I don’t know what to do about this really. Thought I’d share. Despite living far away from, and rarely seeing family in person, I’ve reached the point where I find any interaction on phone/ messages really stressful with my SIL and my mum.
After speaking/ engaging with either of them I have days of feeling down, backaches and headaches due to muscle tension and general low energy.
SIL is a total mindfuck - moody, v sensitive, blows hot and cold, never know where you stand with her, doesn’t seem genuine (actions speak louder than words - she’s all words and no action), v confusing mixed messages when communicating on any topic, always have to de-code what she’s saying vs what she means vs how she actually feels vs her motivations for her behaviour etc
My mother is extremely negative, critical and overbearing… always has plenty of negative stuff to say about any topic at all and try’s to parent my parenting. I have to muster up the energy to withstand the negativity every time I call.
I try to avoid interaction as much as I can but because they’re family I have to speak to at least my mum regularly. Who without a doubt bitches about my SIL too.