Mumsnet threads you can't stop thinking about

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Happy New Year!

I'm still off work and getting bored. Looking for some good threads to waste a morning diving into.

What threads have stuck with you since you read them on here? Any with particular good advice? Funny or just plain scandalous also welcomed!

God knows how many years ago there was a regular poster who said she didn’t know she was pregnant up to even when she had the baby, there was a whole load of other stuff, and I can’t remember it fully now, but I remember drama on and off about it.

There was one poster who had some nice underwear. Once it was dirty, she would hide it otherwise her husband would dig it out and boil wash it.

Can you remember her name?

The one last year where the woman's husband wouldn't stop talking almost exclusively about the line up at Glastonbury and speculating about who the surprise acts would be, even though she wasnt remotely interested and he wasn't going. She was exasperated.

I don't know why it amused me so much, but all I could think of whilst watching bits of this year's coverage is what was her husband making of all this?

I would love an update about the poor woman with five kids whose husband cheated on her with a bimbo colleague who was gushing about him on Instagram. He left her to go stay with the mistress in her central London flat, then he emailed her the next day saying he would come back when she'd calmed down and how she would never cope without him, she'd just have to suck it up. It was the most infuriating email ever. I think her family lived up north, so she was all alone, and she was contemplating moving to be with them. She never came back after that post.

There was a woman who posted multiple threads about her daughter not being invited to a family wedding as she is the husband's step child. Over and over.

A lady posted recently about her son who had gone missing while on a spontaneous solo trip Poland. I think she said he had mh issues . The thread was deleted by MN as they said the OP wouldn't be posting again or something to that effect. If real I hope he was found safe 🙏

The poster called
ChopinandChampagne and the worry she had for eldest daughter married to a controlling man.
Tbh the daughter was a selfish, demanding madam, who prior to being with Lobster Boy wasn't very nice to her siblings, her relatives or her friends.
Some have said it was all made up and featured on Tattle. 🤷‍♀️

I still remember ggglimpopo's thread about her precious daughter Maud, who sadly passed away about 16 or 17 years ago - mumsnetters walked with pink balloons the length and breadth of the country. I often wonder about ggglimpopo and remember Maud and the pink balloons. My eldest was about one at the time and has now just completed her A levels. Life is very unfair.

Was @chopinandchampagne actually a troll. I'm actually shocked! ( or as my son ould say shook). I full on believed every word of that. A pp has said that she was a troll if people are wondering why I'm asking that

The thread posted by the woman whose policeman husband raped her while her baby was in the room. I hope she managed to get away and be safe. Mum of two boys threads about the loss of her son have stayed with me.

I can't remember their user name but about 18 months ago there was a lady who posted suffering from depression and she stated a number of times that she fantasised about killing her children. I hope she got the help she needed. Chilled me to the core.

I was notified this morning of the post by honeysuckleweeks saying that some people believed I might be a troll, which has really upset me. I haven't been active on MN recently, and I actually feel that I have already taken up too much of other people's time and sympathy, but posted this update today on another thread;

Thank you so much for still thinking of me. I haven't been on MN much recently, but today received a notification saying that I am suspected of being a troll, which really upset me. So I thought I should just assure people of my authenticity.

I have poured out my heart and soul on the various threads going back over many years now, and have been so grateful for the advice, support and friendship which I have received. There is just no way that I would invent all of this pain or steal other people's time. If anything, I feel that I have already taken too much of it and now just need to try to move forward.

By way of update, the relationship with DD1 is not perfect but not completely broken either. I have not spoken to her or seen her for 20 months, when I became upset at not being invited to the DGC's baptism and handled it very badly. Nor have I yet met DGS2, who is now 10 months old and apparently already walking, but I did receive both a Mother's Day card and a birthday card; also a message from DD1 on my wedding anniversary a few weeks ago, to which I sent a heartfelt reply of love and appreciation, but have heard nothing further.

