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Is anyone else’s teen at home with them tonight?

110 replies

Asifiwouldnt · 31/12/2023 20:11

My older teen is perfectly happy being in tonight (I think) but I feel sad somehow. School just didn’t really work for them socially and they aren’t really one for clubbing but I somehow feel deeply sad that a 19 year old is home with her parents on NYE - I know I need to get over it.

Anyone else feel like this or reassure me?

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littlepeas · 31/12/2023 22:43

I honestly don't think it matters - the pressure to have a good time on NYE often means it ends up being an expensive anticlimax - plus there are plenty of ways to have a good time other than being out drinking. If young people have realised this before they have spent stupid money on mediocre nights out, then good for them.

48wheaties · 31/12/2023 22:45

My DS16 is with me playing his latest Spotify list. Going to a party is the last thing he'd want!

DD14 is in her room painting her nails.
We plan to crack out some snacks shortly and crank up the music.

Both happy home bodies...

Happy New Year All!

Vettrianofan · 31/12/2023 22:48

DS16 in with us watching Jackie Chan 🥋 movies. Our sides have been splitting at the reel at the end of the films. Can't beat it. He's had a few drinks and talking gibberish 🤣

Let your DD be. Loads of teens at home not out and about. At least you know she's safe.

Vettrianofan · 31/12/2023 22:49

DS 13 also watching movies with us too. It's great family time together. Youngest children are fast asleep.

Mirabai · 31/12/2023 22:49

At 19 I spent NYE clubbing with friends and NYD throwing up all day with one of the worst hangovers I’d ever had. I decided never again after that. Bringing in the NT with a cracking hangover is crap.

clementine20 · 31/12/2023 22:52

My two 15 and 18 are at home with us, have family friends with kids the same age round, but am sure they would be at home anyway.

Waitingfordoggo · 31/12/2023 22:52

My 15 year-old DS is at home gaming. 18 yo DD also here and has her boyfriend round.

MrsAvocet · 31/12/2023 22:57

My 18 year old DS is in bed asleep. 20 year old DS has gone round to one of his old school friend's houses - they'll be gaming I'm sure - and my 25 year old DD and her boyfriend are at home with their puppy. I've just come up to bed and DH is loading the dishwasher. We know how to party in this family! 😂

Changingmynameyetagain · 31/12/2023 23:00

DD who’s 17 is here with her boyfriend eating all my food and watching a film, DS1 is 15 and his gf was here earlier but she’s gone home now and he’s gaming online with his mates, DS2 is 13 and is watching YouTube in his room.

TommyNever · 31/12/2023 23:25

Better at home with you than starring in the Daily Mail's annual photo round-up of drunk revellers sliding in their own vomit etc.

FunnysInLaJardin · 31/12/2023 23:26

my 13 yo and 18 yo are both at home, chatting and playing with their mates online as usual.

I feel very fortunate that I dont have to worry about them!

loobylou44 · 31/12/2023 23:30

My 19 and 17 year olds are both at home with me and the dog.

daffodilandtulip · 31/12/2023 23:31

DD17 is home and none of her friends are out either (some are 18). She'll have a drink but just a nice social one, and I don't think she's ever been to a pub except places like carveries for a meal. I don't know if it's just her group or if it's post covid, but kids seem more sensible nowadays.

FunnysInLaJardin · 31/12/2023 23:32

in fact DS1 stayed up until 4am last night playing Minecraft with his 18yo mates, think it was retro!

None of them seem to drink either, which seems odd to me, but am very happy they dont really!

Spudlover · 31/12/2023 23:44

Mine went out and came home by 11. Her friends went home too. Apparently they couldn’t get in anywhere and when they did manage it, drinks were doubled. She’s now in her pyjamas eating cheese and is perfectly happy!

Gobimanchurian · 31/12/2023 23:44

3 teens here. 1 - 19yo came for family food early doors, then went to friends house.

Twins 16 came for food then went to bedrooms.

Boy seems unbothered, girl I think she feels is missing out on 'real' celebrations.l and everyone else is having a better time 🤷‍♀️

Takes all sorts is what I'm trying to say. Don't project, they're all different.

Thesearmsofmine · 31/12/2023 23:46

Mine is only 13 but is at home. I used to be massively into clubbing but never liked NYE, it’s always a bit of a let down.

MrsCarson · 31/12/2023 23:49

My 18 yo is home with me no alcohol watching Rick Astley.

BakewellFart · 31/12/2023 23:52

AllllTheQuestions · 31/12/2023 20:14

Welcome to 2023, teens aren’t the same as they were when we were kids! They aren’t interested in going out and drinking/ partying.

let her be.

Certainly not the case where I live?!

Icantbedoingwithit · 31/12/2023 23:53

All mine are home and their friends are here too. The elder ones are having a quiet drink , the younger ones watching a movie. Delightful they are all in this year. NYE can be messy when out and about.

Auntieobem · 31/12/2023 23:53

My 20 year old is having her first hogmanay away from home - she's at her bf's. End of an era.

Squidlette · 01/01/2024 00:15

Ds is 14. We've watched films. I can see him still doing this at 19,as he's v v anti social.

Had dh not been ill, I'd have been socialising my socks off.
Best nye I ever had was at 17, with my 22 yr old bf and all his mates, then walking home through the snow back to his house.

SALWARP2023 · 01/01/2024 00:32

So is my 22 year old son. Better than getting drunk in a dodgy night club. He speaks to friends online most nights and very occasionally goes out but seems happy to concentrate on his career.

raspberrybeeret · 01/01/2024 00:41

I don't think you need to feel sad for them that they're at home on New Year's Eve but if it's symptomatic of a worry that they're lonely or don't have many friends, I understand your concern.

mondaytosunday · 01/01/2024 01:00

This year yes as we are flying transatlantic, but even other years my 18 year old happy to be in with me - a movie and trying to stay up. She's not very social - one party snd she's fine fur six months. My son - he'd probably be with us too as end of holidays and as he doesn't normally live with us he doesn't have friends nearby.
As long as they are happy and not feeling like they are missing out I wouldn't be concerned at all.

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