The shit has gone.

[Shithole101]

Just wanted to do a little update just as a reminder to myself really.

So with my house I'm continuing making it into a home. So far I have managed to decorate ds 7&8 room and they absolutely love it and have managed to keep it tidy.

The living room was done a while back.

My room I have done very recently. I'm pleased with it. I just need to ad bedside drawers. New duvet etc when I can . But it basically done.

Next room to do is teen dd. We are trying to think what to do with her room . Teens are hard 😅

I need to ask teen ds what he wants with his room. But ik not asking till I'm ready to.

I then need to do the bathrooms and kitchen , hall and stairs. I have no idea what.

Tidy/cleaning wise. I'm mainly keeping on top of it. I have bad days here and there. But not like before. I don't let it get over whelming. Today has been a bad day to be honest. But the weekend is coming up and I will be able to get things done.

My front garden is OK. But it does need a good sweep/hose down. I'm hoping the rain might stop over the half term and the kids can help me plant flowers /plants . Any ideas what I could plant that's easy to look after?

I feel much better mentally and emotionally. Not 100% but definitely getting there. The more positive things I have been able to do the better I feel. I do still feel a bit scared of some things. But that's getting better to.

I feel like all the years of shit i/we have been Through. I'm starting to turn a corner and hopefully life is going to be better hopefully for sometime to come because I feel like I have had more than my/our share of shit. Its time to be happy now 😊

I know this means sweet FA to most people 🤣

This is awesome! It’s really inspiring to hear what you’ve achieved.

I am not at all a naturally tidy person but a few years ago I got my act together and I now I keep on top of everything. It becomes habit. It’s made a massive difference to my mental health living in a calm (well apart from the kids) and ordered home.

Yes I will do . I just got to find the measure tape . So I can get the Size

Yeah it will get done. I'm just waiting for energy to kick in

I don't think I can do the garden for like a week or so. It's Been raining for days. I'm thinking the boys might like to help when I do it .

I feel like im getting there. I think its at a normal level of mess for a family. I semi neglected it for a few days partly because I was sorting my room so I did not really do any tidying . Then last few days I have been very drained. So considering I have done hardly nothing last few days its not to bad. And yes definitely helping mentally.

Gardening is all in the planning I always start my pots mid march or late october depending on what I plant so don't rush it, read up on what you might fancy, what will look right for you and start looking for the pots you might like. Gardens grow all year so there is really no hard and fast rules.

I like to grow tomato plants in pots, my dgs really like helping with these, its great to eat your harvest and I think they look very attractive too.

Yeah I was thinking maybe March ish mogjt be best . I mean if I get a reasonable day or 2 before that then I could make a start. I will probably just do plants though rather than veg etc . I still have a small hippo bag out there anyway. Also the path area has done green so I need to sort that to. Anyway that's another day

Ffs as soon as I started doing stuff teen ds started at me. All I got to do was rip up one box. He does not know when to stop ffs I just want to be left alone

Ds helped me take the chair apart in the end . So that was helpful.

He just kind of flicked me with his hand in my face . He was messing about and joking. There was no bad vibe or anything. But im not ready for that sort of shit it just really threw me emotionally

Oh dear. Does he realise? Kids can be simultaneously very sensitive and very insensitive.

It’s the worst thing about kids, for me. The way you can’t pop them in a cupboard when you need a break from them.

I hope you are feeling a bit better.

I don't even know. He's gone to his room now. The boys are watching marvel. Dd is in her room as well . So its peaceful again

Aww bless my youngest 2 they love each other so much. There's the whole sofa to sit on and they sit together all the time litterly skin to skin. But with clothes on. Ds7 just made chocolate pancakes for them both . I hope they stay like that forever 😭

@Shithole101 That is very sweet! How old are they both?
Mine were like that when little, always together, if you found one you found all three!
My eldest dd is 18 off to university this year and she still lays in bed with her younger sister 11 and reads Harry Potter to her (current book series)cuddles and tucks her in every single night! It’s been their thing for so long that when she leaves for university I think youngest dd will miss her tremendously and struggle for some time, they’ve made a promise to do the reading over FaceTime which is very sweet. Ds 15 still gets on really well and they can all be found together plotting against the world, they still out of choice go ice skating, woodland walk etc together which is nice, ds is not into the bed time routine anymore 😂.

Aww bless I hope mine are like that when they are older. They are 7&8I keep thinking they may grow out of it. I hope they don't. It's lovely that's yours have such a great relationship.

@Shithole101 I did it! Not as good as what I had wanted but much better, thanks for the inspo 😀

Ah well done looks great. It's easier to get to things when they are sorted . 👌. I have the same plastic containers as you the ones with the holes in. But mine is on the worktop above the washing machine . It encourages me to clean if it's in sight.

Agree with others about changing your username now op!

I love your threads, especially with progress photos!

If you're exhausted from all of the cleaning and decorating, have a well deserved day off to rest to yourself - you'll feel loads better the following day.

Following because I need something to plant in our garden too - everything I plant never survives! Right now I have daffodils coming through from bulbs I planted last year, so that's a plus, but that's it. Can't wait for the weather to break and everything to dry out.

I'm not really ready to do the garden yet . But I have been feeling a bit low over past few days or so. So I thought I would have a look anyway. I Need to find some gravel and soil but I need to get it delivered. It feels so hard without a car . Large plant pots I can probably get from amazon.

@Shithole101 do you have any stores within walking distance with you not having a car? If you do, or if you can get there, Home Bargains and B&M usually have some lovely planters and pots in from Spring onwards, really good prices too

I can get to b&m by 20ish bus ride . But I might Just do it via amazon. I'm not keen on taking large pots on a bus see what I find first though

I’ve got a little pile of ‘stuff’ building up in my office behind where I sit. I’ll have a bit of extra time before logging on for work tomorrow as it’s the holidays and I won’t need to be wrangling with others to get up and out so I’m going to treat myself and deal with the pile!
Quite excited about it now 😂
It’s a random collection of things that didn’t have homes, a few things dd didn’t want to take back to uni, some stuff that got missed after Christmas (couple of rolls of ribbon etc), and then some empty boxes - quite why it’s all still there and I haven’t bothered dealing with it yet I have no idea, I hate piles of anything building up anywhere but I think because my office is just my space I just figure it’s not bothering anyone else in there and it’s not in anyone’s way so it’s not a priority… but it should be!