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bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

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crochetmonkey74 · 22/01/2024 08:55

I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

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LadySlipper · 23/01/2024 19:22

Big shared office and we had an office dog, lovely working cocker spaniel. Sweet little dog who loved everyone. With one exception - a couple of times we had an innocuous looking IT guy appear to fix something and the dog would run and hide behind his Dad, and peer around his legs at the IT guy, looking extremely scared and worried. I'm sure that dog knew something we didn't!

ismu · 23/01/2024 19:22

@Urcheon Paul from the traitors read American Psycho and used it as his playbook for his " character ". That's such a weird thing to do and I think it just confirms there's something off about him... if you've ever read that book you'll understand!

StoorieHoose · 23/01/2024 19:23

My mum did. Younger brother wanted to attend a youth club, mum took him along for a session and came home and told him he was not going back. She had an awful feeling about the leader.

I won't mention the man's name but he was responsible for the killing of 16 children and their teacher.

Bananasatchristmas · 23/01/2024 19:28

One that strikes me from many years ago - as a student I worked part time in top shop - part of the job was to push Arcadia cards (credit cards, get 10% off your purchase today, sign up yada yada). A customer at the till went for it and as she filled in her birth date it was 6/6/66 - I happily said ‘oh that’s funny, you’re all the 6s - my birthday is all the sevens (7/7/77)’ - the look she gave me was vile! It was like looking into the eyes of the devil if that doesn’t sound too dramatic! Never forgotten it - we both knew the relevance of the numbers and maybe she just played on that but I can remember it like it was yesterday. Urgh.

Mumof3PrettyBoys · 23/01/2024 19:31

Oh yes this happened to me twice in my lifetime to date!!

First one I was a young adult, 20 i believe and mum and I had previously discussed me relocating from Birmingham to Country.. I was considering it at the time but this was a week or so earlier. One day on my lunch break i was walking through pigeon park. Not realising i was walking towars a huge flock of pigeons i jumped and shreeked when about 60 of them flew up infront of me.... a man, dressed in a long beige mac coat appeared out of nowhere and laughed as he politely said " Haha you wont last long living in the country then!" - by the time i'd processed what he said and turned around to reply the man was gone!! Like vanished into thin air!! I've wondered ever since how on earth he would have known about the convo between me and my mum!! I wasnt scared .. it just blew my mind!!

Second encounter
Again whilst i lived in Birmingham, i had a job interview in the town center and parking was very expensive as it was near the law courts. I found a space to park but the ticket machine was out of order!! Parking tickets are relentless that part of town and worried i might get a ticket I paced up and down the street trying to find the next ticket machine - none in sight!! Moments later a ticket inspector comes walking down the road i was on and its as if he knew the problem because as i was fumbling around in my car for a pen and paper he handed me a note saying paid without me paying anything!!.. as he passed me the note and i thanked him i saw he had 666 written on his hand so i instantly looked up and saw a tall man with satanic tattoos on his neck and around his head that was wasnt fully visible because he was wearibg a hat - I froze in fear and having no poker face he saw me clam up!! He said with a smile " we're not all bad you know" !!! Speechless i didnt say another word! The presence of him immediately made me scared but confused because of how kind he was... bizzare feeling!!!

AccountCreateUsername · 23/01/2024 19:32

BouleDeSuif · 22/01/2024 09:29

No. Not even when I met the man who would eventually traffick me. He seemed perfectly nice and normal- that's what I think is scary about people like him.

Flowers really dangerous people can be all too plausible. I hope you’re ok now x
ShortHairedCat · 23/01/2024 19:47

noosmummy12 · 23/01/2024 18:38

Yes me too!!!!

Everything about him is offensive to me. Dreadful person who looks exactly like his character

QueenOfMOHO · 23/01/2024 19:51

Reepycheepy · 22/01/2024 09:55

There is an interesting book on this ‘the gift of fear’ ( read it ages ago and no idea if it’s been debunked or anything but made sense to me).

It basically says these generally aren’t irrational feelings, but that we pick up on lots of tiny things without consciously realising . And that you should always listen to ‘instinct’ like this.

