Thinking today about someone I went out with years ago, his family moved from a big city when he was a young teenager and he really disliked living in the countryside and held a grudge against his DP's about it. I was thinking he wasn't the man for me when I found out his his DF had passed away but he still held a grudge against him, in fact more of a grudge because he thought if his DF had waited a couple of years the move would never have happened. The words that finally ended it were when I asked how often he visited his DF's grave to be told that he had never been since the funeral and "why would I go there, he ruined my life". For the record he had a nice home with his DM who didn't charge him any housekeeping money, a job, a car and a circle of friends so his life wasn't exactly in tatters