I know when I did care in the community we had a couple of younger people in their 30s/40s. The idea they had choices because they lived in their own home is naive at best.
We showed up, they’d have a longer call a couple of times a week for a shower if lucky. One lady never got to shower because her home wasn’t adapted for it. Cereal or toast, plonked on sofa or in wheelchair, tv on, shoot off to the next call. Back at 12, sandwich, crisps, pad change, shoot off again. Repeat at 4 for a microwave meal, back at bed, repeat.
I don’t for a moment think that things are necessarily better in care homes but I dint think they are worse. However the disabled people living with full time PAs who understand them aren’t in the majority I wouldn’t have thought.
The problem is always that care based jobs - of children or the elderly or disabled - aren’t valued so aren’t paid accordingly. That’s a problem that transcends different governments and political views. It’s not so much a Tory issue as a feminist one.