Do You Celebrate Valentines Day?

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DH & I have been together for 23 years & married for nearly 22. He always buys me 2 dozen red roses, chocolates & a card. He also buys flowers for DD15, a sweet thing he started when she was little. I buy him a giant bar of his favourite chocolate & a card. We don’t usually go out to eat but will have something like a steak dinner, either actually on the night or sometimes if it falls in the week we wait til the weekend. I may buy Prosecco or Cava.

We don’t buy commercially produced stuff, though.

Yes. My sister and I exchange cards and gifts 🥰

I'm picturing you knee-deep in unicorn wrapping paper and petrol-station carnations, wailing "please, no more chocolates!" 😂

Yes, we do the same…but it’s still fun to celebrate it too!

Nope - it's too commercialised- I'd be very unimpressed to receive cheap pink bubble bath (Sainsburys I'm thinking about you) or other such crap. We do spontaneous flowers and little gifts at other times of the year (when prices for flowers aren't sky high).

I'm much more excited that it's Pancake Day on the 13th! (Not religious at all so it's definitely Pancake Day!)

Yes I do but then I love a holiday and will take any opportunity to celebrate, especially when it's something so lovely as my partner and relationship.
I don't understand the hate it gets, especially when people say they love their partner every day like it's some kind of trade. You don't have to hate them on a Monday to be able to love and appreciate them on Valentines 🤣

Has anyone ever said "Please no more chocolates?" 🤣

Quite.

Exactly this here too.

I find Valentine's day a bit cringe and am relieved when it's over. I've been with my partner for 14 years and neither of us are into big gushy displays. A nice dinner at home suits us plus a posy of spring bulbs (I'd bollock him if he spent £40 on flowers).

We do cards and flowers, but tend to be a bit cheapskate about it and do the flowers after the day. And we normally go out to eat, but never on the night. This year it's on Ash Wednesday so we'll be in church that evening anyway contemplating mortality.

Back in the day we used to do cards and go out for dinner and drink bubbly etc. But nowadays we just don't really bother. Might occasionally exchange cards or amuse ourselves by having a dramatically, faux romantic snog. We eat out several times a week, so going out for dinner isn't especially special anymore.

Still very much in love with each other though.

No. I'm really not the romantic type. Not that I think scheduling romance is romantic anyway. Hey, the calendar says its national romance day. Let's join thousands in acts of romance.

At least with anniversaries it's personal to you. Not that I celebrate that either.

I'm just lucky I married an equally joyless cold fish really. 😂 I'd feel really guilty and obliged to perform romance if it mattered to him.

Varies really always do card, flowers, chocolates.
But as for having a nice meal. If it falls on a weekday then no, because with kids clubs, work etc it's just so much of a rush. But a weekend or Friday then once dcs in bed we'd have a nice meal, or go out if can get a sitter.

I’ve been in many relationships, married 2x and none of my exes liked Valentine’s Day

For the first time in my life my current boyfriend - who is from the US btw - kikcked off the conversation a couple of weeks ago asking me if I wanted to go to a 5 course meal with wine pairing on the weekend after Valentine’s Day. It is a special intimate event. He also bought me something ‘small’ (around £50) as an ‘early’ Valentine’s gift, and he will give to me this weekend so not sure if there will be more during the celebratory dinner.
I bought him a gift and a funny card, both tie well with his interests and personality and will probably post it so he will receive during the week before we see each other and it will be a surprise.

I aldo had the ‘I don’t care’ attitude in the past but life is hard and complicated, it us nice to have little occasions to remind us there are things to celebrate. And it feels amazing that he took the initiative too.

Only because it's our anniversary ❤️

No. It all feels so prescriptive to me, flowers, chocolate, tacky cards etc. There's no thought behind those gifts at all.

But what if someone buys you a lovely gift that is personal and thoughtful?
That does happen.

'it us nice to have little occasions to remind us there are things to celebrate'

Totally agree. If you're not into it then fair enough, just ignore it. But it can be a nice little occasion to look forward to without spending much money. Give the overpriced roses a miss!

My DH is pretty thoughtful throughout the year and does nice little things for me, so no, we don't celebrate that particular day other than maybe exchanging a card.

You could buy something else? Why would you choose a tacky card??

Because that's what the shops are shoving down our throats, it's the same stuff every year.

No we don’t. We love each other every day, not just one day a year ;) x

Never. I hate cheesy romantic stuff and we are very loving every single day to each other. I have no interest in flowers or chocolates and going out for dinner that day is always too busy.

We celebrate everything in our house. Life is too short not to.

It doesn’t have to be expensive or cringe but it brightens up the days. My life is pretty magical in general but sometimes it’s nice to be ‘prompted’ to take a moment of gratitude by the calendar. Plus, I get presents! What’s not to like?