Friend made me visit fortune tellers and now I feel worse

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My friend is really into this stuff. Apparently the lady she visits knew her uncles name and she isn’t on social media so there’s no way she could find it. Above that she’s apparently predicted events that took place without her telling her a word. She knew she had a divorce and she never said a word. Knew her break up would happen before it did etc etc

so she insisted I go. Anyway. I got in and she reeled off “you and your partner split. He’s a cheat and a liar and it’s time you look forward and never go back. Don’t bother reaching out either.”

so I sort of just, looked at her blankly and then at my friend who dragged me here. I did just listen to the rest of the spiel that she gave. That apparently my mum loves rings. And that I should have gone to France last summer. And that I’m apparently changing career (from the one I have no desire to change right now)

By the end my head was spinning. And I was a little frustrated with my friend. Mainly because, yes okay I’ve started dating again (aside from the crap offers I’ve had) and after a few months of the split I’m trying to get out there and move on. But when someone’s already slightly vulnerable. Hearing these things can be damaging and frustrating.

I ended up crying to my friend over brunch in the end and she consoled me and was hugely apologetic for taking me. But I just honestly don’t know what to think when my head clearly isn’t in the right place. Or even what to believe. I always thought of it as codswallop.

Fortune teller? What was your fortune and why were you sad? Sounds more like a clairvoyant. It's all rubbish anyway

It's absolute nonsense. Lots of what they say is likely true for a large % of people, ignore and don't take to heart!

Yeah that was my stance typically. I don’t think anyone really knows what’ll happen. But I was confused on how she knew I split up. My friend has only visited this person once. Like how on earth did she just know these things?

its not me even saying I’d turn back I’m just looking ahead. But to be so blaze in the way you’re saying it?!?

There won't be many people who haven't split with at least one partner. She's a charlatan, like every other fortune teller. Dont give it another thought.

It is codswallop. These people make a Iiving out of reading people, not reading fortunes, so she probably threw around stuff like France, career change and didn't get a reaction, but when she mentioned your partner she picked up a flutter of vulnerability in you and ran with it. Take no notice.

Also one minute she said I won’t contact him. Then suddenly mid way she said “text him now I’m sensing he’s depressed” I was like. Uhh. No. I’m not texting him now. No way.

I worry for the very vulnerable and how badly they could be stung by this.

Problem was we ended on such bad terms. So when she said it. It just dawned on me and really just sort of, got me back to square one a little. Then she said “I see you’re going away in 2 days” which I am. Then has the audacity to say. after only 10 mins of very shitty info mind you, that’s the end of the reading. You can ask me questions for 10 mins. So I said, how do you know my partner cheated. Her: “it’s just what I’m picking up” me “oh okay”
her: “you’re also getting promoted. Anything from now to two years” well fucking hell most people do get promoted in that time.

Then said. Oh that’s £40. Fuck me. £40 for what?!?

It's a load of old shit OP.

Anything they get wrong, they cover their arses.

Them: "Does the name Harold mean anything to you?"
You: "Errr no?"
Them: "Well it will do in the future" 🙄

Them: "I'm sensing Dorset is a very important place to you?"
You: "Nope, never been?!"
Them: "Well it will be in the future" 🙄

If you had said you weren't going away in 2 days, she'd come back with "Well prepare for an unexpected journey in the near future" 🙄

And while you're feeling vulnerable especially, I wouldn't got anywhere near these charlatans.

Your friend didn't 'make' you visit and she didn't 'drag' you there though, that was on you but your friend should've known better than to encourage it.

Did she physically drag you there? Sorry you were scammed. That sucks. Lesson learned.

It's all a load of crap. These people just prey on vulnerable people (not saying you are, because your friend wanted you to go , but most people who go to these things are looking for someone to tell them something and walk right into it). They just prod about hoping you'll give a reaction.

I hear you that it puts you back a few steps, I was in a similar position where a friend wanted me to go with her too so I did although I'm such a skeptic and the woman did hit some nerves by just saying general things and left me feeling shitty too. Scammers, if they could really see the future they'd know how damaging their words can be to some people!!

Try not to take any notice it's a load of rubbish, hope you feel much better soon. You don't need this idiot to tell you what your future holds you can go get whatever you want for yourself it's in your hands 🙂

No genuine Medium would tell you what to do, ever.

Please pay no attention to this, it's all rubbish.

You chose to go!
It’s an odd post, getting upset that it’s utter shite when apparently you know it’s utter shite.
“How did she know?” - cold reading, easily Google-able.
Stop blaming your friend, she didn’t make you do anything.
Stop worrying about random vulnerable people, and concentrate on your own decisions!

How many women do you know who have split up with someone obnoxious within the last five years?

I went to see one not booked but at a spiritualist church just random when passing and near the end of the day so a lot of people had left. He got everything right I stayed quiet the whole time never said yes or no.

Reason it this way. If you could genuinely communicate with the dead and look into and predict the future, would you really be advertising yourself in the classified ads and charging £40 a go to slightly lost and lonely people looking for an answer as to whether they’ll ever get married to someone whose name begins with C or whether their dead gran is happy in the afterlife? Of course you fucking wouldn’t. You’d be in demand from every government on the planet wanting to know the answers to the important questions. You’d command the world.

You don’t need to feel angry at either yourself or your friend for being slightly vulnerable and trusting someone who seemed convincing. Focus on moving forward as you have been and remember that no experience actually puts you back - it’s just an unexpected adventure.

Does your mother actually love rings?

Is that bit true or codswallop too?

You don't have to actually say yes or no though. Your face and physical responses give a lot away

She knew you split up because these people are extremely good at reading body language clues. They know exactly how people hold themselves, the words they choose, etc when big life changes happen.

It is absolute bollocks and more than that it's exploitative.

I'm so sorry you were upset by your experience. I would think much less of a friend that a) believes in such bullshit and also allows herself to be manipulated and b) manipulated a friend into doing something they were uncomfortable with.

Chalk it up to a mistake made at a tricky time but maybe find some more sensible friends to help ground you as you reshape your life xxx

You do understand it's all done on body language don't you?

A little off topic, but I always find it curious that many people give “they got everything about me right” as the measure of satisfaction for a spiritualist or clairvoyant visit. I already know that my uncle is called Brian, that my mum really likes Chanel perfume, that I’ve got a big trip planned soon, that my ex and I broke up, and that my grandad before he died had pain but is now at peace and that he loved/s me. Etc etc. Why would I want a clairvoyant for information I already know about? What do clairvoyants think is actually the purpose of them telling their clients this stuff? Surely this is the most underwhelming aspect of it all, that their party piece is giving utterly pointless information?

It’s all rubbish anyway. My mum went before she had kids and the lady told her she’d have two boys. She has me and my sister and no boys. My Auntie went recently and was told loads of things that couldn’t be applied to her but could vaguely be applied to her son. She was then told she “must have been thinking of her son” at the time which was why this happened. She believes in this stuff and I was struggling to keep a straight face as she was telling me about it. What utter nonsense.