Do You Celebrate Valentines Day?

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DH & I have been together for 23 years & married for nearly 22. He always buys me 2 dozen red roses, chocolates & a card. He also buys flowers for DD15, a sweet thing he started when she was little. I buy him a giant bar of his favourite chocolate & a card. We don’t usually go out to eat but will have something like a steak dinner, either actually on the night or sometimes if it falls in the week we wait til the weekend. I may buy Prosecco or Cava.

We get each other a card and maybe some cheap chocs to share. Last year I got my fella a pack of mini pork pies and put them in his work lunchbox for him to discover. (He likes pork pies but doesn't tend to get them as I am coeliac and he feels bad eating them in front of me when I used to like them and now can't have them). I think he gave me a copy of the farm machinery sale catalogue he picked up at one of his sites, because I love looking at tractors etc.

I have told him never to get me flowers on valentines day because the prices are jacked up and what's romantic about being ripped off? Plus flowers die quickly and I'd rather have something to keep or an experience to remember.

I cannot be bothered about it and neither is my DH.

No.
He always buys me a token gift and a card but I don't want them.
I don't get him anything.

You sound fun.

No, it's a Hallmark holiday. We don't really do mother's or father's day, either.

Pancake day, on the other hand ...

Yes - I leave heart shape chocs and a loving note for dd (she’s at the too cool for school teen stage and it winds her up 😂

I should add dd rolls her eyes and says I’m cringe but I’ve noticed she doesn’t throw the notes away. Makes me 🥰

Then you are at liberty to choose something else if you so wish

😂😂 and those who celebrate don’t?

Despite my previous misery guts post I think that sounds really nice & I think it's even better that it's not on the actual day but rather the weekend of the day, I hope you both have a lovely time 🍾

I've never been bothered by Valentine's but my DP always booked us into a nice restaurant, got me flowers and chocolates. I always thought it was sweet but corny.

DP is dead now and I can't describe how sad the thought of a Valentine's day without him or those little gestures from someone who loves you makes me feel now.

My primary age DC loves any excuse to decorate the house, make cards and give and receive (small) presents though, so we will celebrate.

@PersephonePomegranate I'm so sorry to hear about your DP & how difficult & sad Valentines will be without him 💐

I think it's lovely that your child will help you get through it & hopefully take a bit of the sting out of it all

Same reply as last year's thread. Yes, we do. Takeaway, wine & sex. He's been my valentine for 30+ yrs. That's something to celebrate and cheers up a drab February day.

Yes but we don't spend a lot. We will have a takeaway or I will cook a nice meal, bottle of wine and have an early night. He normally buys me a bunch of flowers and a bottle of wine and I get him a box of his favourite chocolates.

No. It always reminds me of tacky cards with fnar fnar jokes about blowjobs in Clinton Cards.

It’s the Benny Hill of celebrations.

For those who don't like having flowers brought on a prescribed day etc, do you also refuse birthday presents on your birthday and demand them at random intervals throughout the year, se with Xmas? Do you scorn those who eat Easter eggs at Easter because you always eat yours in February and October?

Me and DH love each other every day and have done so for 44 years but we still buy each other a card and often a small gift and have a nice meal.

OK some people don't celebrate it but why all the "we don't need to be told when to show love", "we show love every day", "we don't do tacky".

Plenty of gifts to buy that are not tacky. DH might buy me a book, a cd, earrings, necklace, a plant, chocolates. Some years he has bought me flowers but he also buys flowers for me on other days of the year. He bought me 2 bunches yesterday.

My parents gave each other a card for 67 years and were very much in love. They also showed their love to each other all year.

We get each other a card and one of us cooks the other a nice meal. We actually got engaged on Valentine's Day lol

Funny how those who DON'T do it don't do it because they're superior and understand real love rather than just because it isn't their thing.
Those that DO do it just do it cos they want to

We do nice things for each other, surprises, but not a certain!
One year I did a horror themed valentine weekend which included a scary 5d cinema film, horror themed dnd session and some kinky sexy shenanigans.

Other times we have been out for a cream tea.

Other times we've done nothing.

Other times we've just used it as an excuse for extra smooches and a lovely dinner.

My ex hated valentines.

My lovely husband and I use it as an excuse to spoil one another.

This year I'm going to give him a pack of rolos and appil him throughout the day. In our house, doesn't matter how grand the thought is, it's the thought that counts.

Together 10 years this year.

Exactly. Not sure why not celebrating Valentines makes people think they are superior. Do they think that about not celebrating birthdays, Christmas etc?

Last year we invited our new neighbours in for a drink. It was a couple of days after Valentines and our cards to each other were on the mantelpiece.

They came in holding hands and struggled to get through the door as they didn't let go of each others' hand!

The woman (both mid 30's) said "oh you celebrate Valentines?" to which I replied "yes". She said, with a sneer, "we don't as we think it's pointless. We show love all year round".

Those words came back to me every time they had an argument and were screaming abuse at each other (you f..ing c..t was a favourite of both of them). The arguments were pretty frequent and, unsurprisingly, they are no longer together.

No, I'm single and it's just a huge money maker

We do, I do a family dinner with fancy pudding and candles and pink fizz. I’ll get the kids a little chocolate lollipop each.
Years and years ago, as was the thing in America, my dad would send me a valentines card especially for daughters. It wasn’t romantic, just an expression of love to any loved one.

cant remember but I don’t think we do. Personally I think it’s more for people in new relationships or young people (am 43 and we’re together over 20 years)

We always make each other cards on Valentines. Started when we were poor students and we've been doing it for more than 30 years now.

Quite often have a nice dinner together at home, we never go out, it's a rip off! He buys me flowers often anyway, and is canny enough that on several occasions I've got a dozen red roses on the 15th of Feb, going cheap!