Whats the most t bitchiest comment you have ever heard?

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At work, local gov environment - we sat nattering on our desks and a colleague walked in from a client visit and wished one of my work-mates, "Congrats on your engagement

That was fine until my co-worker stuck out her hand to show of her diamond ring set in white gold I think it was.

The workmate who walked in said, "is that real." Honestly, she was being serious and had not noted what she had done by her insensitive comments

Have you got something to share that was insensitive?

A couple of years after I lost my DH to cancer, I met the man who is now my husband and we moved to a different area, closer to his family, as I had none of my own. While out shopping one day I bumped into an old school friend I hadn’t seen for years. During the course of the conversation I told her about my bereavement and her reaction was that I must have been devastated. When she asked how I had ended up in the area I told her that we had moved to be closer to my then fiancé’s family, to which she replied, ‘so not that devastated then’. I made my excuses and left.

From apparent friend at school "your sister is really pretty. You aren't"

I had a boyfriend in my 20s who was part of the ‘Cheshire Set’.

Comments from his friends included, “It’s been so long since I heard a northern accent, I honestly thought they’d died out.” Delivered with a laugh.

”Do your collar and cuffs match?” (I’m a redhead).

Sneering ”You look poor- I’ll give you a grand if you let me fuck you.”

”You’ll never fit in, no matter how fit you are.”

”Are you going to get pregnant to trap him?”

That was the tip of the iceberg. All from men; never said in front of my boyfriend. We lasted about a year, then I could stand it no more. His parents, on the other hand, were absolutely lovely. They hadn’t grown up with privilege, they’d earned it.

I was in my early twenties, desperate to prove myself and to be "successful," and at the time I think I was almost too shocked to address it in the way I now would as a thirty something. Instead, I asked my "buddy" in ear shot of this conversation - who I was shadowing - if this was normal practice and if people typically laugh about people who are mentally unstable and unwell. She told me she just lets those comments "go over her head" and that everyone has their own way of dealing with the "dark" parts of the job. I did put it down to a few bad people working there, but realised as the week went by that the whole office and culture within it was totally disgusting. Even the way they would celebrate "yes, I've got a quadraplegic, this will be piss easy" etc. It was like even when they thought they were saying or doing something positive, it was still insulting. The people who laughed about suicide were a physio and paramedic by background, though someone who had mental health nursing experience was also laughing at the comments.

An ex told his friend “She’s not much to look at but she’s got a cracking personality” said about me.

One I’ll always remember from years back at school, because I think there was kind enough intent in the remark - it just didn’t quite come across that way…

There was a girl in my class with very fuzzy hair - not curly, not straight or even wavy; just a sort of bush. She’d had it cut into a bob, presumably thinking it would be easier to manage, but it actually made it worse; it looked a bit like she had a dome on her head. She had a perm a few days later as a kind of rescue attempt.

I was sitting in my science lesson a couple of days later and one of my classmates said to me, “Hannah’s hair looks better, doesn’t it?” I agreed. Then she said, “Not… nice, exactly. But definitely better.”

My eldest son was leaving primary school, at the school they did various prizes for the leavers, like best at sport, kindest etc but there was a top prize for the top pupil of the year. They could get this for any reason but it was generally for someone who stood out a bit in some way or as an all rounder. Well that year a girl got it, she was very bright, I mean stand out bright and she was a nice kid but a bit shy so not as standout as some had been. Her mum was upset and I asked what was wrong and she said people were being nasty about her daughter winning it. I said to take no notice, she was a very nice little girl and very bright, they were probably jealous.

Roll on 3 years and her son and my 2nd son were now the leavers and my son won the top prize, he was bright, he was captain of the football team, he was musical so not an unreasonable choice. She was waiting outside school with another mum as I walked up and I heard them being nasty about my son winning, she was saying she couldn't understand why he got it, he wasn't that bright and she'd never liked him. I said hello in a loud voice and looked at her, she visibly shrank and I hope she felt as embarrassed as she looked.

