come across many front-line people who clearly believe they are doing the right thing and I really do think are acting in genuine good faith.
They're unaware of the malice and dishonesty going on behind the scenes.
I think these two things are very important to remember. Mostly people are honest and want to do the right thing. Most people judge on themselves. "I wouldn't consider doing that so I'm sure it was an accident".
It takes a long time and a big overall picture (which very few people get) because people realise there is a bigger problem.
People say "I don't think they meant it that way" or "I'm sure it was an accident". It may only be in the context of many incidents that people think there may be more to it, and even then it's easier for people to think it doesn't matter.
Petty example:
Let's say you put a poster up in your work for activity A. You notice it's been ripped. Obviously an accident. So you replace it. Then it's ripped again, despite no others being damaged. You still think it's an accident. It keeps being the only one damaged, and you realise that it's being damaged only on Wednesday evening when person S locks up on her own who told you that activity A is rubbish and she thinks the poster shouldn't be up.
You can be pretty certain it's S damaging it. But it's not provable. She'll deny it if you ask her directly and possibly put in a complain about you. If you mention it to management you look petty.
So you laminate it, which makes it harder to damage.
Now when you come in on Thursday you find that your seat has been switched for the one you mentioned you find makes your back ache. You swap it back, thinking it's the cleaners. But it happens again and when it happens a third time, all times on a Wednesday evening, you remove the seat you find a problem into another room, so it's harder to just swap it round.
So the next thing is on Thursday morning your notepad with your to-do list on your desk has the top sheet (ie the to do notes) removed.... so when it happens again you lock it in your top drawer. Then the next thing is...
Now all these are very petty. On their own they each seem silly. But when it's written like this it looks obvious that S is getting at you personally.
It still feels too silly and petty to complain about, and there's no proof.
But you're management and it's brought to you. It looks silly. You have no more evidence that person S is doing it, than the person who says it's happening is claiming it is to make S look bad. Neither will admit to it.
What can you do? I suspect most managements go for the easy option of considering it to be non-personal little accidents that are being taking far too personally.
But if it continues, at what point do you/management say that's enough? I suspect most of the time, you just leave. Now S may turn their attentions elsewhere. They may not. But if they do, you're probably starting at the beginning again. And if someone brings it up, are they just remembering what you said and deciding they can use it to undermine S or is S really doing it.
Because mostly people want to believe the good, and it's also easier, it's very easy for things to go on.
Yes, I know this is a very petty example, but people generally want to believe the best unless they are faced with direct evidence (and sometimes even then). That's how bullying and incompetence and mismanagement can prosper and not be challenged.