Edited

It's not interesting at all. It's absolutely rubbish, repetitive drivel. I got convinced into buying it on here by one of these threads that start up every few months (that I'm convinced are started by the author of said crap book).

QueenOfMOHO · 23/01/2024 19:56

DottyLottieLou · 23/01/2024 18:49

Some people are more 'aware' of psychopaths than others.

Psychopaths are actually very difficult to spot. They are often very kind and sociable on the surface of it and love to be loved.

TammyJones · 23/01/2024 19:57

baileybrosbuildingandloan · 22/01/2024 09:31

My brother did. He met a woman when he was volunteering at a Centre for unemployed people many many years ago. One day another woman had an interview and needed childcare. First woman said "you can bring them to my house". My logical, IT Programmer non parent brother's hackles raised immediately and he said "no, bring them here. We'll all watch them and they're used to this place". He didn't know why, but he just knew he couldn't let them, or their Mum, go with this homely looking woman.

It was Rose West.

Go your brother !!!

QueenOfMOHO · 23/01/2024 20:03

LikeagoddamnVampire · 22/01/2024 22:12

Was just coming on to say this - Gift of Fear is a really valuable book for every woman to read.

Nope, it's crap.

Funnymoustache · 23/01/2024 20:03

Recently I was asked to demonstrate some work that we do to a newcomer to the business.

For some reason I immediately got the urge to run to the loo once he was alongside me. 3 times I had the nervous shits. I had to keep excusing myself. Same thing happened a week or so later on a teams call with him - I had to run to the loo a few times.

Every time I need to speak to him he makes me feel strangely odd. He has the oddest eyes and something about him really unnerves me. I never have had this with anyone else, I’ve no idea why this happens with him.

Hoppyhops · 23/01/2024 20:09

There was a thread about this about a year ago when I was pregnant and I had just had something weird happen to me.

Not a person but a situation. I was meant to go and pick up a second hand Moses basket from a lady in a local town. The closer it got to the time I’d arranged, the more sick I felt. I felt an absolutely overwhelming sense of dread to the point where I thought I was going to cry if I went.

I’m a very rational person so it was so weird for me and I can’t put it down to pregnancy hormones as I wasn’t massively affected by them all the way through. I listened to my gut and messaged to say I was sorry but could no longer collect the item. It was taken down straight away.

It was such a weird, overwhelming feeling and what I can only describe as ‘primal’. Never felt like it before or since.

Scaredbunny · 23/01/2024 20:16

I recently worked for a new company in the city. Day one my colleague started to bully me. Everything screamed get out of there, don't be alone with him. On day three I threw up before work. I went in because we needed the money after a bereavement. That was the day he told me and another colleague he had murdered soneone. I lasted four months and he made mine and five others lives hell. We've all left. He's a psychopath. I have a very strong employment case against him but I am terrified someone will give him my address from my personal file. There are still women working at the company and I'm truly scared for them hence the name change. He's already groped someone. He told my colleague she didn't know what he was capable of. Police not interested.

xcam · 23/01/2024 20:19

Perhaps it's for very good reason. Heed your instincts.

RiftGibbon · 23/01/2024 20:25

Lulu49 · 23/01/2024 17:56

Even as a child I KNEW Jimmy Saville was a wrongun. Weird cos I obviously didn't know what the feeling was but I was so not surprised when he was discovered to be an evil sod.

Agreed.
I'd sort of forgotten about him until I watched a Lous Theroux programme where he spent time with him. At that point it was blatantly obviously he was an evil and dangerous person. How LT could stand to be anywhere near him I can't imagine.

Jeannie88 · 23/01/2024 20:26

Not sure if im allowed to say this but yes, a few pupils over the years who just spiked my spidey senses and found out later I wasn't wrong with my gut feelings!

Bookloverjay · 23/01/2024 20:27

TheDefiant · 22/01/2024 11:11

@VelvetShrimp

I've never understood that defence.

I don't really know what set my instincts off. It was visceral.

I couldn't look at him, speak to him, listen to the sound of his voice, his eyes were awful. He also kept lying to us (wouldn't be honest about the APR of buying a car etc) and just loads of tiny things that set me on edge. The way he held himself, the way he looked at me. It was truly awful.

In the showroom I stayed at least 150m away from him. I delegated all the negotiations and paperwork to DH.

