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Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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DistinguishedSocialCommenator · 11/02/2024 16:29

At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

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TM1979 · 12/02/2024 11:19

A girl in my class in secondary school about an other girl in same class.
‘Yeah she has nice hair..shame about her face’

I dread to think what she used to say about me 😔

whenindoubtgotothelibrary · 12/02/2024 11:25

Thirty years ago I was 'scouted' by a model agent whilst out clothes shopping. I'm not pretty, but I was tall and skinny, and it was the early 90s, so peak Kate Moss era. I wasn't confident enough to follow it up, partly because when I told my not-very-nice boyfriend of the time, he said 'Oh, I suppose they need some ordinary people too'. Thankfully that relationship didn't last.

rooftopbird · 12/02/2024 11:32

When my perfect little boy was stillborn, my brother's girlfriend said it was for the best as he'd have been severely disabled anyway.
I'll never get that taste out of my mouth.

zendeveloper · 12/02/2024 11:34

A senior professional woman in a very male-dominated industry (even now, and when she started out she probably was one of a very few) was giving a speech about career and development (not female-centric - to a diverse group). The speech was ok, nothing groundbreaking, mostly about being kind to yourself and allowing to fail sometimes.

She was asked: "What did you find most difficult starting out as a woman in a male dominated industry, especially not being - I APOLOGISE, ERRR DON'T KNOW HOW TO PUT IT - conventionally attractive". By a young guy. She looked like she was hit with a brick, but managed to keep a straight face and turn it into a joke. She's my hero to this day, I'd probably burst into tears in her place.

ToHellBackAndBeyond · 12/02/2024 11:37

IHateLegDay · 12/02/2024 00:28

About 15 years ago (when my sister was an absolute bitch - she's got better with age) I had put on a bit of weight but it was a hot day so was wearing a skirt.
She walked past me and said "your legs are like tree trunks. Cover them because you're making me feel sick."
I haven't worn a skirt since.

My sister said the same to me when I was a teen. It hurt. She stayed a bitch till the day she died.

MrsDrakeRamoray · 12/02/2024 11:41

Not overly bitchy, but I was on a works night out - it was a dinner dance themed 80s night. I was having a good time, up dancing to all the songs and really enjoying myself. I wasn't dancing like an idiot or anything, just being normal lol.

Colleague on the Monday (who makes sure to tell everyone she does dancing lessons), said to me "You dance like you're trying to shift a wardrobe". I just laughed and said "I was too busy enjoying myself to care" and she then said "Well I guess someone needs to be that person"

dandeliondandy · 12/02/2024 11:42

I have to admit to being the one who made a (somewhat justifiably) bitchy comment that could have been an innocent comment that came out wrong. One of the managers at work who was full of herself and referred to her team as 'minions' and generally talked down to everyone came through as there were birthday cupcakes being served for someone in the team that came from a bespoke bakery. She dismissively said of the cupcakes 'Oh! Where are these from? Are these the cheap ones? I remember cupcakes from when I was a kid that were larger than this. Perhaps they have got smaller?'. Quick as a flash I said 'Or perhaps your mouth got bigger!'. Cue awkward silence before she retreated with flaming cheeks! I admit that it felt good! 😈

dandeliondandy · 12/02/2024 11:43

Also my mum was at a dinner party and was in the process of getting divorced from my stepfather. One of the women looked at her pointedly and said 'My God! How many husbands have you had?'. My mother just smiled and said 'Three including yours!'

betterangels · 12/02/2024 11:44

sockarefootwear · 12/02/2024 10:55

I once offered to do some washing for a friend when her washing machine broke and she couldn't get anyone to come and fix it for a few days (she a toddler and a baby so lots of washing). Her DH dropped a few bags of washing off, and also gave me washing tablets to use. As he was getting in his car to leave he stopped and shouted 'Don't forget to use our washing tablets, especially for my shirts- I can't go to work smelling common'.

I would have handed him the bags back.

Years ago, someone told me he found me interesting and intelligent. "What a shame you're disabled." He got the death stare and disappeared soon after. Utter twat.

tearsintherain · 12/02/2024 12:01

MIL when I was heavily pregnant saying, "Look how fat you have got! We'll need a JCB to lift you out of the chair!"
She said it with such spite too. I was young and it was my first baby, so was really self conscious about getting bigger (all natural baby weight, nothing excessive).

Somepeoplearesnippy · 12/02/2024 12:04

I'm known within our circle of friends for having the odd facial enhancement, nothing major but a bit of Botox, a threadlift, some semi-permanent makeup.

Recently at a party one friend who ever, ever thinks before she speaks spontaneously said to me "God you're beautiful - I wish I had your face'. So far so good!
I was a bit embarrassed and mumbled something about 'Thank you and I wish I had your lovely hair and your beautiful figure'. She replied very matter of factly "That's true and I could always buy your face'.

JudgeJ · 12/02/2024 12:05

Hocuspocusnonsense · 11/02/2024 22:12

i had a wealthy school mum (she’s only wealthy because she married a man 10 years her senior, before her second marriage she was a divorced mum of two working in a shop) anyway this school mum said to me at the school gate in-front of other mums ‘You’re a low income family aren’t you? What’s it like being low income? Do you get free school meals and holiday vouchers? I wanted to slap her and remind her where she was before she married her older, unattractive and boring husband!

