bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

[crochetmonkey74]

I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

When I was 17 and first learning to drive I had a male driving instructor who gave me the creeps from day one, by lesson 5 he was touching my hand and teaching me how to put the car in gear, I could feel him looking me up and down during the lessons and he told me repeatedly I really reminded him of his ex girlfriend, I was a teenager ffs! He was about 35. I got home and cried to my mum and said I didn't want anymore lessons with him, I honestly think if I had continued he would have done something or assaulted me.

A man on a train once. Followed me on and then sat opposite me staring.
After a quarrel with other passengers returned to stare and lit up what I believe was a crack pipe.
I moved. He followed. So lucky fellow passengers noticed and got me to sit windowside with them as a buffer.
also police then materialised. Very relieved as wasn’t sure how I’d safely disembark at unmanned stations and this was middle of the day in bright sunlight.

I was on a train from uni to home. This must have been about 1986-87. At the time there was a big unsolved murder that was all over the media. It's so long ago I can't remember much about the case.
Anyway, a man sat opposite me on the train and started making conversation about this case, discussing details of what was known and in the media. He kept repeating that what we needed was Sherlock Holmes and that he'd solve the case if he were real/alive. The whole thing was incredibly creepy.

I thought about her too. I wonder if she confronted him or if things continue the same

Ricky Gervais is not like this at all. He is extremely kind and respectful

Yep. Several years ago, when I had just moved into my current apartment building (flats?), I met a neighbor and her husband, a young couple. She invited me to their flat to visit, but something about her husband just made my skin crawl. About 3 months later, she disappeared. Turns out her husband AND his mother had murdered her in that flat, and dumped the body. I have since moved into a downstairs unit, due to my dependence on a walker, only two doors down from where they lived. It still gives me the creeps when I have to walk past their flat on my way to the office.

Yes I've actually had this happen three times and all three cases were proven correct.
The first was when I was about 9 and one of my uncle's friends started coming around to our house. He would sit with my mum and tell her about vivid dreams he'd had and talk about black magic. I always had a fear of him and I would disappear to my room every time he came round. One day he turned up in the morning, I was still asleep so obviously dreaming but he knocked on the door 4 times and each knock felt like an arrow going into my back. After that happened I told my mum I was scared of him and she told me she was scared of him too and didn't dare tell him to stop coming round. He eventually stopped calling and years later we found out he had murdered his step dad.
The second one is the worst. A problem family moved onto my street. The mother had done 10 years in prison and had got her teenage children back with her.
She would leave them home alone every weekend and they would have huge parties. My then partner decided rather than going round shouting he would try another approach and be friendly. The eldest teen, 19yrs, took a liking to this and would came around to play chess and cards with my partner. There was something that didn't feel right about this lad. One day, when I was home alone, he sneaked into my kitchen and stood behind me watching me clean the top of the cupboard. I screamed in shock when I noticed him and tried to make small talk to hide my fear. He seemed to enjoy making me so uncomfortable and wasn't in any rush to leave. I had to pretend I eas going out and had an appointment and say I'd walk him home to get rid of him. He then went on to do time for beating up his girlfriend and braking her jaw. Then when he was let out of prison murdered his ex girlfriend, her new boyfriend and kidnapping and raping her mother. My blood ran cold when I read about it in the paper.
The third time was a complete stranger.
I had seen this man a few times when I had been on various nights out. He was always with a woman but he would stare at me in a weird way that scared me so much that I pointed him out to my friends.
One day I was looking through the paper only to see his face, he had murdered his wife, who was the woman I had seen him with, and stabbed himself in the stomach. He was sent to prison for a long time.
Trust the fear.

Yeah, my brother is a psychopath. I have had no contact with him since I moved away from my childhood area over 30-years ago. It would never have surprised me if the Police arrived at my door to get background on him because he’d been arrested for murder. It hasn’t happened so far and he’s 71 now, so unless there is something historical that hasn’t been discovered yet, he hasn’t gone that far. He is very ‘hail fellow well met’, charming, helpful, no criminal history, but a very nasty piece of work behind the scenes.

And does a great deal of work for animal welfare. Most psychopaths practice their nastiness on animals before they start on humans.

I’ve had this with a chap I was supposed to assist with something at work (a service user) there was something about him that made me hate being anywhere near him, I would only ever meet him in the office and with another member of staff, his eyes were pure evil, I swore he would be front page of the papers one day (as yet he hasn’t been!)

another, seemingly lovely bloke (I used to spend my days assessing folk so feel I have a good first instinct gauge) I was supporting with housing and spent hours with alone is now in prison, turns out he was a serial killer (well technically not as only two killings) made them both look like accidental/natural deaths. I still believe deep down he is a good person (does this make me crazy?) he just has serious emotional issues and a fear of loss (no idea on his upbringing) What made me and the other support worker really angry was we were both lone working with him and the agency that had referred him knew of the one murder allegation hanging over him and investigation in to the second and failed to share that information with us

Yes. Not sure why people are having a go at R.Gervais, based on seemingly nothing? My ex-'s sister had a connection with him through work. Hung out for the evening at a small party and he was reportedly very nice. Low-key and friendly, with no ego. About ten years ago.