In addition, and I regard this as slightly strange, I received a direct message from LB about six weeks ago, saying that he and DD1 had grown in their Catholic faith, had received various sacraments on the same day, ie the blessing of their marriage (they did not marry in church), the baptism of DGS2, confession/absolution, and mass. Also saying how DD1 was a wonderful wife and mother, the woman she was intended to be, inspired the whole family and he believed she inherited these traits from her father, who would be so proud of her. And that I should not feel excluded because I had not been invited to the baptism etc, as nobody else had either.

I am really sorry not to have updated sooner but, in a way, there hasn't really been very much to say, and I don't want to be the whinger in the corner, constantly repeating the same sorry tales of woe. But nor am I a troll and it saddens me so much that anyone could believe that of me. I can only repeat that I am just so grateful for all of the support I have received and that I would never waste people's time, which they have been so, so generous with!

Also, what is Tattle and please could somebody send me a link. I would be very upset and it could do irreparable harm if DD1 found out that I have been posting on social media, which is also a largely contributory factor in not posting much any more, as nothing is really private any longer. Thank you. 🌻

@ChopinandChampagne ”and it could do irreparable harm if DD1 found out that I have been posting on social media”

I’m going to say that I have seen you posting over the years here and there and the amount of practical detail you have gone into makes your story very recognisable eg nicknames, ages, places, towns etc. I would honestly think about asking Mumsnet to wipe all your posts and just start again with ‘estranged daughter’ and leave any details out. You can still get support here without going into details. No one needs to know ages of grandchildren etc other than ‘all below 10’ etc. Your daughter seems to me to be of the typical age and situation to use Mumsnet and I am sure it would all go terribly wrong beyond all expectations if she found this. Or one of her friends did. Or a school mum etc.

Time slip one.

Funny things children have said.

The one where the husband went to a hotel while she was away for work, saying he heard a noise in the house.

Best 80s music

General cock lodgery

MeAgainAndAgain - thank you!

One more thing - for someone to get a notification that you’ve responded you type ‘@‘ and then a list of user names comes up. The first one is the OP and all the others are alphabetical. If you type the first few letters in it helps……

@ChopinandChampagne see screenshot.

I see loads of people not tagging correctly, it means whoever you are tagging might never see your message.

I really feel for you, it must be a heart wrenching situation and you’re obviously such a lovely mum and grandmother.

Me too. This one haunts me like no other thread I have read in 14 years on MN

MeAgainAndAgain - thank you again!!!!!

honeysuckleweeks - No, I am definitely not a troll and please feel free to message me if you need proof. I have also met two lovely MN posters in person who would tell you that I am totally genuine. But I am now cautious about posting as I am worried about confidentiality. The internet doesn't seem the same as it was when I first started posting, a long time ago now, less innocent, more toxic and dangerous somehow. 🌻

What?!?!

I think the young mum you’re referring to is me. My previous username was MamaTeeTee. My husband took his own life 8 and a half years ago. Mumsnet were an incredible support to me and I’ll never ever forget it.
I ended up selling up and moving about an hour away from my in-laws. To this day they have a very close relationship with the DC, but I’ve not spoken to them since.
I went on to have another DD with my new DP. We had a lovely relationship but parted ways last year. We’re still very good friends and actually work together as we own businesses together. He took on mine and DHs children like his own and still have a great relationship with them. I am extremely lucky - he really is one of the good ones.
I have a lot of demons to battle but overall, I’m happy and content. I love my job, I have a lovely house, I have 3 dogs and go on plenty of holidays. My DC are just incredible.
We miss DH terribly and still talk about him most days. I can’t believe how much time has passed. I truly believe I’ll never know another love like ours. But I’m grateful I had it, even if only for a short while.

That's lovely update, @DumboNoMore.

@DumboNoMore the poster I’m thinking of lived in S Wales, but regardless of whether you’re the poster I’m thinking about I’m so glad you have found peace and contentment.

MN was also an enormous source of support to me during a very difficult loss and despite the shittinwss and bitchiness that sometimes threatens to engulf the site I’m so grateful that it remains for those that need it.