Anyone else HATE NYE?

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I don't know if I'm a bit of a weirdo but I just find it so totally depressing. All of it. Especially Jools Holland on the telly. It seems to be celebrating the end of the holidays, going back to work and the start of the absolute WORST period of the whole entire year - Jan and Feb. Ugh.
I have a friend who finds November depressing because of SAD but likes Jan because she can see the days getting longer. I'm the opposite. November has so much to look forward to that the dark evenings seem exciting to me. January is just flat, cold, grey, broke and LONG. 😭

Sorry to hear about the recurrent MC @ANiceBigCupOfTea it will probably be refreshing for you seeing the end of 2023 for that reason at least. Does vit d actually help with SAD? I'm not sure whether I actually suffer from that or not. I think I do because I hate Jan and Feb so much. Just feel this sense of dread at the thought of them. But then I love autumn so you'd have thought if it was SAD I'd suffer then too? But there's always loads going on, and sparkly lights so it's exciting to me. Then NY is just grey and flat and cold and dark and damp 😭

This seems like a safe thread to be a miserable bugger about New Year, so here goes!

I love this idea of Nowruz. I really dislike the whole New Year thing. It’s just an arbitrary date in the middle of cold, grey, often wet days/weeks/months. All the celebrations are for what? All the wars, corruption, oppressions and various individual problems are uneffected by the change in date 🤷‍♀️ People get pissed, hysterical, slobber all over strangers and often end up in tears on the stairs 🙄 Celebrating Spring on the other hand, with longer, brighter days, so we can be out and about in nature far more, there is new birth (animals, plants etc) makes real sense to me.

Thank you ❤️
I've honestly noticed a big difference in myself this year from it.
I honestly think SAD hits us so much at this time of year rather than Autumn cos we've just had Sunmer, its all a bit novel having hot chocolate and lighting the fire and wearing cosies and then we get to now, the celebrations are all over and we are just weathering through three months of cold, wet days.

Hugh Hefner famously said that NYE. is for amateurs!

I’ve had a lot of disappointing NYE nights out over the years. I feel it took a long time to realise it wasn’t a successful formula! My best NYE’s have been at someone’s house with a small group of people or away somewhere with friends. I generally don’t look forward to it though. I quite like NY day as it feels like a fresh start & everywhere is quiet especially in London. I’m glad I don’t feel the pressure to do something nowadays.

DS1 is 15 and reminded me that he's staying over at his friend's house tonight for NYE. I joked with him that he might as well, seeing as how I'm a miserable sod at New Year! I always feel quite melancholy. Even when I was younger I wasn't keen on it. Going out meant having to climb over drunk people to get to the bar and then there was all the kissing and hugging at midnight. I used to hide in the toilets because I'm just not a touchy feely person and it's my idea of hell. And Auld Lang Syne is sad and makes me want to weep real tears. I do love the bagpipes though. Quite a lot of that here in NI.

I am so bored of this holiday, can’t wait to go back to work. The dog looks at me like ‘no more walks please’.

I spend most New Years moping that I'm not going to get to go out. For a few years we were invited to a friend's house - but an argument between my dp and another friend scuppered that some years ago.

For the last few years I've been hoping things would be a bit better next year, and generally they've got worse - for example the general election in 2019 was followed by a year which was awful on so many levels, but I'm not sure the following 3 years have been so much better.

Still, there are some things that will hopefully improve the coming year. It looks as if my dad is going to give me very substantial financial help, which would free up some money being swallowed in outstanding credit card debt and interest and I can hang on to some savings for at least another year or two - though teenage sons' higher education costs loom closer (2025 - gulp! and 2027 - gulp gulp!)

Fucking hate it

Yes. Total non event. Stop sending me happy new year gifs. Im not interested. Dont like jools holland bashing at the piano and tv has been shit.

prefer a Chinese takeout and an early night. Fireworks don’t bother me as im rural and dont hear them

November - ooh isn't it lovely to wear boot & jeans again

February- will this sadness/darkness never end?

Yes I just seem to feel really down in the dumps every year.

The whole 'new year, new me' stuff winds me up. Everyone thinks next year will be 'their year' whatever that's meant to mean. People's roundups of their year wind me up- whether positive or negative.

Then on New Year's Day I suddenly feel immense pressure to totally clean and tidy the whole house, start a diet, exercise... just makes me anxious!

Yes so much this!!

20th March just makes sense as the more obvious and natural start of the new year. The random calendar thing we have just seems inserted in a meaningless way. I don’t even think how I feel about it now is an age thing, it felt very ‘emperor's clothes’ when I was young too, like I just didn’t get it

Even when I have great years (lots of fun travel, wedding, new baby, no family deaths) I hate the whole ‘how was your year” round up on social media. All these people gushing. It’s just too much.

I never go out on NYE but I do quite like New Year's Day. It's the start of a new year.

Also it's the same people saying "they're glad to see the back of 2023" except they've been saying the same thing every year since 2012, the expectation that somehow a New Year will erase everything bad that the previous year bought, bad things happen so it's unrealistic to expect perfection...

Yep

Dh & I absolutely love NYE. Our decorations come down on January 2nd. We're ready to jump into the new year & can't wait for longer days.

I hate all of winter but start to like it a bit more after the solstice when at least the days start getting longer, although far too slowly and the weather is usually worst in Jan/ Feb. I do find new year a bit depressing, during covid with lockdown rules I stayed home and ignored it completely by necessity and actually found it much more bearable so now I do the same every year and don’t go out and don’t watch any of the new year stuff and just ignore it completely. I’m usually up until at least 1/2am when I’m off work anyway so I will stay up for it but I don’t acknowledge it at all or do anything special and that makes it feel less depressing than when I used to acknowledge it and then always felt a bit blue afterwards.

I don't mind January. Like your friend, the fact every day is that big lighter for longer a a positive thing and it's not long till half term, then not long til Easter. The winter term is such a slog especially in Scotland where it's even darker and the October break is earlier. Dc are all exhausted and overwrought by the time December comes. Agree jan is long though but next month there is no council tax to look forward to so just need to power through these few weeks.

Hate January as I always get ill (have ended.up in hospital twice over the years).

I can't stand Christmas or NY. Such an overhyped over commercialised time of the year. Love January as we can get back to normality. It's a new year, fresh and ready to do new things!