The shit has gone.

[Shithole101]

Just wanted to do a little update just as a reminder to myself really.

So with my house I'm continuing making it into a home. So far I have managed to decorate ds 7&8 room and they absolutely love it and have managed to keep it tidy.

The living room was done a while back.

My room I have done very recently. I'm pleased with it. I just need to ad bedside drawers. New duvet etc when I can . But it basically done.

Next room to do is teen dd. We are trying to think what to do with her room . Teens are hard 😅

I need to ask teen ds what he wants with his room. But ik not asking till I'm ready to.

I then need to do the bathrooms and kitchen , hall and stairs. I have no idea what.

Tidy/cleaning wise. I'm mainly keeping on top of it. I have bad days here and there. But not like before. I don't let it get over whelming. Today has been a bad day to be honest. But the weekend is coming up and I will be able to get things done.

My front garden is OK. But it does need a good sweep/hose down. I'm hoping the rain might stop over the half term and the kids can help me plant flowers /plants . Any ideas what I could plant that's easy to look after?

I feel much better mentally and emotionally. Not 100% but definitely getting there. The more positive things I have been able to do the better I feel. I do still feel a bit scared of some things. But that's getting better to.

I feel like all the years of shit i/we have been Through. I'm starting to turn a corner and hopefully life is going to be better hopefully for sometime to come because I feel like I have had more than my/our share of shit. Its time to be happy now 😊

I know this means sweet FA to most people 🤣

I'm glad your doing so well. You sound very proud. Yes things take time to . I hope you enjoy doing them. Your garden sounds lovely 💐

www.gardenersworld.com/plants/the-best-shade-loving-plants/

Some suggestions from BBC Gardener' World magazine for the shade.

Oh yay, go you!!

I love lavender and plant that all over. Easy to chop back and you could even sell the clippings to crafters.

If your back garden faces south then your front garden must face north unless it's on a weird angle.

Do you have a compass on your phone? Most/all smart phones do and that will tell you.

I always enjoy your threads and updates - your little boys' room was amazing. But it would be much easier to keep up to date with your progress if you had one thread you updated on!

Thank you

I can't read a compass . Don't they always point north or something but yeah I thought front garden was probably north 🤣

Thank you kids still love the room . DD wants to ds GS room ad well which Is nice.

Sorry I know its frustrating when I make new threads . There's a mix of a reason I do it . One is sometimes they become negative. Depending where I am emotionally/mentally I sort of run away from the negative stuff. Hence to threads other times I can take it and don't care . Also it depends how I'm thinking some times i see it as a new chapter/page. Also sometimes people don't read updates and I end up explaining old ish stuff over and over .

Glad to have caught up with you again! You're doing really well, even though you can't always see it. Gardening I'm rubbish at but can say don't plant hostas or anything that calls itself ground coverage! I'm moving to tubs planting this year instead of ground as I think it'll be easier to keep on top of. Normally buy pansies etc from b& m. Maybe a competition for the kids who can grow the biggest sunflower etc?

I was thinking about doing large pots instead of the actual ground . I forgot till you just said 🤣. I was going to do gravel. Then large plant pots

You're doing an amazing job, I've read your other threads and I admire how far you've come.
You don't give yourself enough credit!

Yeah, I just think it might be easier. I was looking under my kitchen sink today and it's full of crap so I'm taking a leaf out of your book and that's tomorrow job. I'm chucking all the half used bottles out and going to have only bleach for floors, diluted zoflora for kitchen and bathroom and hot soapy water for everything else. I've already swapped soap powder to the sheet things so they take up less room too! I may do a before and after pic! also seen somewhere on here that every time you go upstairs take something up and vice versa for downstairs so am putting that into practice too. Thank you in advance for inspiring me 😀

Ah maybe use them up first. I don't really have a pattern to the things I use . . I have my cleaning things in a plastic box above my washing machine at the moment. It encourages me to use them if I see them 😅 the pick up thing only works for me if it belongs in thr kitchen really. I don't really go up stairs all day. Unless I'm tidying

@Shithole101 you have inspired me! I don't live in a shithole and never have but I do have jobs that I bloody hate doing, because of you I have cleaned the oven, washed all the wooden shutters and cleared out the 'drawer of doom'.

