d kept out of the nature reserve and been for a walk around the streets he could have a had a freak accident and fell under a lorry, it’s just a tragic accident

It's not criticism, it's speculation.

I wonder if you understand the difference?

This is not the time for either.

Both are inappropriate.

Parents have lost their child… no one needs to speculate about or judge that.

@AelinAshriver semantics. But hope you feel good about yourself for nitpicking about something that's clearly inappropriate however you label it.

This. I'm so surprised this thread is still up.

I also think that as useful as they can be for non hand holders, holding hands is a far better skill to teach if you can

You can do both. I used reins for all of my DC. They had them on as soon as they could totter a few steps so none of them refused them. They were normal to them. When they started walking outside, the reins were a useful support to soften and stop any little stumbles. As they became confident walkers, I used the reins but also held their hand. That way if they’d pulled their hand away suddenly, I’d still have their reins to stop them.

I hope this dear little boy is brought home to his parents very soon. Accidents are just that - tragic accidents.

Can we stop with the reins stuff please?

There's so much rain here. We're virtually cut off today and some search areas are under a red flood warning. I had to leave the house today and took four detours to get out. It's obviously hampering the search and making this ordeal so much longer for the family.

I haven't heard the helicopters out today, but the weather was so bad it would have been pointless.

I live very close to Aylestone meadows I have always stayed away from there in the winter the only time I take my little ones there is in the summer. My heart is breaking for the family I can't look on the news page incase I see the beautiful picture off the little baby god bless him

I apologise I didn't mean anything towards the parents of the little boy or to upset anyone on mn but if you know the area and with all the rain Leicester has had a grown adult wouldn't want to take a walk there it floods every year with lots of rain so that's nothing new as for being perfect no I'm not at all to be quite honest. shreknjumps you need to learn more manners as I said I'm a mother my heart brakes for the parents

But some adults do walk by flooded rivers. Some families do walk by flooded rivers. Some people walk up mountains in trainers with not so much as an energy bar, never mind multi layers, first aid kit and a proper map. Everyone makes their own risk assessments, I know I’ve sometimes gone on walks where perhaps a slip would have had dangerous consequences for me.
DH is one of those people who jumped in a rushing river to save our dog - he knew it was a dangerous thing to do, he knew people have died doing the exact same thing, yet still he did it.
I saw a family letting their small child try and beat the waves coming up the slope at high tide in stormy weather. It was incredibly risky, she only had to slip at the wrong moment and the outcome would have been dreadful. I did point out the slope was very slippy, but they just handwaved it away, probably thought I was an interfering cow. That wouldn’t have made me feel any better to have been proved right.
The point @shreknjumps was making, I think, is that the minute you say “Well, I wouldn’t do that……people in that area know not to do that” it can come across as blaming the parents in a specific tragedy like this. Because other families will have done that walk and it will all have turned out ok.

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Thanks @Saucery that is exactly what I was trying to say and I'm imagining the parents reading all of this stuff on social media which is absolutely judging them. Won't bother saying my piece though as I've been suitably chastised for suggesting it's atrocious to claim you'd never do what they did. Which was go for a walk on a Sunday afternoon

I do understand what shreknjumps was saying but in my post in no way shape or form did a say it's the parents fault I live 15 minutes away from where this happened all I was saying is myself personally have never taken my little ones there in really bad wet weather its a natural flood plane for the overflow for the canal I'm not perfect I have made mistakes with at least 3 off my 5 children I'm a mother and grandmother I feel heartbroken for the little cheeky baby's parents

Why would you choose to say that in this particular thread though?

It's always the same

Tragedy happens - People jump to say they would never

Is that supposed to make the parents feel better? Make us all think you're superior? Or just you putting your tuppence worth in to convince yourself you're 'better' because you wouldn't walk there?

You know one day the parents may come here for support, as many bereaved parents do, and see your "I feel sorry for them but I wouldn't have done that".

You're not the worst on the thread at all, but definitely thoughtless.

I wish people would think before they post. Their 5 minutes of being sanctimonious could impact the people actually suffering the loss of their child, and affect them forever.