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I think I'm correct with this - housemate with knife

136 replies

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 04:52

Housemate has become increasingly violent and stole an antique knife of mine night before twelve night. NC as embarrassing, one of my friends on here would recognise this instantly so hello.

I know that he has been to prison before but not sure if that was for physical violence or knives.

I do have a right to check, don't I?

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 06/01/2024 07:48

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 07:30

Because my other knife was stolen so I only had my grandmother's

Seems unlikely.
Interesting first post, as they say.

SoulMole · 06/01/2024 07:48

WandaWonder · 06/01/2024 07:39

Would the police tell you this, privacy laws?

No. Unless you are in an intimate relationship or there are children involved, there is no 'right to know'. However, if the police 'give advice' about them living with you, you can assume that they have Information of concern and that he may present a risk to you. (18 years in CJS)

passiveaggressivenonsense · 06/01/2024 07:55

The fact he took it and refuses to give it back is really shitty in a housemate. I assume you asked him why.

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 07:56

I NC'd. This is bringing out the worst of MN. I guess his criminal court case must be public, police can tell me as I don't know which date it's from.

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 06/01/2024 07:57

passiveaggressivenonsense · 06/01/2024 07:55

The fact he took it and refuses to give it back is really shitty in a housemate. I assume you asked him why.

And why he took the only other knife in the house......

Dontknowwhyidoit · 06/01/2024 08:02

No you are not entitled to know his record. Clair's law is for people in an intimate relationship.

Icanflyhigh · 06/01/2024 08:06

Sheepbaaaa · 06/01/2024 07:56

I NC'd. This is bringing out the worst of MN. I guess his criminal court case must be public, police can tell me as I don't know which date it's from.

Just Google it? Name etc will usually find relevant info.
What an odd post.

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 06/01/2024 08:07

I’m not sure there’s a similar register thing as there is for sexual offences. Might be more sensible to go with 999 and they can triage you down if they think fit. In the meantime, door closed and keep a low profile. At the very least the police can have a chat with him if it sounds dangerous. If nothing comes of it, nobody is harmed and he may get help (harming others comes way above harming yourself on the getting help scale). If he takes some sort of action you’ve got others on alert.

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 08:08

How bizarre.

Surely only this line is actually relevant:

Housemate has become increasingly violent

Why would you stay living with someone 'increasingly violent' who you know to have a criminal past? Who is he currently being violent to? You?

Make plans for either him or you to leave. Your posts read really strangely.

WhatsInStoreFor2024 · 06/01/2024 08:09

Tell the police he's your boyfriend? For a Clare's law check

EarringsandLipstick · 06/01/2024 08:10

WhatsInStoreFor2024 · 06/01/2024 08:09

Tell the police he's your boyfriend? For a Clare's law check

Or you know, just move out or get him to. They are housemates, not in a relationship. There's no need to look for information from the police, unless she would like to report his violence and theft.

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 06/01/2024 08:10

His criminal case will be public but it might take some intense research as a civilian. Search R v (his name) and try to find something that looks relevant but resources that aren’t paid for like westlaw are horribly underfunded. The government’s own legislation resource is underfunded as hell, out of date, often inaccurate.

2024sNewName · 06/01/2024 08:10

💩

Maybe he used it and it's sitting on a dirty plate on the floor in his room and it will reappear in the drawer once he's washed up.

CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau · 06/01/2024 08:12

Also Clare’s law is focused on domestic offences. He could have stabbed nineteen strangers in a cafe as a seventeen year old. Clare’s law isn’t going to tell you about that.

BearTrap · 06/01/2024 08:14

Google check/facebook and claires law

CormorantStrikesBack · 06/01/2024 08:17

So how is being increasingly violent? Towards you? Get him arrested for that.

anybloodyname · 06/01/2024 08:24

This is very strange

Sorrynotsorry2 · 06/01/2024 08:35

What...

BlouseyBrownMalone · 06/01/2024 08:40

You need to not live with a housemate where the police are involved, he's increasingly violent and he's stolen one or two knives.

You need to move or if it's your house you need to get him out.

What's the situation? Eg did you know him before,bare there other housemates, who owns the house?

Grimchmas · 06/01/2024 08:41

Have you googled his full name along with words like "sentenced," "court records" etc?

grumpytoddler1 · 06/01/2024 08:43

I'm confused, is this the plot of a Shakespeare play?

Bunnyhair · 06/01/2024 08:43

This is the weirdest thread I have ever seen.

FancyJapflack · 06/01/2024 08:48

So… you only had two knives in the house, one an antique and they’ve now both been stolen? What do you eat your dinner with? What WERE you eating your dinner with before the others were stolen? Or did you use a 9 inch antique knife to cut up your food and butter your bread?

SgtJuneAckland · 06/01/2024 08:49

Disclosures are not usually made unless someone is managed under MOSOVO or MAPPA, Clare's law is for those at risk of domestic abuse (right to know) or for others to ask police to disclose to someone who is (right to tell) the second is often used by other agencies. Sarah's law is similar but in relation to sexual offending. So no unless this man is highly dangerous police aren't going to disclose anything to you . They will deal with the theft if the knife and any violent behaviour. They will also know if he is subject to probation supervision or licence. If you know he is your best bet is to call the local probation officer and ask to report this to an officer. They ain't term you anything at all that will accept the intel. It depends how long ago he was in prison and how long the sentence was, at to whether he is still supervised

Zanatdy · 06/01/2024 08:50

They won’t tell you why he went to prison without his consent due to data protection