DD (almost 6.5 yo) in Y1 is very capable academically, particularly strong in maths. Over the last couple of months she's gone from Y1 stuff to Y3, constantly asking me at home to 'do maths' and loves it. She can for instance mentally add 3 digit numbers with regrouping, do quarters of 3 digit numbers, almost fluent with times tables, fractions etc. She learns very quickly and takes it to the next level.
However, at school, despite them working on a much lower level she doesn't quite deliver. She's one of the slowest in the class, almost never finishes her work and therefore she's not even in the top group for maths, although she says it's all quite easy. Yesterday they were given a little exercise where they had to add missing numbers in a square box of 1 to 100 and she was one of the last ones to put her work down and she hasn't even finished. She seemed upset about it enough to tell us. This is not the first time it happens.
I do suspect some SEN but no one listens to us. Her teacher reported last term that she zones out quite a bit and is a bit slow and that there are things to keep an eye on but nothing too worrying. I've been thinking about ASD or inattentive ADHD.
I can see her confidence slipping a bit and I just don't know how to support her. How can I child who is so capable not deliver? I was a straight A student (in a different country) although I don't think I was as smart as her, definitely wasn't doing 3 digit number additions in my head at the age of 6. In fact I only started school at 6.5 yo.
She is perfect in her behaviour at school, very polite and kind, great listening, but very defiant and a bit hyper at home.
(I did speak to an NHS pediatrician about it, but they've totally dismissed my concerns as there are no obvious signs of struggle).
Can anyone relate to this?