Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

Sadly that's a common occurrence.

I mc between dcs. A 'friend' said "I don't get pg easily but I do hang on to them" Luckily I was pragmatic about the pregnancy and soon got pg again. But I'll never forget that. I still find it hard to believe someone would say it? She's on mn but no fucks given if she recognises herself. I don't see her thank God.

I would call that a compliment. "It's so big and fabulous it can't be real"

One of dh's horrible bosses to me
' your thick'
Was twenty odd years ago now and still grates

When I was doing a student placement one of the workers went through a list of her single friends and told me she would set me up with one of them. She said while gesturing towards me "Don't worry, he's blind so it's ok."

Re: engagement rings. I had a friend say very flatly, when I showed her mine, ‘real engagement rings have diamonds.’ She also told me the place where we got engaged - a place we’d only heard about but which had significance to us - wasn’t the place we thought it was, and we’d got it wrong(we hadn’t). I was so taken aback, and though I was very unsure of myself when I was young, and tended to defer to everyone else’s opinion, it was the first time in my life I’d thought so that’s what people mean when they say ‘they’re just jealous.’ Envious, really.

I think sometimes people struggle to know what to say and it’s incompetence rather than malice. I know a several people who have had this kind of comment after a miscarriage. I mean I understand there’s nothing wrong with just sticking to “ I’m so sorry,” but for some reason miscarriage seems to hit a blind spot for many people when it comes to offering sympathy as they really struggle to conceptualise it as “ loss” in the sense in which people experiencing it do. They seem to feel the helpful thing is to move someone quickly through it and on.

Fucking hell I hope you went NC

SIL - what days do you work?

Me - Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.

SIL - Hang on, Tuesday, Wednesday And Thursday?

Me - Yes?

SIL - well you know what that makes you then , T, W, A, T, you’re a TWAT!

Me - 😲😲😲

When I (aged 6) asked my Mum if she wanted to buy my school photo: “you’re old enough to know the truth; you’re too ugly for me to have on my mantelpiece”.

When I (aged 14) misheard someone’s Mother at a school event because I’m deaf: “how dare you show me up, she works with special kids and she’ll know you’re a retard”.

When I (aged 20) got cheated on by my first boyfriend: “you fucking prostitute, that wonderful boy must have thought you were so cheap for him to do that”.

When I (aged 23) asked if my Mum wanted tickets to my graduation: “oh my God. If you’ve got a degree then you should be clever enough to know that we’ve got better things to do than come and pretend to be proud of you”.

All these said by my so called Mother. I’m no contact now.

It’s s bit twatty in itself as a comment but you have to hand it to her that her verbal concepts are quite quick and strong.

My friend told me she had advised some people moving to our town of areas to avoid living in. It was the area where I lived…

An exbf told me once after I'd rightly had a go at him about something he'd done wrong that I was ugly without makeup. Years later after we'd split we bumped into each other and were catching up and he apologised saying he never meant it he was just annoyed. It's never left me though.

Someone told my DP he was good looking for a ginger.

I was in town with my friends 3months after giving birth and they stopped to talk to some guy I'd never met before who proceeded to berate me for still looking pregnant whilst my friends laughed. It took a while to detangle myself from them but it was the best thing I ever did. And if I looked pregnant I probably looked about 4mths (not the point lol)

I would think it was a compliment, I'm assuming it was a huge rock?

i had a wealthy school mum (she’s only wealthy because she married a man 10 years her senior, before her second marriage she was a divorced mum of two working in a shop) anyway this school mum said to me at the school gate in-front of other mums ‘You’re a low income family aren’t you? What’s it like being low income? Do you get free school meals and holiday vouchers? I wanted to slap her and remind her where she was before she married her older, unattractive and boring husband!

Of course it isn't bitchy, if a man can be said to be bitchy someone was very proudly showing off her new engagement ring, she was beyond excited. The man took her hand, looked at the ring and said A cute little gem!

My MiL said to my 6 yo DD ‘isn’t mummy mean that she doesn’t frame your drawings on the wall like I do’? I could write my own book on all the bitchy nasty things she’s said to me :( jealous and insecure. Does anyone else have an MiL that is a constant source of conflict in a marriage?

Jesus!
I really do not get the obsession with how or why others give birth or why c sections get labelled as not giving birth! A child is born it's just 1 type of way!

I had women comment on me having a waterbirth and how it must be magical blah blah the truth is I couldn't have pain relief other then gas and air (have a bad reaction and black out) so I needed it for pain relief. It wasn't some lovely gentle floaty calm experience.

Ok, I’ll go.

A colleague said about another, “She’s got an interesting new wardrobe… Channelling Sienna Miller’s boho look… But from Shein.”

thats the kinda comment expected from amanda clarke and victoria grayson.

that said, thats cold (the original comment)

The worst two I've had aimed at me...Background required....

My late husband's first wife acquired a boyfriend, so DH left her. Friends and relatives bought her story that she'd been abandoned and had gradually become close to a work colleague.

DH and I got married about 8 yrs after his divorce, 10 yrs after the separation. (At the end of the 2 yr separation, the ex actually asked DH to go back to her.)There was a big age difference.

She tried to spin the narrative that DH had left her for me, a younger woman. (Ironically, her boyfriend was younger - but he looked about the same age.)

I was always fairly plump. At one point, I lost my excess weight and finally was able to fit into nice clothes.

DH and I were invited to a 65th birthday party. When I got there, I realised to my horror that DH's ex and her boyfriend were also there. Still, I did my best to mingle, etc.

At one point, DH wandered off to speak to a pal. Immediately his back was turned, his ex homed in on me, in front of all the matrons in the hall.

"My! What a lovely dress! What a lovely colour! Mind you, you can wear it...being so YOUNG!"

I simply thanked her politely and she flounced off.

Cut to some years later. In the meantime, her BF had died. The chap whose birthday party we had attended had been widowed and she and he had become an item. Mainly because of her newer partner's influence, the relationship between us all became a bit more cordial.

The newer partner died. I felt sorry for her and took her to hospital for a day procedure when it became obvious that the kids weren't going to step in and help her. The kids became a bit nicer to me.

In the meantime, she acquired yet another man. (Less than a year between each death.)

My husband died during lockdown. The kids asked whether it was okay for their mother to represent them at the funeral. (I later found out that it had been her suggestion. Her latest man dropped her off and picked her up.)

I got a phone call from her before the funeral. She was friendly enough. Then: "Don't worry if you get some of the details for the eulogy wrong. I'll be the only one who knows."

You wanted a girl anyway, so it's no great loss. Besides, Mother Nature doesn’t make mistakes. Perhaps your loss will give you more empathy?

Cheers for that, DM.

On our engagement I had a comment from a 'friend' after she asked to see the ring - "oh that's lovely, if that's all you can afford"

Safe to say, 'friend' was swiftly removed from the guest list 🙄

OMG I'm so sorry.

i guess when i got told im strange, but for me and seeing tyron philosophy from game of thrones, if you know your strange etc then wear the name with pride.

My dad to me and my sister " X (me) is pretty but she's not attractive, Y (my sis) is attractive but she's not pretty". Yes, my bloody dad said that, and a lot more over the years.