bit woo- but have you ever met anyone you have felt scared of for no reason?

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I'm fascinated by stories like this- when you meet someone and they don't necessarily do anything - more that you just feel scared- intuition etc

I'm nearly 50 and it's happened once very strongly (was justified I later came to find out) and once not as strongly - so it's not a regular occurrence, but stories like this really interest me

Definitely not made up. Not sure why anyone would make that up. Why would I say London of I’d made it up? I was always so glad that it was me (I’d never have gone with them but probably looked vulnerable) and not my friend who would definitely have gone with them. It made me uncomfortable at the time as it was blatantly not usual to ask someone so many times if they wanted a lift. I would never joke or make anything like this up - women being abducted or murdered is serious. I was reporting back as the OP asked, on an occasion when I’d just felt something was not right

Something about Taylor Swift is very “off”. Can’t seem to hold down a relationship either

It's not about them looking funny at us, some of these people can be quite charming, funny even, it's something you can sense that all is not right, evil even, it's hard to explain but I don't get bad vibes from everyone who gives me a dirty look!

I totally think you should listen to your instincts about people you meet in person. I read the gift of fear years ago and really think you do need to trust your spider senses in real life situations.

But I may be the only one who is not really keen on people thinking celebs whom they have never met are creepy/whatever. That makes me very uncomfortable.

I also think your senses are more attuned when you are in a potentially risky situation so a deserted park/empty car park/dark street etc.

Very similar to my story. Absolute bastards.

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You do know mental illness is an umbrella term consisting of many different disorders. Would you consider someone with anxiety or an eating disorder dangerous, because they’re just a few of many illnesses people might be in a psych ward.

Noel Fitspatrick supervet, gives me the hebejebees, never met him in person though.

Yes once in the course of my work. no idea whether I was right or not.

not with people

Nope @RhodaPenmark you’ve got it wrong way round, HE was nasty for pretending / faking to be ill.

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I tend to consider big, strong men to at least be capable of being dangerous, even if perfectly “sane” (whatever that means).

I don’t know. Do people with anxiety or eating disorders ever lash out? Are they in Caple of causing someone else harm?

@BouleDeSuif I'm pleased to hear it. Sending big hugs xx

Every time you step outside your home (sometimes in your home) there’s a very real risk anybody could cause you harm. As a pp said, people suffering mental illness are more vulnerable from others in society, statistically.

I agree about pp and sb, I think people who get to their level of status are mostly ruled by their head than heart and it really shows itself in a lack of empathy and callousness.

Absolutely awful post. I'm surprised you went to the trouble of typing such judgemental stuff.

Here's an idea, don't spend the night with any man you don't actually know well then the dilemma is solved.

https://www.express.co.uk/showbiz/tv-radio/1492360/fred-west-map-serial-killer-could-have-operated-all-over-uk-itv-documentary-rose-west-spt

Fred West definitely travelled widely across the country @RosaMoline

When I was a kid I felt really uncomfortable around the man who run a small joke shop nearby. I wouldn't go in on my own, and whenever he spoke to me I just wanted to get out asap.

In my early 20s I saw the news one day that he had been arrested and charged with SA of several children and had loads of CP on his computers.
He's still in prison now but I always feel weird when I go past the place where the joke shop was.

Can I ask if the two pp who feel like Taylor Swift is "strange" because she has had several partners and uses her real life to inform her work are that judgemental about women in real life? In a thread dominated by people's experiences of rapists, murderers and child abusers it is extremely bizarre to accuse a woman of being frightening or weird because she might have had lots of consensual sex.

Can I ask if the two pp who feel like Taylor Swift is "strange" because she has had several partners and uses her real life to inform her work are that judgemental about women in real life? In a thread dominated by people's experiences of rapists, murderers and child abusers it is extremely bizarre to accuse a woman of being frightening or weird because she might have had lots of consensual sex.

Paul would have a room to himself, in reality. And Paul is not the norm in a psych ward. He would probably not be in the kind of ward I was in, either.

Also, if he was off his meds they would know.

And it wouldn't surprise me at all if a man like Steve hasn't taken advantage of a woman before. It would surprise me if he hadn't. So if he's temporarily duped staff about his mental state, he's an unknown quantity and therefore an improperly assessed risk, unlike Steve. Far more dangerous IMHO.