bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

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I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

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Sorry did not mean to high jack your thread.

I've had a visceral reaction to someone once, a new starter at work who I got in the lift with once, never met him before by my skin was crawling. Thankfully I didn't have any direct reason to speak to him doing my job but something about him really put me on edge. After a few months of passing him by in corridors and ignoring him I realised it was because of his smell. He was wearing the same scent that my rapist wore many many years before and that unconscious part of my brain was screaming danger at me. Once I realised this I could relax around him. He left shortly after so I never really got the chance to get to know him.

As for celebs that give me the creeps, Matt Hancock. He is completely devoid of natural emotion and that interview he gave at a hospital during a pandemic where he stood right behind a female nurse and glared at her gave me the creeps. I said to my brother at the time that he's a wrong-un. How right was I.

I used to work in a homeless hostel so met lots of "characters".
The only one that gave me full hackles was an older man in his late 60s. He came across as helpful, intelligent, chatty, and was widely considered by other members of staff to be a victim of circumstances that had led him to lose his job, wife, and home.
Because he was so mild mannered and helpful in the garden etc he was almost considered a golden boy client. He completely set off all of my internal alarms and as a senior member of staff I made a risk assessment and said no 1-1 meetings, all interactions to be supervised by another member of staff, and no letting him into the office to "chat" as he was prone to do.
I was accused of "just not liking him" and being overly restrictive by a couple of staff members who thought the sun shone out of his arse.
One back shift (I wasn't in at the time) he went into the office and asked one of the project workers for a paracetamol.
We didnt keep them for clients and PW explained that she couldnt give him any but the Morrisons local was still open down the road and he could go get some from there and keep them in his room if it was locked when he wasn't in it. He was a bit grumpy about it but left the office.
A few minutes later he knocked on the door again, and when the PW opened it he threw a freshly boiled mug of water that he had added a load of sugar to all over her and said very matter of factly that "cunts don't get to say no to him".
She got some really nasty burns because he mixed it so it stuck.

Omg yes to Rita Ora! I don't know what it is but she gives me the heebie jeebies.

I totally agree with this. He’s vile

I met a friend’s new partner recently and immediately disliked him. He was polite, friendly and seemed to really like my friend but I got a bad vibe about him. A short time later she told me he had been physically aggressive when they were intimate together in a way that felt very dangerous so she’d cut all contact with him and blocked him.

Having said that, I also once had a tradesman working in my house for a few months. DH, the children and I were later interviewed by detectives as it turned out this man was a very dangerous pedophile who had abused a very young child, as well as making, owning and distributing countless indecent images of children. None of us had had the slightest inkling there was anything ‘off’ about him at all. He seemed like a nice bloke.

So yes, I think sometimes our instincts can help us out but absolutely can’t be relied upon.

My mum had this feeling ( with no reason) about savile during the 80s when I was a kid watching Jim'll fix it. I wrote him a letter and she pretended to post it and threw it in the bin. Fwiw she also has that feeling about Cliff Richard.

I’ve had two experiences.

The first was in the summer I was about 16. I was walking home late afternoon down a fairly busy road and I saw a man (early thirties) walking towards me. Something told me to step towards the roadside of the pavement as I walked past him and I felt my whole body tense up and I stayed like that until I got home about five minutes later. About an hour later having forgotten about him, I was leafing through the local paper and there was an article in it about two teenage girls being sexually assaulted in a nearby park. There was also an Efit of the perpetrator and it really looked like the guy I’d seen an hour or so earlier. DNA matched him to two previous rapes/assaults on other teenage girls over the previous 18 months. He disappeared and turned up about five years later in a town 50 miles away where he’d broken into a woman’s (in her 30s this time) house and raped her. He was eventually convicted and from his mugshot I’m almost certain it was the same guy I saw near my house that afternoon.

The second was a boy aged around 12. He was on his bike and I was driving. He rode past me from behind and stopped dead in front of my car and just stared right at me. A couple of days later he turned up in the local park and started kicking/throwing a football at the little kids (some of them toddlers). He carried on with this behaviour over the next few months, parents used to leave the park with their little kids when he turned up. My friend had a child in his year at school and she told me he was a pretty nasty character. Then I got told about a fight involving his year group and after that I never saw him again luckily and the park went back to being alright.
He’ll be about 18/19 now and I’ve just got this feeling at some point he’ll pop up on the local police’s Facebook page wanted for something violent.

I think everyone had that feeling about Jimmy Savile in the 70s and 80s!
As a child I found him repulsive. You don't usually notice adults' clothes as a child but I noticed his were horrible, and thought he was very strange to pick them. Also, all that gold jewellery was revolting. I thought he must think he was a king.

