Friend made me visit fortune tellers and now I feel worse

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My friend is really into this stuff. Apparently the lady she visits knew her uncles name and she isn’t on social media so there’s no way she could find it. Above that she’s apparently predicted events that took place without her telling her a word. She knew she had a divorce and she never said a word. Knew her break up would happen before it did etc etc

so she insisted I go. Anyway. I got in and she reeled off “you and your partner split. He’s a cheat and a liar and it’s time you look forward and never go back. Don’t bother reaching out either.”

so I sort of just, looked at her blankly and then at my friend who dragged me here. I did just listen to the rest of the spiel that she gave. That apparently my mum loves rings. And that I should have gone to France last summer. And that I’m apparently changing career (from the one I have no desire to change right now)

By the end my head was spinning. And I was a little frustrated with my friend. Mainly because, yes okay I’ve started dating again (aside from the crap offers I’ve had) and after a few months of the split I’m trying to get out there and move on. But when someone’s already slightly vulnerable. Hearing these things can be damaging and frustrating.

I ended up crying to my friend over brunch in the end and she consoled me and was hugely apologetic for taking me. But I just honestly don’t know what to think when my head clearly isn’t in the right place. Or even what to believe. I always thought of it as codswallop.

It’s all a load of tosh, don’t give it another thought.

Maybe work on allowing other people “making” you do things you don’t want to.

It's a load of bullshit and it makes me really angry. Totally ignore it all. She told you a bunch of crap so you'd go back for another "reading". It's exploitative and cruel.

Your friend didn't make you visit a fortune teller.

She suggested it and you agreed.

How did she "insist"?

Unless you are saying she bundled you into the boot of her car and frog marched you into the house?

Could she have possibly found the information from your social media?

'so she insisted I go'

That is your problem. You can't stand up for yourself and someone like you is incredibly vulnerable to the charlatans of the world such as fake mediums and fortune tellers.

You do not have to do anything you don't want to do and your friend knows she can be forever uk and walk all over you.

I would start off this new year by finding your voice, learning to make boundaries with other people and ditch that manipulative friend!

You are not a doormat, so don't let yourself be used as one.

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so a slightly different perspective…

totally agree that the skill here is not mystical but people reading but…

i used to go to fairly regular tarot readings and found that having to formulate questions helped me realise what was important to me in that moment.

I always thought of it as therapy with incense.

sprry you had a bad time op but I think some of this can be helpful to others.

Exactly, deren brown is a good one to watch, he does it and explains what a load of bollocks it is. His programme on the American evangelist lot who pretend to faith heal is also a good watch.

It’s a load of rubbish and others have explained how it is done. As for your friend’s Uncle’s name you would be surprised how easy it is to find family tree information. Sometimes it is even possible to be done from an email address without the person’s proper name in it, it won’t necessarily take very long.

I had a friend who waited six months to see some famous clairvoyant type person. He was spot on telling her about her past and life now.

His predictions, very confidently stated, did not come true.

I guess he is just very good at reading people’s unconscious reactions, so was able to ‘read her’ and tell her about her life now.

I have other friends who’ve had similar experiences. Clairvoyants are great at the here and now. Crap at future prediction.

@TorroFerney

I watched a programmed about the power of suggestion with Detren Brown.

Within a few days of watching the show I was in a Debenhams and they had their 20% off sale which always excluded beauty products and that was always 10% off.

I decided to test out the power of suggestion and selected a Dior gift set and as there was no one at the Dior counter I took it to a till on the homewards section. I recognised the woman at the till as someone who had worked there for at least a few years.

I was friendly and made also the same statements that Darren Brown had done and maintained eye contact with her and expressed how pleased I was to get 20% off!

Of course the till was having none of my mind games and was only deducting 10% and the lady became confused as I was repeatedly mentioning 20% and she manually override the till to change it to 20% off.

I've since used the power of suggestion in other ways and it works every time.

It's just a clever way of using words, body language and a strong determination to get your own way.

Not true at all. I'm a developing medium. We are taught how to decipher the information we receive from whatever mode is relevant to us, such as clairvoyance, claireaudiance, clairesentient etc and recognise how this information differes from that from our own ego. To achieve this it's important to have no input from sitters.

At no point are we ever taught how to decipher a person's facial twitching 😂 I'm also autistic so shite at deciphering that anyway

There are many many fakes, who use all sorts of tactics to con people, I come across them all the time unfortunately. And i'm sure there are people out there who can read people's body language. They are not genuine mediums or psychics. We dont have to.

I know very gifted mediums held in high esteem within their specific fields who refuse to put themselves out there because of public perception. So unfortunately their gifts are only enjoyed through private demonstrations within their tight community.

Ah come off it.

Do they teach you how to do cold reading?

I know very gifted mediums held in high esteem within their specific fields who refuse to put themselves out there because of public perception. So unfortunately their gifts are only enjoyed through private demonstrations within their tight community

Convenient

It's obvious how she knows
Your friend told her! She might even get a cut of the money!

I've had my fortune told but genuine ones are vanishingly rare and don't ask for money.

Honestly, OP, she perhaps sensed your feelings and managed to make something of it.

I once went with a colleague who was into that type of thing. I was recently married and I deliberately took off my wedding ring…what the medium said about relationships was very amusing and all wrong. 😂

But then when you hear things like “there was a third party involved and clear competition with this person. You’ve split up and I sense you questioned his loyalty a few times and you know it too” or whatever it was she said

OP this is how the vast majority of relationships break down so there is no special knowledge needed.

Such a load of nonsense, why would you go in the first place? Don’t worry about other people. Work out why you were suggestible to such claptrap

I was sat in an audience with one and had a red scarf on, he used that to assume l was "arty". They just clutch at straws.

How do you come across the fakes and how do you know they’re fakes?

In fact, shouldn’t you know they’re fakes just by using your chocolate eclairsentient powers?

There are many many fakes, who use all sorts of tactics to con people, I come across them all the time unfortunately

Including the ones who've persuaded you that you're a medium @Melodyfrombeyond

It’s exploitative nonsense.

I’m sorry you lost £40 and were upset but put it out of your head

I believe that there is much more out there than we know and i do believe that there are people with skills of clairvoyancy etc. However I think that 95% of those out there who advertise themselves as psychics are nonsense. Don't give it anymore thought.

“But then when you hear things like “there was a third party involved and clear competition with this person. You’ve split up and I sense you questioned his loyalty a few times and you know it too” or whatever it was she said”

Surely you can see what utter bollocks that is?!

Third party, competition.

Don’t you see how that can apply to out and out dick elsewhere cheating… but also someone not having time for you / not backing you because of their mum, their friends, their work…

If I asked my husband, can you make that apply to you? He’d tell you that:

• he’s not happy that I worked crazy hours in 2023
• I often seem to spend more time catching up with friends’ WhatsApp messages in the evening (late after work) than chatting to him
• I stayed with my sister for 3 separate weeks to support her through operations (which he totally supported but if we were to split up, he could easily say that that didn’t help our lack of time together)

Why is it that this medium didn’t say “well he was sticking his dick in Laura from next door, for sure - check his burner phone in his car boot”? Always with the vague shite that vulnerable and our gullible people can twist.

I predict that you will feel much better if you eat a pack of good chocolate chip cookies and never spare this bullshit artist another thought! that'll be £500 please

MADE you? 🤦‍♀️🤣