Traditions we have lost?

[Lydara22]

Brought on by family circumstance currently, I remembered that when I was a child, my mother always closed all of the curtains in the house as a respectful sign of mourning.
We don't do that anymore do we?

What other respectful traditions have we lost?

We still write thank you and Christmas cards. We also have carol singers. People still pause head slightly bent when we have a funeral. A harvest supper and collection still happen every year. Children still celebrate by dancing around the May pole.

I don’t see many guys now on fireworks night. I think it’s considered poor taste now.

Not so many ‘driving’ gloves or silk gloves around anymore. Flesh coloured tights seem to be a thing of the past.
Perms are extinct.
Sunday best is out - ditto church services
A Sunday drive
I am pleased most people still greet each other here on a walk, but not everywhere.
Village doctors, priests and other authority figures have evaporated.

Being considerate of other people

I was brought up to say please and thank you, give up my seat on a bus, hold doors open. I Knew better to do the above cos not to would have meant trouble for me.

Giving a new born baby silver coins for luck was a London tradition.

In Glasgow and other parts of Scotland too, usually popped in the bottom of the pram.

I remember those, I'm from the north east. They were called a 'hoy oot'

I always bow my head when I see a funeral cortège, and does anyone still do the putting a silver coin in the hand of a baby who you meet for the first time? Used to be very common up north, but when I did it down south for the first time, I had to explain. My mam said the first few weeks of pushing a pram around with a newborn in could be very lucrative as it wasn't only family and Freind's, if you were at a bus stop or in a queue ladies would be pushing money in the baby's hand.

My mum also never let us eat in the street. She saw it as vulgar (or greedy to not wait and eat somewhere more private) but also inconsiderate of people who may be very hungry.

Being proud of our country - if you do or say anything, you’re accused of being a racist and/or a thug. And, god forbid, you fly a Cross of St George…… alright for St Andrew and a Dragon though.

our village school still does maypole dancing and has a may king and queen.

I’m obviously living in a time warp as those things still happen here! Thank you cards only to people my daughter doesn’t see regularly or doesn’t have the gift handed to her.

Snap and people would ring the school and report sightings of girls in st x uniform eating in the street !

An awful lot of stuff mentioned still goes on in the West Country. Sad to hear so much has died out elsewhere. Time to revive!

Just to add to yours OP, my nan would make us stop and bow our heads and do the sign of the cross when a funeral procession went passed.
I still can’t help but stop if one drives past or do an internal sign of the cross in my head 😂.

Absolutely this! A lot of people just do whatever they want with huge entitlement.

We still first foot at New Year. Carol singing is a natural casualty of things like school assemblies not having a religious element and lower church attendance.

We still do both of those things!

Being able to call out rude children in public as a stranger

Same in Liverpool, still happens a lot.

Also seen someone mention doing the roseary the night before a funeral, which is something we still do. We also brought my nan home after she passed and lots of neighbours and old friends knocked to come and sit with the coffin and say their own prayers. I thought it was really lovely.

I think people used to be a lot more social then they are now - maybe it’s a lockdown hangover thing? There was a thread about this recently actually. Just popping into someone’s house for a cuppa and a catch up. My mum and dad and grandparents would religiously go out on a Friday or Saturday night and get all dressed up for a few drinks.

A couple of independent shops in my mums village still do this. Tesco extra doesn't of course!

Wearing clothes such that underwear is never visible. I don't want to see a teenage man's underpants.

Some of these I'm glad have gone, a lot of the ones around weddings particularly, the groom carrying the bride over the threshold, garters etc. Also half day closing, obligatory Sunday roast etc.

My DC were heartily relieved when they were allowed to start texting their thank yous instead of letter writing, the same here, I remember years of excruciating awkwardness trying to write since thank yous to elderly aunties I didn't really know for things I didn't like, it was only as an adult that I really got the hang of it.

Funerals, people still tend to stop in the street here, but I haven't noticed curtains being drawn. I've only ever been in two funeral processions myself and they were a blur. I've never been at home when any have taken place in our street so no idea if people still come out. I would if I was at home and knew it was happening.

Most people still hold doors open. But there are fewer opportunities now as so many on shops etc are wide open all the time or electric.

I think the structure of Sundays has altered. When I was growing up my grandparents would come over for Sunday roast made by my mother. She was only in her thirties then, but I can't imagine myself doing all that preparing and cooking now I'm that age. She didn't really mind, it was just a duty she did. We would have cups of tea in the afternoon and if there were bubbles on the surface we would announce 'money on the cup' and it was meant to be lucky!

Manners!

Down with visible bra straps!

Probably completely irrelevant now due to paying by phone, but if you gave a purse asxa gift, you put a coin in it (bring wealth)

Silence at 11am on armistice day, my mum remembers a time when cars used to stop. I happened to be in a shop last year and so many people just couldn't shut up for 2 mins!!