2 from me:

1 - Rylan gives me the creeps. I can't bear to see him - there's things about him waiting to come out I'm sure

2 - UEFA cup final in Manchester 2008, when the city was flooded with Rangers fans. I passed 2 of them drinking beer outside a pub and you just knew that they would be able to cause you serious damage without batting an eye lid. It might have been the clothes, it might have been the 'gym look' but most of all it was their faces - scanning the area, just hard faced, just so sure of themselves. I legged it!

Do people with anxiety or eating disorders ever lash out?

Um...have you ever been on an eating disorders ward and seen how some of the chronic cases behave at meal times, or worse, if they need an NG tube fitted? 'Lash out' doesn't even begin to cover it.

I should also add to your earlier comment, yes people with severe mental illness can be intimidating, especially the men, this is usually because they feel threatened, sad, angry or paranoid. I have experienced this feeling of intimidation this myself. Men in pubs and clubs can also be intimidating, especially in groups, this is not the sole preserve of the mentally unwell.

You honestly seem to know very little about severe mental illness and I would like to kindly suggest that you recognise that privilege and listen to the experiences and knowledge of those who have.

My feeling has nothing to do with "because she has had several partners and uses her real life to inform her work", I don't know anything about her personal life or her work; if I've heard any of her songs I wouldn't know they were hers. I didn't say she's strange or frightening and I am not judging her, all I said was that something about her makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm sorry if that has offended you or anyone else.

you're right about the average rangers fan. Scary.

Definitely affected by buildings. I worked as a dental receptionist years ago & the surgery was in a 16th century former coaching house. There was one room which was always absolutely freezing & none of us liked going in there, especially alone.

I had such a strong reaction to a friend’s bf that I couldn’t look him in the eyes or stand being in the same room. It was a physical repulsion although he was a very handsome man. She was smitten and wouldn’t hear anything against him. Turned out he was completely amoral - sexually, financially - he thought the normal rules of society didn’t apply to him. He had lied to her about absolutely everything, was controlling and manipulative. She had to run away with her children in the middle of the night in order to get away.

I’ve worked professionally with people who are violent to their partners and never had that crawling sense of dread that I got from him.

Dp has an old work colleague(they worked together about 8 years ago)

Everyone loves 'kev' (not real name)

He's funny,witty,charming intelligent and an all round good guy

I cannot bear him-he has shark eyes,evil body language and the way he says my name makes my skin crawl

The only other person to have picked up on this is my ds23 (they went to airsoft together,as part of a bigger group arranged by dp)

Ds came out (we where picking him up) and took me to one side

'That Kev is a wrong en mum,I don't like him but dont know why'

If you mention him to dp,all you get is 'not kev,he's great!'

Mark my words-he'll be on the news at some point and it won't be because he saved an old lady from being mugged

I should've added that they had proper gangster - not pretend drill video gangster - oozing from them.

Same! My friend was smitten by a new bf. I knew he was a wrong ‘un. She wouldn’t listen. We even had a falling out over my dislike of him and because I tried to tell her. She married him. Had a kid. He ended up kidnapping her parents and after she broke free of him he stalked her for years. He almost destroyed her.

One of my husbands brothers terrifies me. Thankfully I rarely see him but I just want to leave as soon as we are in a room together.
When I was a teenager I went with my parents to visit their friends whose son was visiting with his girlfriend. He was in his late twenties and was very life and soul of the gathering. He worked with teenagers and I was a very quiet teenager, he made it his mission to get me out of my shell or something during this visit. It was fucking horrible I can't even explain but my heart still goes every time I think about it 25+ years later. I wasn't in immediate danger, I didn't really leave the room my parents were in but I just wanted to beg them to go.

@BouleDeSuif I'm so happy to hear it ♥️

That's what Peter Sutcliffe did. He successfully faked his way into Broadmoor, relatively cushy compared with a proper trial and prison.

In reality faking scizophrenia is an incredibly self-defeating thing to do because the drugs they give you for it will turn you into a shambling overweight shaky zombie if you don't actually have the illness. Barely capable of stringing a thought together. Which is exactly what happened to Sutcliffe (and hopefully the tax fiddler too.)

This thread is verging on libellous.

How do you mean?

Absolute worst feeling I got was on a school field trip to North Yorkshire. I was around 8 years old. Sleeping in dorms, orienteering activities, etc.

There was a monitor/animator whatever you wanna call him who gave me the absolute creeps. Really creepy.