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Anyone else HATE NYE?

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Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 09:05

I don't know if I'm a bit of a weirdo but I just find it so totally depressing. All of it. Especially Jools Holland on the telly. It seems to be celebrating the end of the holidays, going back to work and the start of the absolute WORST period of the whole entire year - Jan and Feb. Ugh.
I have a friend who finds November depressing because of SAD but likes Jan because she can see the days getting longer. I'm the opposite. November has so much to look forward to that the dark evenings seem exciting to me. January is just flat, cold, grey, broke and LONG. 😭

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MenopauseSucks · 31/12/2023 11:50

Now I'm a bit 'meh' but I miss the New Years of my past.

Living near friends in London in the 1990s, we had a couple of favourite pubs. Book a table for 7pm, have dinner, dance & drink til midnight then walk home in about 20 mins!

After that, my mother had always held amazing parties & as we were all getting older & more sophisticated (!) I started to invite my friends to them.
Huge buffet of brilliant food as she was a wonderful cook & I her willing apprentice, the house still festive after Christmas. Lots of really nice wine & champagne brought by guests.
Everyone would REALLY dress up - tuxes for the men & as dressy as you liked for the women.
At midnight, going outside with sparklers to look out for fireworks. Several good singers - couple ex-opera - so Auld Lang Syne sounded magnificent.
Then the clear up - might take til 3am but good fun nonetheless.
A lot would stay, camp beds & sofas in full use. For us younger ones, it was a bit #duvetknowitsnewyearseve. .
A NYD of full English breakfast & a nice walk then all the guests would drift off.
These parties ended in 2015 with a dementia diagnosis. We had a final one when everyone brought food to help & it was a lovely evening although a lot of tears.

Now it's quiet nights, maybe people coming over but only about 4-5 not 30-40! Or visiting friends. Still a good full English breakfast & a walk on NYD.
Tonight I've got family visiting so there'll be 6 of us. Pizza/pasta. It'll be an early night as half the group are under 10.
The cat will wake me at midnight once the fireworks start & she wants to get under the duvet.

JamSandle · 31/12/2023 11:51

I'm totally unbothered by it.

DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 11:52

Me ✋🏼 I absolutely despise it.

Toddlerteaplease · 31/12/2023 11:54

I do t get the fuss. Im on nights tonight and tomorrow. And that's fine by me. My ward has a fantastic view over the city, so we'll enjoy the fireworks!

JenniferGreenHat · 31/12/2023 11:55

Growing up, NYE was always card games and a buffet with family. Such wonderful memories of my grandparents.

DH and I got married on NYE - we didn’t want a huge wedding, so tagging it onto NYE meant everyone stayed up and danced the night away anyway for New Year.

HoHoHoliday · 31/12/2023 12:00

I hate NYE but more because I hate the forced celebration that takes place at midnight. I would much prefer to celebrate on new year's day, the start of a new year. In the same way we celebrate Christmas on Christmas Day, or my birthday on the day of my birthday. Unfortunately I find no one wants to do anything with me on new year's day because they are either hungover or tired or travelling home from visiting family or having a quiet day home before going back to work.

InAMess2023 · 31/12/2023 12:03

Absolutely hate it and for years forced myself to do something 'fun'. However the last few years I've decided to just be kind to myself and have had nice food, a nice drink, good film and the usual bedtime. So this year will be pierogies, Laurent Perrier rose, Mean Girls and 930pm (although the bloody fireworks will wake me up at midnight)

I think I have reverse SAD in that I'm always happier in the winter - hate going to bed in summer while it's light outside and my furry masters demanding to be fed when it gets light at 4am. I will however say I am DREADING work on Tuesday.

HoHoHoliday · 31/12/2023 12:06

Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 09:14

Out of interest if you hate Nov and Jan which is worse for you?

I wouldn’t say I hate either, both have positive and negative for me.
November, I love the changing of the seasons so I enjoy the autumnal nature. I always enjoy an autumn equivalent of spring clean, to prepare for the winter and being cosy and comfortable. I dislike the commercialism of Christmas that begins increasingly early in November.
January, it feels a boring month because there is nothing going on, no celebrations, nothing upcoming until spring/easter, no birthdays in my circle, and everyone seems to be in a slump. But I love the new-ness of it. I enjoy the opportunity to start again, make plans, make changes. And if there is snow that's always a bonus for me.

Tonight1 · 31/12/2023 12:13

My worst NYE was when me and ex went to a hotel in a seaside town and were planning to see a band. I wanted a little catnap before we went out as I'd been working that day and he stood over me getting aggressive and screaming at me to get up.

It was only an hour's rest. That spoilt the entire night.

EmpressSoleil · 31/12/2023 12:17

Like some other pp’s, I don’t celebrate it enough to hate it. I’ll go to bed at my usual time (long before midnight). Tomorrow is just going to be a normal day, other than not working. No way would I be watching Jools Holland anyway. I was forced into it once, never again!