Why didn't you say that?! Alternatively you should have said 'Oh but surely you can't have forgotten already'.

cupcakesarelife · 12/02/2024 12:08

years ago, I was visiting family. there was (still is) a new family member - she married my cousin (I'll refer to her as new bride). she was lovely and intelligent and pretty. anyway, i think my other cousin's wife didn't like her, it was obvious with her body language.

later in the evening, the cousins wife's kid (5 year old) randomly started saying to the new bride that she has a massive chin (she doesn't). and he kept saying it over and over and then blurted out that his mum said it.

the new bride was super cool and said, "it's not nice to say mean things about people" - she said it gently to the kid and he said sorry.

so that made for an awkward evening.

Muffit · 12/02/2024 12:08

My work college, 8 to 10 yesrs ago.( I never forgot it) After meeting my husband, asking how I managed to get a husband like him.
Meaning somrone like me not attractive enough, or boring, uneducated not actually sure.

She is a very depresded unhappy type of person, even if I had thoughts like that I would never say something like that to someone awful.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 12/02/2024 12:10

StockpotSoup · 12/02/2024 10:41

One I’ll always remember from years back at school, because I think there was kind enough intent in the remark - it just didn’t quite come across that way…

There was a girl in my class with very fuzzy hair - not curly, not straight or even wavy; just a sort of bush. She’d had it cut into a bob, presumably thinking it would be easier to manage, but it actually made it worse; it looked a bit like she had a dome on her head. She had a perm a few days later as a kind of rescue attempt.

I was sitting in my science lesson a couple of days later and one of my classmates said to me, “Hannah’s hair looks better, doesn’t it?” I agreed. Then she said, “Not… nice, exactly. But definitely better.”

Isn't that just factual? Bitchy would be saying it to her face

Fraaahnces · 12/02/2024 12:12

My mum:- “They only resuscitated you because they didn’t think I could have other kids. I’ve regretted that they did ever since I was pregnant with your brother.”
Also, “I never knew love until I had your brother.”
On her deathbed - “You were right. It was your rabbit we had for dinner, not chicken.”

katseyes7 · 12/02/2024 12:12

I used to have awful hormonal acne all over my chin for years. An elderly distant in-law said to me ‘It’s a shame; you could be so pretty if it wasn’t for all that’ (gesturing around his chin area).
I had cystic acne when l was in my early teens, I was devastated and so embarrassed about it. I felt like my face looked like a pizza.
My mother said "Well, you don't take after me. I've never had a spot in my life."

GoodHeavens99 · 12/02/2024 12:18

rooftopbird · 12/02/2024 11:32

When my perfect little boy was stillborn, my brother's girlfriend said it was for the best as he'd have been severely disabled anyway.
I'll never get that taste out of my mouth.

I'm so sorry you went through that. 💐

MrsDrakeRamoray · 12/02/2024 12:19

Fraaahnces · 12/02/2024 12:12

My mum:- “They only resuscitated you because they didn’t think I could have other kids. I’ve regretted that they did ever since I was pregnant with your brother.”
Also, “I never knew love until I had your brother.”
On her deathbed - “You were right. It was your rabbit we had for dinner, not chicken.”

I am so so sorry that you had to go through that.

StockpotSoup · 12/02/2024 12:20

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 12/02/2024 12:10

Isn't that just factual? Bitchy would be saying it to her face

Well, I’m not sure I agree that a comment is only bitchy if you say it to someone’s face - otherwise no one would ever get upset about being gossiped about.

The point with this one was that I think she started out genuinely trying to be nice, but still came out a bit bitchy. It was basically “Her hair looks less shit”, which as compliments go is up there with telling someone they look like a million lire!

UniversalAunt · 12/02/2024 12:20

XenoBitch · 11/02/2024 16:47

One that was aimed at me. Left a pub, and everyone was hugging each other goodbye. One lady, who I considered a friend and I thought was pretty decent, hugged me and whispered into my ear "just because I am hugging you, doesn't mean I like you".

‘Likewise’

ProcrastinationCentral · 12/02/2024 12:21

Mother In Law- 'What does your mum think of her new daughter in law?'
Me- 'Oh she loves her'
MIL- 'Ah! The honeymoon period!'

Februaryfeels · 12/02/2024 12:22

Look at your hair, it's like a Brillo pad

Can I touch it

Ewwww it feels like a Brillo pad too

xile · 12/02/2024 12:29

LuluBlakey1 · 11/02/2024 18:05

It's hard to imagine how you could sleep with someone any other way than 'knowingly'.

Unless you have to ask if it's in yet?

GoodHeavens99 · 12/02/2024 12:32

MissingMoominMamma · 12/02/2024 10:38

I had a boyfriend in my 20s who was part of the ‘Cheshire Set’.

Comments from his friends included, “It’s been so long since I heard a northern accent, I honestly thought they’d died out.” Delivered with a laugh.

”Do your collar and cuffs match?” (I’m a redhead).

Sneering ”You look poor- I’ll give you a grand if you let me fuck you.”

”You’ll never fit in, no matter how fit you are.”

”Are you going to get pregnant to trap him?”

That was the tip of the iceberg. All from men; never said in front of my boyfriend. We lasted about a year, then I could stand it no more. His parents, on the other hand, were absolutely lovely. They hadn’t grown up with privilege, they’d earned it.

Did you ever tell him?