If you were a man, would you find you attractive?

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I'm just getting ready for my valentine's date tonight and looking at myself and thinking " Gordon Bennett, it's a good job he loves you"
I wouldn't fancy me I don't think. Even with all the effort I've made tonight.

What about you?

Interesting question! On a daily basis no haha, but on one of best days, when I have a natural tan, my hair and makeup done and dressed in something nice then possibly

Nope! 😂
Maybe, when I was 20 years younger! Age has not been kind.

Maybe? I'm a great girlfriend but I guess you wouldn't know that on just looks alone. I have amazing boobs and a nice arse so i'd like them, the face not so much. I can take a good photo but catch sight of myself in the mirror sometimes and shudder!

Being critical of myself I can't see how anyone would find me attractive. On the other hand, I'm fairly well in shape for my age even with a wobbly tummy and bum, I can see wrinkles but people I don't know well reckon I look about ten years younger, I get on well with most people and like to have a laugh.

The thing is, no one is perfect and there's just something about someone that attracts you to them.

Hope you have a lovely evening, OP.

How is it heteronormative? Would a lesbian not have an opinion because they are same sex attracted? How does that work??

No. I'm fugly

Yes, but then I'd be put off by my personality 😁

Bless you, @TomRaider, you sweet summer child! You can swear all you like on here. Famous for it.

No, 10 years ago maybe… not a chance now! 🤣

No. Blonde doesn’t do it for me 😄

Nope I've put on too much weight, my chin is too fat, my youth has gone. I look exhausted constantly. I don't recognise my reflection.

I was never attractive enough for ExH so I'm used to feeling ugly.

Oh, @Funusername, it's miserable isn't it? I'd not give myself a second glance. But if I did get to know me, frankly I'd run a mile. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Yes

I don't think so. I wouldn't find me unattractive but I'd probably prefer other types of women.

I'm as bad, but the negative comments are making me sad.

Possibly. Somebody obvious does as I got an anonymous Valentines card.

My husband thinks it’s funny.

I think so, yes.

I'm podgy but I'm quite cute and I'm a good laugh.

I'd fancy the male version of me iyswim.

The question is based on the idea that same sex attracted women don't exist. Otherwise why would you need to be a man rather han a same sex attracted woman?

I think the majority of men really aren't too choosy!

I have a great body but the resting bitch face would put me off, so no.

It's a strange question.

Firstly, I'm straight, so not for this reason to begin with.

When I think of women I consider attractive, I often think about certain features, such as skin tone, body type, hair colour, style etc. As I was born with different features to those I like in other women, the answer would probably be no, again. Thing is, their features or style wouldn't suit me.

I don't think any of this means I am rubbish or I look rubbish.

I also think if you don't feel good about yourself, others will find you less attractive no matter the effort you put in.

The goal is to enjoy yourself and make the most of what you've got, not set a threshold of whether you'd fancy yourself or not, this is neither here nor there.

@Hereforthebunfights oh bore off. There was no malice in the original post so stop searching for a reason to be offended.

I didn't say (or think) that there was malice in the original post, nor am I offended. I was just pointing something out.

This seems to highlight an interesting gender difference.

If a guy asks a guy what he looks like, you'll never get a lie. It will be right between the eyes, savage truth.

If a woman asks a woman what they look like, you'll (rarely, if ever) get the truth. It will always be a sugar-coated lie.

It's funny how women 'appear' to be complimented literally on a daily basis, but it seems none actually believe it based on the responses above. OK, I know the question is whether 'you' would find yourself attractive, but really, it's a question of 'do you feel attractive yourself'.

Sorry. I'm dragging this into discussion rather than 'fun game' :)

I'm nearly 72 with only one boob so, no, I wouldn't fancy me. I would have done up to about 5 years ago though.