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I think I'm correct with this - housemate with knife

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Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 04:52

Housemate has become increasingly violent and stole an antique knife of mine night before twelve night. NC as embarrassing, one of my friends on here would recognise this instantly so hello.

I know that he has been to prison before but not sure if that was for physical violence or knives.

I do have a right to check, don't I?

OP posts:
Needanewnamebeingwatched · 06/01/2024 09:52

Google him

His court date and conviction will show up

Woman2023 · 06/01/2024 09:52

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 09:48

OP, if this is actually true, you are being assaulted by this man.

Call the police. Get RL support to move out / him to move out, depending on your living arrangements. He's violent. No need for any details on his background

This.

Grimchmas · 06/01/2024 09:52

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 09:44

You haven't understood what I was asking; the original question was is it alright to ask the police to do a search for previous offenses. It was before I met him and may have been in a different county.

The knife was a sentimental item and I miss it.

By increasing violence I meant I ended up in A&E twice (this is not actually his direct fault, he was being bolshy with me on the landing and unfortunately I fell down the stairs) then sqeezing me so tightly and not letting me go that it started hurting.

No he is not a boyfriend.

The FUCK did I just read?

Come tell me again that I was being dramatic telling the OP to leave the house 🙄

UsedtobeYoung24 · 06/01/2024 09:52

That is shocking and not normal. Plus with the knives concern I would be worried.

where is he now? Where are you now?

BodyKeepingScore · 06/01/2024 09:52

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 09:51

@EarringsandLipstick I have exact hospital dates, thinking about it I could unblock him on WhatsApp and find the date when he asked me to come downstairs to a cuddle but then hurt me so I struggled. Then quickly block again.

Housemates don't ask each other for cuddles. He's already been violent, why are you still there?

CavalierApproach · 06/01/2024 09:55

Why are you still living with this person?

LefthandRight · 06/01/2024 09:55

Twelfth night and an antique knife? Are you writing from 1850?

This dude has a criminal record and pushed you down the stairs. WTF OP!

GreatGateauxsby · 06/01/2024 09:56

What the fuck is wrong with you???

you have had multiple knives stolen in your home and been twice assaulted (directly/indirectly) with some stranger you live with and are on here farting about asking if a you have a right to know about his past…. Like who cares????

move out / go stay with family / do whatever

I would want to be as far away from this person as humanly possible…

Grimchmas · 06/01/2024 09:57

I'm tapping out now but on the micro chance that this is real:

OP you need to LEAVE the house. Immediately. Your housemate is not safe to be around. Having him blocked on WhatsApp isn't going to save you (though why you needed to block him is probably a whole extra adventure). Make whatever arrangements you need to in order to not be living with a man who has landed you in hospital twice, stolen two knives and who has a criminal past bad enough to have served time.

And wise the fuck up.

Blinky21 · 06/01/2024 09:58

Maybe he's taken it to sell it, but either way he's still stolen from you.
You could Google him, in case the case was reported or you could contact your landlord, if you have one, surely they would evict him if he's committed a crime against you

UsedtobeYoung24 · 06/01/2024 09:59

You had to go to a&e with an injury after he ‘cuddled’ you? What did a&e say? Did you report the incident as a crime?

BlouseyBrownMalone · 06/01/2024 10:00

My daughter is twenty and lives in a house share and she only has one knife. She cooks, washes up and put her things away so that she knows where her stuff is and so that kitchen isn't messy.

I'm pretty sure when I was young it wasn't a big deal to me how many knives I owned.

Grimchmas · 06/01/2024 10:01

BlouseyBrownMalone · 06/01/2024 10:00

My daughter is twenty and lives in a house share and she only has one knife. She cooks, washes up and put her things away so that she knows where her stuff is and so that kitchen isn't messy.

I'm pretty sure when I was young it wasn't a big deal to me how many knives I owned.

Try reading all of the OP's posts.

Nonomono · 06/01/2024 10:02

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 09:51

@EarringsandLipstick I have exact hospital dates, thinking about it I could unblock him on WhatsApp and find the date when he asked me to come downstairs to a cuddle but then hurt me so I struggled. Then quickly block again.

Where is he now?

QueenOfMOHO · 06/01/2024 10:03

Sheepbaa it makes not a shred of difference if this man has no historic criminal record at all, the fact is that he has been violent to you.
Report him, get yourself out of there and don't let him have the opportunity to do it again.

kittensinthekitchen · 06/01/2024 10:07

Is this the guy that you let grope you so he'll let you chat at him for a bit?

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 10:08

@Nonomono he's upstairs. I have deposit etc but low income p/t so might have to drop MSc if I go f/t

OP posts:
Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/01/2024 10:09

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 07:31

It's not really relevant just keeps coming up in my calendar so I think of it as such.

Anyway I want to relax now and listen to some music.

You sound very odd. Either this is AI or you are mentally unwell yourself. Who uses an antique knife to slice an apple?!

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 06/01/2024 10:10

Regardless of the stealing of a knife, with the increasing violence I’d get him evicted or move myself. You do not want to put yourself at risk of attack.

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 10:12

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 06/01/2024 10:09

You sound very odd. Either this is AI or you are mentally unwell yourself. Who uses an antique knife to slice an apple?!

Oh for heaven's sake this was a knife my grandmother left me and I used it as all other knives were stolen. I was very close to my grandmother.

OP posts:
Nonomono · 06/01/2024 10:12

Who stole your other knifes?

Did you report them?

BlouseyBrownMalone · 06/01/2024 10:14

Try reading all of the OP's posts.

I have.

I don't understand why people are going on about how weird it is she has only one knife (already stolen) and an antique knife.

Why is this the focus of people's posts?

Risun · 06/01/2024 10:16

@kittensinthekitchen Sounds familiar to me too.

Falkenburg · 06/01/2024 10:16

Has the same person stolen your other knives?

User56785 · 06/01/2024 10:16

You sound very odd. Either this is AI or you are mentally unwell yourself. Who uses an antique knife to slice an apple?

How fucking offensive are you? Telling someone that they sound odd. So what if she is 'mentally unwell' for a start.