Good luck with your on going projects, tbh a house and garden are never really 'finished' because we live in them but its so much nicer to live in clean comfy environment, I believe its very good for mental health to have a calming pleasant home.

Oh I have 3 deep drawers of doom . Drawer 1 has paper work /ds asd ,ehcp reports etc . Other 2 drawers sod knows. I just figured as long as its hidden I don't care 😅

I think your definitely right about the mental health side of it. That's partly why I have been doing it. Even if there's other stuff going on . It still helps having a tidy home . Even though at times I can't think that way mentally . But at the moment I can 😊

Well done @Shithole101. It's so hard to make a start but you've done great.

I feel like its going to be one of them days 😭. The rubber door seal came of the washing machine it just took me a while to fix it. I thought there was a bag of washing waiting to be washed its been sitting there for 3 days . Turns out it was wet . Ds had taken it out of the machine dumped it in laundry bag . I had not realised so now I have to wash that again.

I have been so tired and drained theses last few days as well . When something like that gos wrong it feels like a big thing . When it's not .

My head is saying yeah do this do that. Get it done. My body is saying sit on your fat butt and waste another day 😭

If you're exhausted, then taking a day off from tackling chores is not wasting the day, sitting around on your "fat butt".

It's rest & recovery, which are both SO important. Especially when healing from trauma and poor mental health.

Choose 1 thing, easily manageable thing to do if you need to, but otherwise see that taking time to rest is also productive. Your body & mind needs it.

I sat on my butt yesterday though 😅. But yeah I'm just doing little bits to be honest. I'm going to get the kids to help me rip up boxes etc tonight/tomorrow.

Its frustrating because my mind wants to do it but I'm very drained. I guess ut could be worse. If I did not want to do it 🤔

Get that wet washing redone- it’s not really another job, it’s the same job you planned but with different clothes in!

I view a day of doing very little as ‘recharging my energy ready for another day’.

I’ve been thinking about your front garden, since realising it’s a new build. Gravel is definitely the way to go, with pots on top.

New builds have rubbish soil, compacted by machinery and full of rubble. It’s an absolute bugger to dig into. We’re 13 years in and I still dread putting in a plant- I’ve used mulch, earthworms, compost, plants specifically there to break up the soil… and it’s still hard work.

So keep some of those boxes to thickly cover the area before gravelling it. That will stop anything trying to grow through.

The washing is a circle.

It's half term now so that will make it easier in some ways .

The garden. I dag the back garden about 12 ish inches deep when I put fake grass down. There was no issues with building stuff left behinde . I don't know about the front . But either way I think gravel and large pots might still be easier.

Well since 4pm all I have done is tare up a box and put it in the bin.

Would it be ok to put theses things for free collection. I have a carpet wich was not down long but does have a mark from a drink. It might come out . I also have a blue cabinet. But a handle is missing and there's no hard board thing on the back. Oh and I have underlay

You can always put it on FB marketplace for free collection, it may not be worth the hassle though!

I might try because it will be hard for me to get rid of. So probably nothing to loose by trying

It's big tidy up weekend. The boys are not at their dad's this weekend. Would have been handy. Never mind . Have had to delay decorating teen dd room .

I'm so tired my eyes feel heavy even though I have slept. I'm going to force myself to do stuff though. I have no plans for the weekend so time is on my side

I need to rip up and bin several boxes, I Need to get rid of carpet and underlay. I Need to take apart a small arm chair. But its a recliner so I don't know how that will work.

Need to clean the kitchen, hallway stairs . Sort out the drying cupboard, clean the bathrooms , do washing . Wash the floors

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Come on gal! you can do this, the sense of satisfaction of a job done is a great boost.

As to your front garden, try and think of what you are planning for as a treat for yourself, a few new pots, planted up and looking lovely for the spring, even a bit of container gardening is good for the soul, growing things is so satisfying . Don't forget to buy a watering can, you will need one (don't bugger about with a jug, makes the job too bloody long and annoying )

Facebook post first, so it can be running while you do other things.

Then messy jobs.

Then cleaning jobs. At least, that’s my preferred order!