I think I'm correct with this - housemate with knife

[Sheepbaaaa]

Housemate has become increasingly violent and stole an antique knife of mine night before twelve night. NC as embarrassing, one of my friends on here would recognise this instantly so hello.

I know that he has been to prison before but not sure if that was for physical violence or knives.

I do have a right to check, don't I?

Twice you've said you want to listen to, "relaxing music" With a knife stealing abuser upstairs? Mmm... Okay...

Okay let me get this right...

There are two knives missing. You are sure your flatmate has taken one of them which is an antique and was your grandmother's. Not sure where the other one is.

Your flatmate has assaulted you and you've had to go to A&E twice, but it wasn't his fault. He also wanted to cuddle one of the times he assaulted you.

He has a criminal record.

He is in the house at the moment.

I would start by getting yourself out of there right now! And then think about what else you need to do to keep yourself safe and away from this man.

OP, I think you're very vulnerable and perhaps not fully able to see how exposed you are. I would definitely follow up with the police and, if at all possible, get your housemate removed, and then seek help to strengthen your boundaries.

Look if it was that urgent and I thought he'd jump at me in a gimp suit holding a knife obviously I'd call 999. He's a lazy little twat who uses prostitutes. I really don't like him at all anymore.

I'm pissed off and worried about all this.

You said “all other knives were stolen”. So how many knives is that? And do you mean stolen by him?

Well if they are housemates and these were kitchen knives left out on the side, they may not consider that that have “stolen” them as such. He may just think he is “using” them.

One of the worst things about housemates was all my nice kitchen stuff migrating into their rooms and never reappearing. Bit different to nicking them from a shop.

OP, can you be a bit clearer about your living circumstances? You say housemates - is he lodging in your house, or are you both tenants in a house owned by a separate landlord? If the latter, have your reported his behaviour to the landlord? Have you been to the police to report the assaults on you? All this might have a bearing on what you can or should do next.

I'd be pissed off he stole an antique from me.

I wouldn't be overly bothered that it's a knife as he (like all of us) will have access to knives every single day.

What is the cuddling situation? Why does he ask you for that and why do you give it?

That particular situation we were chatting downstairs then I said I was going to bed (tired/bored) and he WhatsApp asking me to go back down for a cuddle. But it really hurt and I couldn't make him let go until I flopped completely and said please.

He seems to think he's some sort of genius. I listen to it and have to keep a straight face. Anyway that's right off topic.

But why did you agree to go down and cuddle him? Did you want to?

It’s not normal to cuddle your housemate like that.

It sounds like you fancy him.

@Nonomono I don't think he's a good person, I wouldn't want to be with him

This is all very odd. He’s stolen knife/knives before but OP leaves a knife out in order to slice an apple the following day! WTF?! He has asked her to come downstairs for a cuddle (a bit weird!) and she has agreed (even weirder!) and he’s squeezed her so hard she’s ended up in A&E! There has also been an altercation ending in her falling down the stairs and again ending up in A&E. And he’s been in prison before. I’d be running for the hills not cuddling him and leaving knives out!!!

OP, I’m going to ask you these questions again. But add another one, because from what you have said, living with him sounds awful and something nobody would want. But do you actually want to stop sharing with him, or not? Because your recent replies make me confused about this.

No you haven't read this properly. He pushed me at the top of the landing so that resulted in A&E visits.

A harsh cuddle didn't. I only left my grandmother's knife out for a few hours early morning and heard him go to the kitchen at 3am at which point he stole it. I have hypothermia so frequently fall asleep on the sofa where it's warmer.

Quite a few people on this thread haven't been very kind and have reading difficulties so this is the last from me, I'd rather speak to the police about his exact knife background.

You have hypothermia?

And, I quote... Look if it was that urgent and I thought he'd jump at me in a gimp suit holding a knife obviously I'd call 999. He's a lazy little twat who uses prostitutes. I really don't like him at all anymore.

Surely you can see how crazy this all sounds 🤔

Sheepbaaaa sorry but when you said the following…..
By increasing violence I meant I ended up in A&E twice (this is not actually his direct fault, he was being bolshy with me on the landing and unfortunately I fell down the stairs) then sqeezing me so tightly and not letting me go that it started hurting
..you didn’t say HE PUSHED you down the stairs at all. You said “unfortunately I fell down the stairs”. You also said you’d ended up in A&E twice and went on to describe two incidents.

I have read correctly. You are drip feeding, making odd sounding statements and changing your story which is why people are questioning what you mean. It’s not that they are not being kind.

Also you have hypothermia..??

If you really want to ignore people here and run the risk of serious injury then go ahead. Seems to me that you might be enjoying the drama around this.

Gently OP, you obviously have a lot going on and it’s difficult to advise without knowing the full story.

Perhaps it is worth ringing the police again and asking them to come out or probably easier go to the station and explain what’s happening and that you are vulnerable and so they can try and help you.

I recognise your living arrangements now.

You've had a couple of threads in the past, under a different name, where you let your housemate grope you in exchange for him letting you talk to him.

That was batshit enough, but this is off the scale.

You have a talent for writing posts which sound outlandish, OP.

And I recall you got annoyed with posters who questioned your version of events in these other threads.

Trading conversation for cuddling/having had all your knives stolen by a man with a criminal record, who puts you in hospital twice, are both highly unlikely scenarios.

Edited to add you have frequent hypothermia.

I remember this cuddling situation, you have posted about it before.
I don't know if it's just your writing style but this whole thing just comes across as odd.
You seem strangely unbothered and detached considering what has supposedly happened.

Yes I remember your other thread where you let him touch you because you wanted company. I didn’t think it was a ‘cuddle.’ Anyway I would make sure you were not doing that any more.

OP was advised not to let this situation develop in her last thread, but she got arsey with anyone who recommended this.