As a single woman, what sort of things do you take yourself out to do that your friends usually do with their DH/DP?

[BellaJoob]

I feel I'm missing out being long term single. Am also a single parent, but have some free time to myself.

More often than not, friends are tied up with their DH/DP or simply not interested in the same things as I am. Currently trying to extend my social group.

I go to the local pub alone a couple of times a week. Nothing wrong with that, men do it all the time.
I go to the gym, for walks, browse shops..I do meet friends but a lot of my friends live far away. I spend a lot of time with my Mum too.

@EmpressaurusOfTheScathingTinsel

Ooh I like that bus idea. I might try it myself when I'm retired properly and have the time

It’s good fun! And you can’t get lost because it’s always easy to retrace the route.

@AprilDecember I'd eat at, say, a burrito bar or a tea and cake place or something alone. But unlikely a restaurant with table service, not because I wouldn't enjoy it, but I'd feel bad about taking up a table unless it was deadly quiet.

You have as much right as anyone else!

Maybe this can be my new thing for 2024! 🍽

People who are saying they browse shops, go to the gym, exercise on their own - do your friends usually do these things with their partners? Almost everyone I know does these activities alone. I’ve always thought of them as solo activities.

I'm not single (happily married to dh), but I can't honestly think of anything I wouldn't do without him. I mean, we have young ish (too young to stay home alone) children, so we don't really have time alone to go out together. I go for meals out, the cinema, theatre, spa days, long walks, camping, even wild camping, UK city breaks, overseas holidays, etc. all on my own. I did a 9 day walking holiday in Spain alone last year. I go on a holiday abroad usually every year. I can't really think of anything I'd need to drag dh along with me to do that I wouldn't just do myself if I wanted to. I can't say I've ever felt out of place doing any of these things by myself, but I'm not someone who'd care either, so maybe I just wouldn't notice. We do things as a family too and I do take dc to do things too if I want company.

I've had people say to me that I am super brave for going to dance classes on my own (not even partner dancing, which I also do alone - the classes I go to have a rotation system and very few people go as a couple). These are people who have barely been single in their adult lives though. And I do have plenty of coupled up friends who do many things independently.

This is one of the oddest things I’ve ever read on here. You really aren’t trans because you like football but chose not to go to the pub to watch it because your family wouldn’t like it!

ImJustMadAboutSaffron · Today 08:48

@AprilDecember I'd eat at, say, a burrito bar or a tea and cake place or something alone. But unlikely a restaurant with table service, not because I wouldn't enjoy it, but I'd feel bad about taking up a table unless it was deadly quiet.

You have as much right as anyone else!

I always seem to get really good tables when I am on my own.

I buy myself flowers