Are we weird?

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My DC were with their dad this weekend so DP and I headed into town and ran some non child friendly errands. We went to our favourite bookshop and each bought a couple of books. We went home and picked up the dog and had a sniffy walk through the woods to our local pub, bought a bottle of wine (x2) and sat at opposite ends of a sofa with the dog between us and read our new books while drinking wine. In my head, it was bliss! We’d done the necessary, and walked the pooch and after the crazy of Christmas we were very happy to chill out with some relaxed lighting, ambient music, a bit of buzz and no calls on our attention. Dog was quite content too. We walked home after and made tea.
My friend says we’re weird and that only sad people go to the pub and sit in silence, ignoring each other and we should have stayed at home. What do you think?

Sounds perfect tbh.

I don't think you were sad, but I would have been inclined to buy wine from a shop and sit at either end of my sofa at home and read, just because I imagine 2 bottles of wine from the pub would have been extortionate!

I mean, if you’re enjoying yourselves, crack on. I would probably think you’d had an argument though tbh if I saw you in there.
HTH do you read after drinking a bottle of wine though? Don’t you forget the plot if you read whilst drinking?

Not weird at all. Pure bliss. Lots of people do this but replace books for phones. It's the white noise of the pub and being able to chill without talking to anyone! Prob prefer to do the reading and wine at home though.

My DH and I used to do this on holiday. Have dinner, sit at the bar with another drink or a cocktail and read. Being comfortable sitting in silence with each other is one of the keys to a good relationship in my opinion.

This sounds like my ideal Sunday OP! Only problem my DP has the attention span of a goldfish and anytime we try to relax or he attempts to read a book, the quiet lasts 10mins then he’s bored and wants to talk to me. On our last holiday I had to explain to him very clearly that I didn’t want him to engage with me for at least an hour by the pool, so I could enjoy my book! Thankfully he’s quite sociable so found people to chat to at the bar and I got to read. But a cosy pub with my dog next to sounds delightful and not weird at all.

The only thing missing is an open fire beside the sofa. Sounds like a lovely way to spend a Sunday.

Your friend has too much to say! You're not weird. You both enjoyed it! Sounds really nice and relaxing.

We do this 3 or 4 times a year. It is expensive, I think it was £40 for the wine but we were there for about 3 hours and we didn’t need to get a taxi home home, etc… At home I would have been twittering about ‘doing stuff’ whereas in the pub I could just chill and read my book without seeing housework when I wanted to relax.
No, we hadn’t fallen out! Although I can instead why you might think that!

I don't think I've ever met anyone I could be so comfortable in silence with. You guys sound like you have a great relationship, what a lovely way to spend an afternoon.

We probably wouldn't spend that much on booze to sit in silence as we could do that at home. But saying that I went to the pub with him Friday evening and wish he had sat in silence!

I think in a northern pub you would have someone come up to you and ask if you were ok if you were doing that. Which isn't ok as you can do what you like but they would!

Sounds ace

Your friend is an idiot, it sounds like a very pleasant afternoon, but dogs shouldn't be on pub furniture.

Sounds great - except the dog was on the sofa?

It's not weird, but it's not something I would do.

Would you not have been more comfortable at home?

When I read I like to curl up on couch under a blanket and fully immerse myself in the book. I can't imagine feeling comfortable enough to do this in a pub, nor would it be appropriate / desirable, I feel!

But if you enjoy it, no, it's not weird.

That sounds absolutely delightful. I'm quite jealous!

Oh, we’re as far North in England as you can get!
It’s a great pub, but no open fire. I would have beyond delighted if that had been the case.
I’m a total introvert, so it was perfect. I got to be out enough to nod and smile at people occasionally and DP patted passing dogs and had the odd chat.

Sounds amazing. A comfortable silence. Sounds like a lovely relationship.

That sounds lovely.

There's a lot to be said in simply being able to be quietly content.

Sounds divine 😊

We live in a very dog friendly part of the country - they supplied a blanket to cover the sofa so she could snuggle in. And numerous dog treats every time a member of staff went past :-)

Blissful to me.

All sounds utterly delightful to me! Your friend sounds a bit sad and jealous maybe..

The only thing weird is the constant mention of the dog, also what is a sniffy walk?

Sounds perfect. Doing it out in a pub is ideal as if you were doing it at home you would feel guilty and see things that needed doing and not be able to relax.