There's only been one other person I've felt like that about. A male parent at my DCs primary school. I had to tell the teacher that my DD (5) bent down to pick up a pencil she'd dropped and a boy (this man's son 🙁) was as she put it "fiddling around with his willy under the table, his willy was out and I could see it"

Shortly after I told the teacher that, the whole family moved at very short notice. 🙁😢 I don't remember the child's name and I often worry about him.

Wait..... who's willy was the kid fiddling with?

BoswellTheScribe · 23/01/2024 20:31

I had this feeling about a family friend when I was in my teens. He was a local vicar and perfectly nice etc. But he just gave me the creeps! Didn’t like being in the same room as him. We didn’t see them often. His wife was lovely and they had a couple of young adult kids.
I told my DM years later and she was very surprised that I’d felt that way about him. I still feel it now if I think about him.

newtoallthisshizzle · 23/01/2024 20:31

I was in a shop once and got a really bad vibe from a male customer who was at the till point talking to the poor girl who looked terrified. I knew I had to distract so asked a question about something that needed us to walk round the store multiple times and at great length. He eventually left but I could see him watching the store from one of the benches outside. Another staff member came out of the stockroom asking if he had gone now. Both were clearly terrified of him so I asked if they wanted me to hang around whilst they closed up (it was neatly closing time anyway). I did and they told me he would come in every day multiple times a day asking them questions about where they lived and if they were sexually active. I eventually called head office next day to tell them the man had made me feel uncomfortable and clearly did the same to the girls. I was told they (H/O) knew about him but that he was ‘harmless’. I eventually escalated it to senior management. Left the area later and haven’t been back but I still wonder if anything happened. There was certainly the potential; he gave off such a horrible feeling. Might call up the shop tomorrow

MumTeacherofMany · 23/01/2024 20:32

@Bookloverjay the child was playing with his own...

Interviewq · 23/01/2024 20:40

MumTeacherofMany · 23/01/2024 20:32

@Bookloverjay the child was playing with his own...

a 5 year old fiddling with their own willy is really not giving evil vibes to me

Metabolicallycomplicated · 23/01/2024 20:40

Yes, first year of uni, we were a group of girls out clubbing. Another girl was on her own (knew her from our halls but she was from a different floor to us and she said her mates were inside) so she joined us for a bit as we were walking in/ queuing. She found her friends when we got inside and we didn’t see her again. On the way out, one of the bouncers from the doors at the club we were leaving said ‘where’s your mate?’. I suddenly got the weirdest feeling all the way up my back and neck, the back of my head physically hurt it was so strong. I knew he was talking about the girl we’d met. I said ‘why?’ and he said ‘ she was stumbling all over the place when she came out!’. Every bit of me instantly knew he’d hurt her. I couldn’t tell you how I knew, but I KNEW he’d done something to her. I was drunk but couldn’t shake the certainty that she wasn’t ok. I insisted when we got back to halls thst we went to her floor and found out where she lived. When we got to her floor she was in the corridor with a few of her friends around her Absolutely sobbing her heart out. The bouncer had cornered her and accused her of being too drunk while in the club. He’d grabbed her by the arm, forced her out of the club alone then taken her to the bin storage area and orally raped her. She reported it to the police and was able to identify him. He was never convicted due to lack of evidence and never even lost his job.

BetterWithPockets · 23/01/2024 20:41

Am finding this thread fascinating. I’ve never had this response to anyone (and agree with those saying that it doesn’t always happen). I do wonder if some people are more likely to pick up on some kind of ‘vibe’ than others.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 23/01/2024 20:44

noosmummy12 · 23/01/2024 18:10

I know it’s not quite the same but any time Jimmy Saville was on TV as a youngster (2+) I would run and hide behind the sofa. His eyes would terrify me and I could not look at him. I’d never do it to anyone else on telly, just him

In the 70s my folks were friends with chief psychiatrist at Broadmoor and his wife, and went to a number of events there. At one of these they were introduced to Jimmy Savile and my DM (always a hyper sensitive type) said at the time that he gave her the absolute creeps. I’d never understood why he was so popular so I just thought she was overreacting - and had probably taken a severe dislike to his hair!!

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