The shit has gone.

[Shithole101]

Just wanted to do a little update just as a reminder to myself really.

So with my house I'm continuing making it into a home. So far I have managed to decorate ds 7&8 room and they absolutely love it and have managed to keep it tidy.

The living room was done a while back.

My room I have done very recently. I'm pleased with it. I just need to ad bedside drawers. New duvet etc when I can . But it basically done.

Next room to do is teen dd. We are trying to think what to do with her room . Teens are hard 😅

I need to ask teen ds what he wants with his room. But ik not asking till I'm ready to.

I then need to do the bathrooms and kitchen , hall and stairs. I have no idea what.

Tidy/cleaning wise. I'm mainly keeping on top of it. I have bad days here and there. But not like before. I don't let it get over whelming. Today has been a bad day to be honest. But the weekend is coming up and I will be able to get things done.

My front garden is OK. But it does need a good sweep/hose down. I'm hoping the rain might stop over the half term and the kids can help me plant flowers /plants . Any ideas what I could plant that's easy to look after?

I feel much better mentally and emotionally. Not 100% but definitely getting there. The more positive things I have been able to do the better I feel. I do still feel a bit scared of some things. But that's getting better to.

I feel like all the years of shit i/we have been Through. I'm starting to turn a corner and hopefully life is going to be better hopefully for sometime to come because I feel like I have had more than my/our share of shit. Its time to be happy now 😊

I know this means sweet FA to most people 🤣

Congrats, that is fantastic, you have worked wonders already, so keep up the momentum.

Have you had a previous thread - I think I may have seen one?

Thank you . Yes a handful of threads

You are brilliant

I love your threads

🙌👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻well done OP I recall your threads! Keep it up!

🤩👏👏👏🤩lavender is easy, just needs a clip in the autumn, grows back every year. Comes in white and many shades of purple, will grow anywhere!

I like lavender but I think it= lots if bees / wasps. Don't like the thought of that😅

Thank you. I will do.my best 👌

Hi op I love reading your threads. Just wanted to say keep going you’re doing a fantastic job. Your kids must be happy and proud of you 😊

So nice to hear your updates. Don't worry about days when you're not feeling it. We all need to rest and recoup occasionally, and think about what's next.

For your garden, what direction does it face?

Clumps of ornamental grasses look good and they are very low maintenance. You can trim them back in the late autumn when growing season is over and they come back in the spring. If you plant them in rows they look very tidy. Boxwood bushes are nice and easy too. You can shape them so they look as if someone cares about them. You won't get Bees or wasps with either of those. You could also do bedding plants in containers near your door to add a little colour. In winter you can stick twigs and evergreen branches into the containers for a Christmassy look.

Don’t forget to take time to sit back and enjoy what you’ve already achieved.
🌺🌺❤️.

Fabulous! That said, it sounds like you deserve to be happy.

As long as it’s under windows or along fences and not directly along a pathway it’s fine

Please consider lavender!

Yes it attracts bees, but it’s actually really relaxing watching them move from one sprig to the next just doing their thing. They really don’t bother you.

Its such a beautiful colour and smells amazing, you can pop a little bit in your room to help you sleep.

Thats my little lavender talk over! Well done OP I’ve followed all of your threads and you are doing so well!

I don't know what way my garden faces . I'm pretty sure my back garden faces south . I get the sin fron early morning till evening in the summer. No shadows. I'm not sure about the front. I just looked at ornamental grasses. I quite like it. I will put it on my list.
I was thinking some sort of planter near my door to cheer it up a bit. The area for planting in the ground is really small. It's maybe 2ft by 5ft

I definitely will. 💐

I do really like lavender. And memories of pretending it's perfume as a kid 😅. But ds the one who has autism would get so stressed by it. So would GS actually. So it's not worth the stress and upset. I do like it though.

And thank you. 😊

Ahh I didn’t think of that, you’re right!

Its really good to hear you’re feeling better, I said something on a previous thread about it not being a straight line but you’d get there in the end. Hopefully you’re on a straight bit of line for a good while now!

Definitely am. Thank you . Hopefully a straight line for a while it's needed 😅

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“The shit has gone.”

Time to change your username then OP!

You've worked very hard to make a lovely home for you and your children, put your feet up for a bit and enjoy it 😊

Well done!
If the back garden is south, the front is likely to be north- a bit cooler, damper, sun never shines directly on it. The sun never in your eyes when you open the door.

It’s often easiest to see what your neighbours have got doing well. When they are out gardening, say hello and ask them what their plants are, if they seem friendly. Often you’ll notice people- especially older people- have the same things because they do well and they share them around.

At a guess, I’d suggest hellebore (Easter/christmas rose), ferns, bluebells.

But plants can be expensive so it’s more about getting things as you see them (or are offered by neighbours). You want to go for shade loving plants. Woodland plants.

So lovely to hear all your positive progress.
Some days l find l can achieve more than others, but l don't feel bad if l take note of my energy levels and rest up for a while, l don't consider that a bad day, it's necessary.
Tidying up my home redecorating and furnishing wise is a long term project as it's just me and l work loads of hours, but l don't let it stress me. I'm holding my own, paying all my bills on time, safe, warm and well fed. I will get there in time. My garden is a work of art, thats my passion and where you'll find me in the summer. I grow a lot of old fashioned roses, climbers and plants, chocabloc, l love it.

I will take a look. Thank you

It's not 100% shit free. I should have saidshit almost gone 🤣

I don't feel like its 100% there yet. But I can do things in more of a relaxed Manor and it's not gross anymore so that's all good

I think we all had the same plants. All 6 houses were new built and we were the first to move in. I ruined /pulled mine out when I got stressed over the garden . So I Nedd to start again. I'm gonna look at Google images for the ones you said