It's not rocket science. Everyone reads micro-expressions, however little they register. Trust your gut instinct always. You don't need to be polite. (As much as you don't need to be aggressively rude). Just move away from the person or situation. I've taught all my girls that. Especially the disconnect and move away. Your brain processes far more than you think it does.

I can’t take to him myself and I can’t figure out if it’s because he comes across incredibly self centred, or it’s unconscious bias from all the rumours.

Guy I worked with at Domino’s pizza always made me fell very intimidated and I was always nervous around him, found out years later he was in prison for raping two woman and holding one hostage.

Interesting you say this about Paul. My friend and I both think he's beyond just playing a game and is dangerous. I said to her I'd be scared I'd be murdered in my bed if I was his wife. Psychopath 😬

This happened to me twice years ago, however both times it was more intense dislike. Both men I worked with. One in particular I hated so much I couldn’t bear looking at them or speaking to them. This is really weird for me because I’m genuinely friendly to everyone. I gave up a shift at the time so I would be around this person less as I felt I wasn’t behaving professionally.

Both were later found out to be child predators and convicted.

Laiste, please continue to raise what sound like very valid concerns with your primary school's caretaker. I would have reported the incident with your year 3 daughter as soon as it happened, it clearly isn't right and he's not teaching staff - he should NOT be on his own with a child. He might well have a DBS (assume he has to have one) but we all know those are fallible. If the SLT don't listen, bring it up with the board of governors. Do you have any friendly contacts with local social services or the police? If you knew someone in the force, you could just run this scenario past them and see what they would do in your place. Please don't let this lie - it doesn't sound right at all.

I hear you. I do think the thread is helpful in reminding us to trust our instincts rather than put ourselves in danger for fear of seeming impolite though.
I have had experiences where people have given me the creeps and then later turned out to be paedophiles. Conversely, the man who raped me seemed like a lovely guy and didn't give me bad vibes at all.

Not scared of, but got a bad vibe of some people. I was with a Ex, he was at work, when 2 "friends of his" turned up to our house. I got major creepy vibes of them.
I told my Ex I wasn't happy with him hanging around with them. It turns out I was right, they were into drugs and my dopy Ex gave them some of our stuff, Dvd player, tools, stuff that was easy to sell for drugs. He told me at first that he had lent them to some friends, ones that I knew and was OK with. Lying little scumbag, didn't bother to tell me the truth, they pinched a credit card of mine. But I reported it stolen, before they could use it, so when they went to buy something, they got arrested for having a stolen card.
I ditched the boyfriend there and then, he had been lying for a bit, before all this, so this was the final straw.

There was a guy who started work with us in a very small office who gave me and another female the creeps. We met him at his interview and I said then there was something odd about him and I didnt like him instantly.

When he started working with us He kept making inappropriate comments and others in the building had commented how creepy he was.

I'd raised the comments to my manager who just shrugged them off. Anyway, a few months later this guy sexually assaulted me in the office then told the manager that it was nothing. It took a long time to get HR to do anything about him and I know now I should have reported it to the police but he finally got fired.

Yes, an instant very strong aversion to my aunt's second husband, who she absolutely adored but admitted was very strange (into all kinds of weird woowoo). She was a smart successful business woman but also vulnerable and he'd worked for her, seduced her and then married her. Later she died in somewhat mysterious circumstances and he went off with all the money, leaving her kids with nothing. My gut feeling was right and I am sure he'd been planning this all along. Horrible man.

Oh ffs are you really saying that Ricky Gervais is a psychopath who works with animal charities so that he can hurt them and he's either started on people already or will do?

@Laiste Please, please keep your children away from that caretaker. Ian Huntley was a jolly, fun, popular school caretaker.
A caretaker should never be manhandling children, not ever.

Yes, my brother's ex girlfriend.

She just put me on edge from the moment I met her. On a surface level she was lovely. Very friendly and chatty but she just came across as false somehow. All I can pinpoint it on is that she had a way of looking at you like she wasn't really looking, like she was staring through you. When she smiled the smile didn't reach her eyes. It felt like she was going through the motions or acting a part that she didn't really want to play.

Nothing bad happened and her and my brother split up after a couple of years but she is just one of those people that set my spidey senses off.

Comes across as smug