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Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 12:26

I think if we could sort of ignore it that would be ok. I'm sort of "forced" by family to stay up and "see in the new year" and clink glasses and have the bloody bongs on the telly. Ugh. I honestly think without all that crap I'd be fine. It's just another day (even though it's the start of Jan which is the worse month of the year by far) I just don't get the NEED to celebrate something I don't actually like. I hate being hungover, so have given up alcohol this year, so that will probably help a bit.

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DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 12:26

I will be in bed at 10 pm reading my book, just like every other day. My body likes routine, and I value sleep.

stallonesbicep · 31/12/2023 12:28

Don't like it- I live in a town where people come to party and it's always utter carnage. One year and I kid you not, I woke up on new years day, opened my front door and a woman was literally lying in the gutter in the road. I was shocked, and asked her if she was ok. She staggered up, completely ignored me and walked off. My house at the time was two doors down from a pub so I am presuming she slept there. It's just not pleasant- people get so drunk they act like idiots and there is always shouting in the street and people staggering around. I love my town but that is the one night of the year I absolutely despise it. Sorry, but that doesn't seem "fun" to me at all.

daffodilandtulip · 31/12/2023 12:34

I've woken up early today with masses of anxiety about pointless stuff (like getting meat out of the freezer and sorting the playroom out). I'm never like this but there's something about the whole "new year, new start, wasn't last year amazing" that just sets me off thinking.

InAMess2023 · 31/12/2023 12:34

@DustyLee123 I hear that! Best thing I ever did was getting into a proper sleep routine. Others think I'm mad that I still get up at 530 when not working but it's helped so much

DustyLee123 · 31/12/2023 12:36

InAMess2023 · 31/12/2023 12:34

@DustyLee123 I hear that! Best thing I ever did was getting into a proper sleep routine. Others think I'm mad that I still get up at 530 when not working but it's helped so much

I won’t be drinking either, that affects my sleep. Yet people still buy me alcohol for birthday/xmas!

OldBeyondMyYears · 31/12/2023 12:46

iamwhatiam23 · 31/12/2023 09:23

Yep i hate it......its also my birthday which makes it worse!

Ohh that's a double whammy! My cousin has her birthday on NYD and always spends it nursing a hangover from the night before. So you're spared that at least...but yeah, I feel for you. Even when I was younger I didn't enjoy the fake/forced 'happy/jolly' NYE festivities, and now that I'm a boring old 50-something, and single, I find it unbearable. I shall be in bed with earplugs by 10!

Happy birthday though 💕🍷🎂

InAMess2023 · 31/12/2023 12:46

@DustyLee123 even my favourite champagne in the fridge has lost its sparkle to be honest (not literally of course as it's still closed) - I may end up opening it on a random rainy Thursday in January at this rate!

SgtJuneAckland · 31/12/2023 12:49

It's not something we celebrate anymore, we did when younger but NYE with a 5 year old is an evening in! We will probably watch a film have a cheese/charcuterie board and wine for dinner, I will very likely be in bed before midnight, I do like that it precedes another BH though. I don't see that changing until DS is much older and we might venture out for dinner/drinks etc

OldBeyondMyYears · 31/12/2023 12:50

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 31/12/2023 09:45

I hate NY too. The last time l went out on it was the Hacienda New Years Eve party in 1988.

Im 60 now. Will go to bed at normal time.

Oh we might know each other 🤣 I'm 59 and was also at The Hacienda on NYE 1988 - it was my one and only 'nightclub NYE'. I did love the Hacienda back in the day 😍

BingoMarieHeeler · 31/12/2023 12:51

I’ve had many low key NYEs over the years and have come to the conclusion that for me that’s more depressing than celebrating. Indeed the TV is dire but not mandatory. Off to friends’ for a curry and party tonight - there will be 5 kids aged 8-1 😄

PrincessHoneysuckle · 31/12/2023 12:52

I'm always the same .But this year we've come to the seaside.Im currently having fish and chips outside then later were going out to pub then a curry before back to B&B.
Such a refreshing change.

Wintersgirl · 31/12/2023 12:55

Jeffsmeffsmiff · 31/12/2023 09:14

Out of interest if you hate Nov and Jan which is worse for you?

January for me, I'm fine once the month 'gets going' it's just the first week back to normality I find really awful..I love November because the shops start getting their sparkly bits in, some people decorate the outside of their house early which is nice to see on a dark drive home! But as for NYE I can't stand it, I wish I loved it but I don't, it basically revolves around booze and getting drunk, waiting for a taxi in the freezing cold at 1.00am, local country pubs selling tickets to get in, no it's over hyped if you ask me!

simonell · 31/12/2023 12:59

Yep I hate it or should say hated it because I completely ignore it now. Go to bed at about 11 with earphones on 😂

For me it has always been the song I can't stand auld lang syne it's just horrible and forbidding and after Christmas songs it's so depressing! It makes me want to bust into floods of tears 🙈

ANiceBigCupOfTea · 31/12/2023 13:01

I've actually faired quite a bit better this year. I normally get a massive dose of SAD every year this time but I had testing for recurrent mc this year and I was deficient in vit D so I have high strength supplements now and they've helped me massively. Don't get me wrong I still don't love Jan but I'm a lot better than my usual.