Mumsnet threads you can't stop thinking about

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Happy New Year!

I'm still off work and getting bored. Looking for some good threads to waste a morning diving into.

What threads have stuck with you since you read them on here? Any with particular good advice? Funny or just plain scandalous also welcomed!

I remember that thread but in a different way. I thought it was awful that photos were posted and that they seem to be getting off on the fact they were helping. They could've done all that through private messages.

Another poster called jennywren or a variation of that who had terminal cancer and was only in her 20s. She was very ill then just stopped posting. I often think of her.

I often think of poster, I can't remember her user name but I don't think it was jennywren so I assume a different poster, who was also only in her 20s with terminal bowel cancer. She wrote such uplifting posts and seemed wise beyond her years in acceptance of her situation. It was really quite mind blowing that someone in their early 20s could face a terminal diagnosis like this. Then her posts stopped and there was a post from someone who knew her to confirm her death with a link to her obituary. An inspiring and brave woman

the one who said all her 3 year old did was sleep

i knew it was a troll and felt sad for the posters who poured themselves in to supporting the Op

turned out a load of bollox

it got me thinking… what utterly unhinged person would do such a thing?

Why would anyone pay attention to Tattle? It's vile.

I remember your meet up with Chopin! It was great to read both of your reports back on it.

@DomPom47 I think that was me? They did break up thankfully and he is doing well and has a new GF now who is just lovely and very much part of the family.

@dontgobaconmyheart

The honest answer is absolutely none of them.

I do think people need to take what they read on here with a pinch of salt a lot of the time.

Some posts are very obviously made up.

To me a common denominator of threads that are trolling are where it is unfolding in real time - the sort of I've just right now this second discovered my husband is cheating because I've seen him in the street kissing someone OR I'm locked out of my home by the cleaner and standing outside in the street and she wont let me in OR my husband is upstairs and I've just seen messages on his phone to my best friend. what do I do?

I think it is because real time combined with regular updating gets people really invested like watching a soap opera. so I'm always really suspicious of anything unfolding LIVE on any threads here. I know thats not always the case and sometimes people do post in an emergency - usually medical funnily enough - for advice but anything dramatic live posting = likely troll to me.

There is also detail changing to avoid being identified which I've done if I've posted about things I've really wanted opinions on but didnt really want to advertise the real facts in case the person I was asking about is posting here or reading. It may sound an unlikely worry but if you have had a particular row with someone and write about it here even anonymously, if its fresh in the mind of the person concerned they will recognise it. I think that sort of thing is very very common here - my sister is stealing from me becomes I think my cousin is stealing from me. I think my next door neighbour with 5 cats and a green rolls royce is defrauding the council becomes I think the neighbour five doors down with one cat and one dog and blue porshe.

I am so pleased to hear this 🙏🌟
Wishing you and your family the very best xx

She's posted an update a few posts above yours .

The poster I've often wondered about was called something like Stercusaccidit (i remember her saying it's Latin for shit happens - I've just googled the phrase). It was many, many years ago, not long after I had first joined MN (which was around 15 years back) She was in an abusive relationship, had separated and returned to him. There was one point she hadn't posted for a while and people were worried about her . I would love to know if she's still here on another user name and if she's OK.

A thread I found very sad was the poster with cancer who asked for ideas for a final holiday trip but never made it (she was a long term poster).

There was a post a long time ago where the poster said they left their baby on the sofa when they went to the loo and they had fallen off the sofa in that short time and died. MN pulled the thread pretty quickly saying it was a troll. It was the first time I had seen that happen and just couldn't believe anyone would do such a thing for 'fun'.

That was the lady I was thinking of too.

I'm sure nobody here remembers now but over 10 years ago I posted on here saying that my exDH's new wife, who was the OW in a very sad and stressful divorce (7 children affected overall) was offering me a job and I didn't know what to do 😂
It was a really weird situation and could easily have sounded made up but it really was my life.

I was given a lot of support and advice on here. Most felt I shouldn't do it but in the end I braced myself and did it - I had been out of work and isolated for a long time and it actually worked out really well for me.

She was actually my manager for a while, quite bizarrely. Then she moved on and I got another job there and have progressed to quite a good career, really thanks to her! Her motives at the time were selfish but she gave me a much needed push and a way in.

We're not friends and no longer in touch (though she's still my kids' stepmum) and it all seems like a weird fever dream so many years later!

Some people are just pathetic and get kicks out of upsetting people by posting on discussion boards like this.

i do think someone who posts on MN after having a baby died after such a tragedy wouldn’t be posting all over MN giving all the details of what happened. Also I imagine genuine posters would be too full of guilt and shame to post that they left their baby on a sofa and that baby had died as a result. I probably wouldn’t want to admit such a thing even i did post anonymously.

Yes you're probably right, this was probably 12 years ago and I had not really used a website like MN before so it had never crossed my mind people would make things up at all. I still think I am rubbish at spotting trolls now TBH.

To be fair I’m useless at recognising troll threads too. It’s only when someone else points it out that I start to wonder if it’s a troll thread.

I suppose back in the day I would have believed it too although nowadays as a mum myself plus being much older and wiser, would now tell me posts such as the one you describe- if you had just lost a child especially if it was your own fault the last you would be doing is posting it all over the internet. It wasn’t a criticism on your judgement at all so I hope you don’t think it was.

No I didn't take it that way at all, I do think some people are really good at spotting those sorts of threads quickly but thinking about it I have only ever really posted about things I vaguely ponder about, only once have I posted about a more serious situation but more just for a bit of company whilst waiting for news. It definitely wouldn't be the first thing I'd think of doing that's for sure so I should be better at spotting the trolls 🤣

I keep thinking about this one too

Margaritte and sad widow
Very strange thread it stated off innoculously,with a poster called Margaritte,asking for tips about making money stretch further
Her and her husband were very stretched financially and they had a few children including a baby or toddler
There was lots of advice from various posters
Than a poster called sad widow took it upon themselves to start drawing up daily lists for margsritte to do and then it transpired she was sending 20-30kg boxes of food and treats via Hermes weekly or maybe fortnightly
And then sad widow started asking other posters to donate stuff to margaritte,it all ended quite abruptly I can't quite.remember how
But I did wonder if Margaritte,and Sad Widow were one and the same poster?

@x2boys i remember that. And didn’t sad widow have a seperate phone for Mumsne due to something else she was involved in?

Yes I think so 🤔

A poster called GettingBigger or something similar from about 2011-ish, who was in an abusive marriage. She had two primary-school age children and a baby, and it transpired that the husband had possibly damaged the condoms so she got pregnant when she was planning to go back to work. One detail I remember was that the husband had locked one of the children out on a cold evening for not taking their medication. She was planning to leave, but I don’t know if she did.

The other I remember was called something like RedStripe, who was married to an alcoholic stoner, but thought that was normal. She posted about whether people would judge her daughter behaving badly at the park, and seemed astonished when we all pointed out that her DH smoking weed by the playground was what she’d be judged for, not normal toddler behaviour.

I think she left him after he’s been violent when he was drunk, but went back to him and got pregnant. Her family and his seemed to think drinking heavily/ getting stoned was normal behaviour, and I don’t think she had much support when she left. This was about 5 or 6 years ago.

Cubette was the name
That thread really didnt ring very true. Think every thing was way over dramatic and OP was enjoying being the hero far too much, too Munchhauseny.

I think anyone posting from a hospital with frequent updates needs to be taken with a pinch of salt . Some of the relationships threads too .

and what about the ones posting from the hospital bedside of their gravely ill child?

Now that to me is utterly unfathomable