12yo DSD to me as I left the house for work:

'You look nice today! Considering...'

Giveth with one hand, taketh with the other 😂

I was a benefit adviser for over ten years and your posts pretty much explain why so much of my time was taken up with ‘drip’ appeals involving some of the most disabled and vulnerable people who had been on the receiving end of terrible decisions. Well done for trying to give as many positive decisions as possible in your short time there though.

Comments about weight

’You’re so big, in fact you’re bigger than me’

Really wish I’d have said ‘yes, you and me are twins’.

Had horrendous PND and had been unable to establish breastfeeding with my newborn. I rang a friend in tears to telling her how much I was struggling and how guilty I felt formula feeding….she said all the right things on the call. A week later she post on Facebook that giving babies formula is giving them their first taste of junk food.

My careers master scoffed when I told him I would like to be a nurse. He said oh I think you would be better in an office.
I was a Staff Nurse, Matron and then a manager. 40 years ago. Never forgotten.
Have that Mr McLeod. !! 😀

My brother got into Cambridge Uni, very good grades etc.

I wasn’t doing great at that point in my life (understatement - school drop out etc). My Grandmother to me: “Never mind dear. You’ve got a pretty face. You can marry a nice rich man.”

Thanks Grandma, but a BA(Hons) and MSc later, and no rich man was needed. Or indeed wanted.

I once offered to do some washing for a friend when her washing machine broke and she couldn't get anyone to come and fix it for a few days (she a toddler and a baby so lots of washing). Her DH dropped a few bags of washing off, and also gave me washing tablets to use. As he was getting in his car to leave he stopped and shouted 'Don't forget to use our washing tablets, especially for my shirts- I can't go to work smelling common'.

From a so called friend "I heard that one of your children is very intelligent".

I replied " No. They are both amazing ".

Apparently she was told this by her cousin. The cousin was my very good friend and a teacher.

@MissingMoominMamma those comments are dreadful but also priceless! Hipe you didnt let them sting too much. Says so much more about the speaker than you, obviously, same with 99% of the comments reported on here.

Agree with pp who said sadly the most birltchy comments appear here on mnet imo. I've been rounded on, accused of faking, gold digging, called all sorts of names.

Ended up quite hurt due to comments on here which were not related to original post, just pp's feeding off eachother at my expense.

OneRedBalloon · Yesterday 20:11

... she swanned past me she leaned in and said "You're actually quite pretty when you put makeup on".

It's a shame you didn't think to say, "Yeah, but no matter how much you slap on, you still look rough."

If that wasn't a joke I would have handed him the bags back

@Londonlassy I hope you dumped her?

@sockarefootwear I'd have either given the shirts back or left them in the washer overnight.

It’s sort of an insult dressed up in a compliment. On the face of it, “Your top still looks really good” sounds nice - but underneath, it’s making a point of how old the top is; it’s saying “You’re still wearing that old top, even though I gave the one I had to Oxfam years ago”.

It’s a bit like saying, “I always think how nice that dress looks every time you wear it.”

That absolutely IS the bitchiest of comments! What a cow.

Female PE teacher, commenting to a bunch of girls about a girl flailing round the race track. ''God, Catherine, she's such an amoeba!'' It was the way she said it, with such a sneer on her face.

Let's hope karma bites her bum eh?

Not all of us are cut out for the 200m race.

I was shocked to hear that from an adult (was about 14 at the time), and they way she invited us to bullying.

When I was a kid we were all invited to some day time get-together or other at my parents' friends house one Sunday, and one of the other guests said to the hostess 'Oh, that's a nice top you're wearing'. The hostess said 'Thank you! It's from M&S' and the other woman pulled a slightly disgusted face and said 'Oh, well I suppose you're lucky that cheap clothes look good on you.'

Basically implies they/their partner can't afford nice things, that other things they wear look cheap as this stands out so much, or potentially that the ring looks super tacky as it looks fake.